Recovering our True Self:

Recovering our True Self: The Journey Out of Our Negative States. Down through the centuries, spiritual teachers of all traditions have differentiated between our mundane, invented personality so filled with stress, and our true identity characterised by serenity, constancy, and wisdom.

Recovering our True Self: The Journey Out of Our Negative States

Down through the centuries, spiritual teachers of all traditions have differentiated between our mundane, invented personality so filled with stress, and our true identity characterised by serenity, constancy, and wisdom. They urge us to discover our inner depths and that vaster Self which enables right action in the world.

Everyone of us is meant to live with joy and compassionate outreach to the people around us. We are designed to be masters of our selves, capable of overcoming all the difficulties of life. This is our birthright, but in order to experience it, we must recognise how far we are from living in this manner, why this is so, and what efforts we must make to live in such a way. This new awareness and these efforts are the process that leads us out of our negative emotional habits in order to enter into the depths of our spiritual nature.

To recover from our ingrained habits and our subconscious imitations of parents and peers is truly spiritual warfare.  It is the narrow way that few want to travel as it requires going against the grain of our own behaviour. It is making the hard choices rather than taking the easy way as we always have. 

This process takes place in the trenches of our most ordinary interactions with the world. Authentic spiritual development takes place in that moment of irritation, that moment of unkindness, that moment of selfishness that we encounter the heat of the battle.  This inner battle determines who we are and how we live this life during our brief journey through time.

Here then are some specific methods for recovering from those toxic habits:

The first and most fundamental effort is the objective study of ourselves. Why? Because nothing real can take place until we know what we are dealing with. We cannot take for granted that we know how or why we function the way we do. If you want to operate a computer, you have to learn the software. Human beings are complex software indeed and are rarely user friendly. So tryobserving yourself from a completely neutral standpoint.

Do not judge what you see. Just see it. Observe your reactions, your attitudes, your moods and the many aspects of yourself that take charge from moment to moment. If you do this with sincerity and courage, not justifying every action and passing thought, you will begin to see yourself more objectively and initiate the awareness of the Observing Self who will be the key to your recovery.

This simple effort begins the process of creating a space within you that is not completely hypnotized by external events. Though you still react to external circumstances through ingrained habit, there is now this sliver of your Self that is not pulled out of you. A new space of inner freedom is being created along with a new sense of a deeper identity than the surface personality.

Another critical aspect of this observation is the study of our negative states. You will be amazed at how much of our time is spent under the dominance of these dark moods and thoughts. You will catch yourself grumbling about other people, feeling dejected over this or that event, complaining about the weather, resenting something somebody said. Nothing healthy can grow under the constant downpour of this acid rain within you.

Eventually, you will discover that you can free yourself from such unpleasant behaviour and states of mind. Step one is to turn off the leaking faucet: stop expressing negative emotions.

This effort is the beginning of separating yourself from them. You don’t have to accept living in those dark states. You are not them. They are bad habits acquired over a lifetime. If you want healing and joy in your life, you must stop the momentum of negativity.

One of the important things to observe about negative states is how much energy they take away from us. If you are aware of yourself before and after a moment of rage, you will see very clearly how much energy has been lost in that brief moment. We only have so much energy available to us each day, and we can use it to be healed and renewed, or we can squander it thoughtlessly.

So notice your thoughts before they plant themselves in your feelings and eventually manifest in your actions. Anger at a colleague or spouse can be caught before it has caused internal and external damage. In that more rational, detached place before the feeling has caught you by the throat, you can notice why you are angry.

What is it in you that is reacting that way? What is it in your colleague that has caused his or her behaviour which is so disturbing? Anger can then turn into compassion, or at least into a new insight about yourself or another.

After self-observation and separation from negative states comes the next all-important practice: becoming present to the moment. Experience the moment as it is, for what it is. Becoming present grounds you in reality here and now and takes you out of the tempests of imagination and inner talking that fill the mind with so much noise.

Become present not only to your surroundings, but to your body. Relax the tensions that you haven’t even noticed before: In the shoulders, in the jaws, in the stomach. Begin to experience the revitalising peace of being alive in this moment.

Those of you familiar with meditation know how helpful it is to regulate one’s breathing in order to centre oneself. Just breathing in and out slowly to ease the inner tensions is a powerful tool for nourishing your spirit in the moment. Learn to sit quietly for awhile. This is no luxury or idle behaviour.

We are so wracked with stress and worry that we cannot recover enough to get back in touch with ourselves until we are released from the grip of our anxieties. We rob ourselves of the very joy of living when we let ourselves fall into endless worry and nervous tension. Take time to let go of all that.

