Connect with Your Ultimate Self.

The Ultimate Cause of Everything: Connect with Your Ultimate Self

The Ultimate Cause of Everything: Connect with Your Ultimate Self

Connect with Your Ultimate Self.

When looking at causation, we need to ask: What causes things? What is the ultimate cause of everything? By taking a look at the universe we can see that everything is interlinked at such a level that we can’t help but wonder if anything really can happen. We need to understand that it’s up to the universe to make things happen. The entire universe needs to conspire to cause them to happen.

There’s this wonderful saying that I like: “When I pull a blade of grass, the entire universe shakes.” Scientists and philosophers around the world will agree with and validate the fact that things are interconnected. Everything is interlinked even at microscopic level. But all this causality and interlinking occurs in space and time. When it comes to enlightenment, what we’re talking about is that which is before, beyond and transcends space and time. In this realm, this realm beyond description, there is no causality. Everything and the world just is, because it is. There is no cause and everything has no cause.

Often I compare this analogy to water or the vast ocean. The ocean can take various shapes. It can transform itself into ice cubes that are magnificent, beautiful universes shaped out of ice. Or, it can transform into steam, becoming beautiful, wonderful heavens and hells created out of steam. But ultimately, everything that is created comes out of an ocean. It is a vast, infinite ocean that always was and always will be. Our minds, on the other hand, are part of the space-time continuum. Concepts and theories lie because they seek causation but they’re part of a change. That which is permanent, however, does not change. The ocean which we are is, always has been and always will be.

The universe that we live in now isn’t caused; it just is. All there exists is this vast ocean of consciousness that’s ultimately all it can be. We perceive change and differences because of space and time. But the ultimate reality of who or what we are is this vast ocean of awareness, universes, gods, religion, that are all created out of this oneness. It is this non-dual, non-causal, ultimate reality of who we are.

When we relax we let the mind be still. We connect with that ultimate, true self of who we are by quieting the mind. By just being, there is a connection and we awaken to who we are. It is called enlightenment but it is an awakening to our true self. It is waking up to our ocean, our infinite, everlasting state that is beyond concepts and is who we are.

This is where causality ceases and we just be. When we let go of all our concepts – life, death, self, non-self – and we just be, we enter the ultimate reality: that which always is, and always has been.  We awaken to enlightenment. When our minds are still, absolutely still, we wake up to who we are and what we find is that we are no more. What we are is infinite. The small “I” exists no more. Again, it’s like the ice cube melting and realizing “Ah! I’m not an ice cube, I’m an ocean. I always have been and I always will be. I’ve never really ultimately been an ice cube. I’m the ultimate, true, infinite self. Wow!”

The problem is that we often get caught into thinking “Ah! I’m an ice cube. The universe is an ice cube. It’s real. It’s tangible.” But guess what? It will melt away. Someday everything will be gone except for that which always has been and always will be. Be that. You and I are that.

When we wake up to this true, infinite self of who we are, then we relax and are at peace. All is well because we realize that we don’t have to fear anything or desire anything. Everything is and we are that.
Be that and stop identifying with every label you give; there is no more “I” in this state. There just is, without causation.

– About the Author:

Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist, author, international speaker, and meditation expert who has been counselling individuals, families, non-profits, and businesses for over twenty years.  A contributing writer to Psychology Today, he has authored numerous books and creates a weekly podcast on spiritual enlightenment, http://www.EnlightenmentPodcast.com   If you are interested in having Dr. Puff speak to your organization or company, you can learn more about his speaking services at http://www.SuccessBeyondYourImagination.com

Finding “self” the first true path to mediumship

There is a lot more to mediumship than is sometimes explained or realised. The first step should be to get to know & understand your “true self”. To understand YOU means exploring your own true feeling towards life, your emotions/feelings, past experiences, mistakes you have made and your own personal philosophy on life. This is only a brief guide towards finding “self” but in my opinion (and it is only mine) finding and understanding “self” is one of the most important foundations of mediumship.  True mediumship is not all about passing messages from spirit sometimes people refer to you for guidance and understanding, for support, a shoulder to cry on. How can we truly understand the messages, the emotions, the love, the guidance from spirit or “be there” for people this side of life who need our love comfort and support, unless we understand and know “our true self”.