This daily effort teaches us to stop or at least to step back from the constant flow of thoughts that creates reality for us. This means that most of our worrying and anxious considerations fall by the wayside and we are able to rise above the clouds of our immediate concerns to the larger picture of our existence as a whole. Sometimes, however, the flood of thoughts refuses to slow no matter what we do.

Our nerves are so frayed that we cannot achieve the simple peace of looking out the window and enjoying the view without anything coming to mind. That’s when you might employ the stop exercise. In the midst of a thought or daydream, tell yourself to stop and abruptly cut short what is going on in your mind. Then relax your body and look around you, just seeing what is there. Take a vacation from the inner turmoil.

So our daily practice for recovering from a life polluted with negative emotional habits includes: objective observation of our selves, separation from negative states, quieting the mind, and becoming present to the moment. You will notice how these practices begin to take us out of our usual nervous tension and keep us from mindlessly responding to everything around us by turning a portion of our attention inward and by expanding our perspective in the moment.  We then become more than our self-centered, habitual mass of reactions.

If you apply these techniques regularly, you will soon find yourself living more frequently in that space of peace, of centeredness, of recovery from being victims of automatic reactions. Then you will find that you become capable of a serenity and acceptance of what is, of a surrender of selfishness that empowers you to help others as well as yourself.

Such a journey of emotional and psychological recovery offers us a new spiritual empowerment which enables us to accept life as it comes, even with all its complications and the capacity to act rightly in any given situation. This developing inner power creates a free human being who is no longer entangled in his or her selfishness and constant stream of fears and desires. Such a person can journey through life in peace, with wisdom and compassion. Such a person makes the world a better place.

About the Author

Ted Nottingham

Ted Nottingham is the author and translator of a dozen books, the producer of numerous televised programs, and the pastor of Northwood Christian Church in Indianapolis, Indiana.

How to stay grounded

How to stay grounded.

How to stay grounded

As a clairvoyant and healer, I understand the importance of grounding myself on a regular basis. When you possess the ability read energy from a higher conscious place, it’s so easy for your soul to automatically transition into Spirit. In other words, you want to be in the place where you are channelling energy. Yet, we live on Earth so we must remain present here in our daily lives.

So what are the symptoms of not being grounded? Here are just a few that you might identify with:

  • Feeling like your head is in the clouds
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Forgetting things often
  • Losing track of time
  • Not living in the Present.
  • Feeling constantly in worry mode
  • Being accident prone
  • Frequent mood swings.
  • Avoiding life by excessively sleeping, reading, video games, drinking, TV etc..
  • Feeling drained by other people

Here are a few tips that will keep you grounded, and make you feel like you’re on planet Earth once again:

Complete a Grounding Exercise

When you wake up every morning, place your feet on the ground, and imagine the roots of a tree, wrapping around the tops of your feet and going to the center of the core of the earth. You may also repeat this several times a day or simply say the words “Grounded” out loud or in your mind. My feet always tingle when I do this.

Eat earthy foods.

Avoid processed foods whenever possible eat whole grains, vegetable proteins such as legumes, root vegetables, minerals like calcium and iron., and red coloured foods that activate your root chakra.

Breathe!

This may be obvious but so many people hold their breath when they are stressed out. Take several time a day to take several deep breaths, and allow the oxygen to flow into every cell of your body. You will feel revived and refreshed.

Take a Hot Bath or Shower.

After an emotionally draining day, take a hot bath and sprinkle some epsom salts. Water itself is purifying and the sea salts work to detoxify all of the accumulated negative energies that you have gathered throughout your day. Always rinse the salt off of your body before you get out. If you are showering, sprinkle some epsom salts onto your lufa, and imagine all of the negative energy going down the drain.

Be with Nature

Nature is one of the most powerful healing agents in the world. Spend time with the forest, ocean, rivers and mountain peaks. Nature’s energy is incredibly healing. Have you ever leaned up against a tree and felt the energy of the tree healing you? Mother Nature has the ability to repair the cells in your body. It’s such a gift and it’s right outside your door!

Extra Tip: For an even stronger grounding and healing connection to the Earth, take your shoes and socks off.

Remember that we all need to stay grounded in order to live a happy and productive life.

Maxine Friend – About the Author:

Voted as most popular clairvoyant in Vancouver, Maxine dedicated much of her time and energy to noteworthy causes.

Maxine is a member of the Canadian Association of Psychics, and is also an active member of the Scleroderma Association of British Columbia. Maxine is a level II Certified Reiki practitioner; specializing in Usui Reiki Ryoho. In her spare time, Maxine mentors other developing clairvoyants.

2012…. Don’t be afraid to ask WHY!