I have posted and article below from wikiHow as a guide and reference for you… I hope it helps… The path to finding self is not and easy one and it’s “on-going”… it never stops… good luck on your journey…

How to find Yourself

Finding yourself is an enlightening experience. You become self-sufficient and do things for others without expectations of something in return. You are no longer needy and become utterly grateful for all the things people have done for you in the past. Finding yourself is a time of harmony because you develop that philosophy or belief system that will carry you throughout the rest of your life. When you love yourself and who you are, you will savor and enjoy both life’s pain and pleasures. How do you know you have found yourself? When you are able to help others find themselves. Finding yourself is not easy. If you have never felt connected to who you are, and you want to find whatever makes you you, being yourself will be hard. The first step is always the hardest, but after that hill, you will be smooth sailing to discovering who you are.

Create your life timeline. Write down all of your major goals in your life that you feel will affect you and will make you who you are. Also, remember all your mistakes and take away the postive learning experience . Don’t dwell on negative experiences but realize that if it had not been for those past experiences you would not be where or who you are today.

  1. Start with a clean slate. Develop your own moral conduct and practice sticking to it. Remove vice from your life. Smoking, over-eating, and over-drinking will prevent you from functioning at your peak. This may take some major rehabilitation for some individuals. Remember, you can’t drive your life forward if you are always gazing through your rear-view mirror!
  2. Now that you have a clean slate and you realize some people still think you stink: Forget about what everyone else thinks! You cannot please everyone. While you might not want to disappoint the people close to you, they should want you to be happy. As long as you continue to exist to fulfill other people’s ideas of who you should be, you’ll never know your true talents. “He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away.” – Raymond Hull
  3. ‘Find solitude’. Get away from the expectations, the conversations, the noise, the media, and the pressure. Take some time each day to go for a long walk and think. Plant yourself on a park bench and look. Take a long, thoughtful road trip. Whatever you do, move away from anything that distracts you from contemplating your life and where you want it to go. In solitude, you should feel independent and self-sufficient, not lonely, needy or afraid.
  4. Ask yourself every question in the book, questions that are difficult, that dare to look at the big pictures, such as:
    • If I had all the resources in the world – if I didn’t need to make money – what would I be doing with my day to day life and why? Perhaps you’d be painting, or writing, or farming, or exploring the Amazon rain forest. Don’t hold back.
    • What do I want to look back on in my life and say that I never regretted? Would you regret never having travelled abroad? Would you regret never having asked that person out, even if it meant risking rejection? Would you regret not spending enough time with your family when you could? This question can be particularly difficult for some people.
    • If you had to choose three words to describe the kind of person you’d love to be, what would those words be? Adventurous? Loving? Open? Honest? Hilarious? Optimistic? Realistic? Motivated? Resilient? Don’t be afraid to pick up a thesaurus. Don’t be afraid to choose words that are considered negative. Sometimes your traits that others don’t like become useful only in emergency situations or are valuable to the job you are meant to perform. If you do have a truly negative trait work on redirecting that energy to something positive. Exercising compensates for many bad habits and there are hobbies for almost every vice. Pole dancing is becoming a hobby! Don’t wash your clothes much? Try camping. Maybe you’ll like it?

Write down your answers.

Beyond your time alone, it’s easy for these thoughts to slip to the back of your mind and be forgotten. If you have them written down, then every time you reflect, you can review your notes and take it a step further, instead of answering the same questions all over again.

Act upon your newly discovered knowledge.

Do the things that you want to do! Pick up those water-colors. Write a short story. Plan a trip to Mombasa, Mt Kenya, a walk at Nairobi Safari Walk. Have dinner with a family member. Start cracking jokes. Open up. Tell the truth. Whatever it is that you’ve decided you want to be or do, start being and doing it now.

Be ready for dead ends.