2012.... Don't be afraid to ask WHY! Why do we exist?

2012…. Don’t be afraid to ask WHY!

From the black Eames chair that I have sat in as a therapist for well over 10,000 hours, 2012 parades forth as the catalyst humans need to jar them from their slumber.  Blessings to the Mayans for their implantation of an alarm bell into the future collective consciousness of humanity.

Whether they have predicted the end of times, the beginning of a new spiritual era or nothing at all, we should not delay the existential question most everyone avoids in order to focus on thoughts that keep their self-concept and lives in tact.  Now, let’s ask:

Why do you exist?

Unfortunately for my hapless parents and tolerant friends, I have asked myself this question dozens of times a day from far (far) too young an age.  I ask this question of others for a living and when bored at social gatherings to receive countless blank stares accompanied by the white noise emitted from their overloaded machinery.

The majority’s momentum requires you not ask this basic question.  Life, like molasses, tastes dense and yummy, sucks you in and dumps you into a sugar coma.  Satiated with daily routine and dramatic life turns that we blame on others, life drips by drop by drop.

Why do you exist?

It’s not a scary question, yet 99.9% of humanity waits until they’re ill, on their deathbed or not even then to wonder what we’re doing here. Ask when you’re young, lucid, in good health, still have choices, before you procreate, marry and divorce.

This year, the Mayans dare us to consider the purpose of our existence before it’s too late. We may never know whether their assertion/prediction/invitation is real or not. Yet, we can use it as a tool to recover the inquiry that remains buried under the debris of our lives, beating a rhythm deep in our hearts.  Even as we run from errand to errand, job to home, job at home, laundry, market, dishes, Monday to Friday and Sunday night, again too soon, it’s within us awaiting our attention.

No one wants us to ask.   The world is against it, because the “Why?” contradicts society’s celebrated accomplishments and journeys. Measure, know and scour the material and anti-material energy that comprises everything outside of you to define you, others and your life’s value.

Revered as one of the greatest minds of our time, Steven Hawking’s work wholly concerns itself with the measurement and definition of the endless, unknowable outermost-reaches of the external world.  No human will ever be able to confirm his life’s work.

NASA and its Kepler telescope seek to locate habitable, Earth-like planets.  They’ve discovered numerous, though none of us will ever visit any of them.  Millions of dollars and endless Earth resources spent searching for nothing knowable and incomprehensible to most. Despite my best efforts, I cannot fathom its relevance to any moment of my life.

Our only certainty lives alone, enclosed within our minds, through our perceptions, memories, hopes and moments. Yet we hold our certain truth against the structure and rules that we instructed are real, what society exalts, what we can define and measure.

We stay imprisoned for fear of ridicule and the potential destruction of our relationships and the lives we know.  We live as if a single phone call or a moment in time will not provide the definitive push needed to consider the reason for our existence.

As I write this, my beloved friend approaches death in hospice annoyed that her friends and family are making her transition about themselves. Goodbyes said last week, her room filled with ipads and twitter tweets. She says nothing because she still doesn’t want to upset anyone.  Who cares? They are upset and will be upset any way.

It doesn’t have to be that dramatic if you start today.  Telling yourself that what you do, who you marry, what others think of you defines you or your existence creates a life filled with anxiety, fear and a primal terror.

Countless times I asked friends and clients to strip down what they fear most and have heard:

“People finding out.”

“Finding out what?”

“That I’m not who they think I am.”

Why are we taught to care what others think of us? The prison of societal expectation, real or fabricated, becomes a dangerous shelter in our life, on our way to death.

Solar flares illuminate the atmosphere and reveal the Northern Lights. Under their brightness, take a moment and allow yourself to wonder why you exist in this form, your specific body, with your talents, at this time, where you live. Why?

Dump the Western Psychotherapeutic inquiry of “Who are you?” for “Why are you here, as you, right now?”  The latter inquiry subsumes the former and gives it intention and purpose.

Why we exist includes an other, whether a person, a cause, a purpose that pushes us forward in our development.  It doesn’t need to earn you an Oscar, a spot in the NBA or a billion dollars.  If you feel compelled to love the 100 year-old oak tree outside your house, then exist for that tree.

There is no wrong answer.

No one needs to know.  It can be your secret inquiry.  Too much of mass culture has mocked the question and killed it before its birth.  Humans evolved to need another’s enthusiastic waves of proverbial pompons to ratify action or thought.  We don’t need it.  Ask what brings you your specific joy and, in time, acting upon it will provide comfort and celebration.

My inquiry led me to what lies in the depth, if not the breadth, of this life.  For me, the action which resulted is to give good love.  A consistent, open, humorous and real support that allows others to flourish and live more out loud and less alone in this ever-expanding universe than without my presence.  I exist to love and believe all of us do.

Love that tree, your neighbor, your garden, lost cats, singing, your children, the Dali Lama, baking, Jesus Christ, travel, Bill Maher, little league baseball, cashmere sweaters or medical research.  It doesn’t matter, if you grow from it.

Last Sunday, seven hours of playoff football on television was the best way I knew how to love myself, which allowed me to love others the next day.

Stay focused on the question. 

After you ask and ask, time no longer speeds passed you.  Monday feels like a week, filled with ebbs, flows, joy, stillness, stress, anger and nothing.  All in one day.  No one wants to live a life they don’t remember living.

Dare yourself to ask the question often.  Don’t require action. Your inquiry will lead you step by step.

Somehow the action or the “do” finds you if you stick to the question, give yourself time to answer and accept the answer.  The action doesn’t have to be vast, glamorous or even profitable.  I doubt we get points over there for any of that. We’re created in these individual bodies to discover what lies within, not outside of it.

 

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Mala Mukherji – About the Author:

 

Bio of Mala Mukherji

Born in Los Angeles, California to parents, who immigrated from Calcutta, India, Mala Mukherji began studying the differences between Indian and American cultures from an early age.  Frequent and early trips to India and being raised in Covina, a homogeneous suburb of Los Angeles created the perfect climate for Mala’s future pursuits.

While attending the University of California at Los Angeles, she studied the psychological and sociological impacts of the politics and histories of numerous cultures.  After receiving her degree from U.C.L.A., she attended Pepperdine University School of Law, where she concentrated on issues relating to individual rights.  After passing the California State Bar Examination, Mala practiced law in the Los Angeles area for over eight years.

Throughout her law career, Mala studied and explored Western psychological theory and Eastern philosophy and their practical application to the individual’s experiences.  As a result of those studies, Mala left law practice and created a modality of spiritual psychological therapy, which combines Eastern and Western theory.  She has maintained a thriving therapeutic practice for the past eleven years.  Her clients include numerous leaders in the areas of sports, business and entertainment.

Having worked as a therapist for eleven years and over  10,000 thousand hours, Mala researched and discovered what allows and motivates individuals to grow.  Because not everyone has the resources to partake in therapy, she wrote ASHES, which provides women and men a vehicle by which they may consider the events of their life and how those events effect them in present day.

Mother Nature, Mother Earth , Tragedies.

Just look at the tragedies that are happening Japans Earthquake being one of them.

Mother Nature, Mother Earth . . . terms we use so frequently, but do we fully understand and embrace the meaning behind these words . .

Earth is a very important part of our lives. Most of us wouldn’t think of polluting our bodies would we?, yet we are polluting our planet by misuse and overuse of our natural resources. As responsible individuals we should at least do what we can to help reduce, reuse, and recycle what we can as a first step.

We are not completely to blame; we inherited a polluted Earth, but we can do something to ensure that our children can grow up in a cleaner, safer planet than ourselves. Don’t ever let someone get away with saying “what can I do, I am only one person”. Each and every person can do a lot, and you can influence others to do something as well.

I  want to try something new there are thousands of people that visit this site but yet very rarely leave a comment which is a shame as the more comments and views put forwards the more inspiring or interesting it can get.

Instead of me putting a row of tips on what we can do to help make mother earth a better and safer planet…. Iwant to ask “you the viewers” to leave a tip of your own in the comment box about what we could do to help our planet so other viewers can also read and be inspired… it would be bitterly disappointing to see no comments at all. So anyone that does leave a posting wow for caring about our planet and wow for taking part.

Positivity is free here for the taking, inspiration awaits only to be recognized and confidence is always encouraged, You are safe to like or comment anything on these page’s without the worry of getting judged that’s why this blog was created only for people who are inspired to do better and move forwards through life and help others I look forward to hearing from you with thanks.

Written by Joanne Wellington for Mediums World
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Start This Day To Create A Better World – Guidance from Eileen Caddy

Start this day to create a better world around you by all that you do, say and think and really enjoy it all to the full. Life is there to be enjoyed and every day should be full to overflowing with all the good things in life. Expect the best and accept only the best. You have been told this many times, and yet many of you are still content to accept second best either because you feel you are unworthy to receive the best or you are just too lazy to raise your consciousness until you visualise the very best and then hold the very best in your consciousness until it manifests in form. This is where you have to put into practice that lesson of patience, persistence and perseverance and see it work out.

 

One of the co-founders of the Findhorn Community, Eileen Caddy, received guidance from the “still voice within” and shared it with others in the community for more than 40 years.  For more information go to: www.findhorn.org