Finding yourself is a journey, not a destination. A lot of it is trial and error. That’s the price you pay in return for the satisfaction you receive: More often than not, you hit a bump in the road, and sometimes you fall flat on your face. Be prepared to understand and accept that this is a part of the process, and commit to getting right back up and starting over. It’s not going to be easy – it never has been for anybody – but if you learn to see that as a chance to prove how much you want to find yourself, then you’ll find fulfillment and security in your pursuit. When you are yourself, everyone will respect you more and treat you kindly. Best of all, you will always feel good about yourself.

Tips

  • You’re never as bad or as good as people say.
  • Resist the urge to feel like you’re the only one going through this:All my life I had been looking for something, and everywhere I turned someone tried to tell me what it was. I accepted their answers too, though they were often in contradiction and even self-contradictory. I was naive. I was looking for myself and asking everyone except myself questions which I, and only I, could answer. It took me a long time and much painful boomeranging of my expectations to achieve a realization everyone else appears to have been born with: that I am nobody but myself. ~ Ralph Ellison, “Invisible Man”
  • Be yourself and make sure no one influences who you are. It will make finding yourself even harder since people are influencing who you think you are.
  • Don’t be afraid to sleep on it. There’s no hurry in making decisions, and you’ll be more likely to make good ones if your mind is calm and rested.
  • Be forgiving and learn to let go.

Warnings

  • Don’t spread bad gossip or otherwise speak ill about other people. Knocking others down is not the path to self-knowledge. It only compromises your dignity as a human being and makes others dislike you.
  • Do not let others decide for you what you are destined to do. Their path may not be the correct path for you. What works for one person may not work for the next.
  • Don’t lie to yourself and try to be someone you are not. Remember this is about being yourself. As it is important to not let family members decide, it is also important not to let society and the media push you in a certain direction, especially when it comes to your physical appearance.
  • Don’t let yourself get caught up in a habit of constantly changing who you are or how you act just to fit in.
  • Don’t feel you have to prove your worth to the world.
  • Be careful, you might not immediately like who you find.
  • Don’t over analyze everything! Don’t think about how you should act– just be yourself and the rest will come.

Ego – The False Centre

The ego is not individual. Ego is a social phenomenon - it is society, its not you. But it gives you a function in the society, a hierarchy in the society.

Ego – The False Centre

The ego is not individual. Ego is a social phenomenon – it is society, its not you. But it gives you a function in the society, a hierarchy in the society. And if you remain satisfied with it, you will miss the whole opportunity of finding the self.

And that’s why you are so miserable.

With a plastic life, how can you be happy?

With a false life, how can you be ecstatic and blissful? And then this ego creates many miseries, millions of them.

You cannot see, because it is your own darkness. You are attuned to it.

Have you ever noticed that all types of miseries enter through the ego? It cannot make you blissful; it can only make you miserable.

Ego is hell.

Whenever you suffer, just try to watch and analyze, and you will find, somewhere the ego is the cause of it. And the ego goes on finding causes to suffer.

You are an egoist, as everyone is. Some are very gross, just on the surface, and they are not so difficult. Some are very subtle, deep down, and they are the real problems.

This ego comes continuously in conflict with others because every ego is so unconfident about itself. Is has to be – it is a false thing. When you don’t have anything in your hand and you just think that something is there, then there will be a problem.

If somebody says, “There is nothing,” immediately the fight will start, because you also feel that there is nothing. The other makes you aware of the fact.

Ego is false, it is nothing.

That you also know.

How can you miss knowing it? It is impossible! A conscious being – how can he miss knowing that this ego is just false? And then others say that there is nothing – and whenever the others say that there is nothing they hit a wound, they say a truth – and nothing hits like the truth.

You have to defend, because if you don’t defend, if you don’t become defensive, then where will you be?

You will be lost.

The identity will be broken.

So you have to defend and fight – that is the clash.

A man who attains to the self is never in any clash. Others may come and clash with him, but he is never in clash with anybody.

It happened that one Zen master was passing through a street. A man came running and hit him hard. The master fell down. Then he got up and started to walk in the same direction in which he was going before, not even looking back.

A disciple was with the master. He was simply shocked. He said, “Who is this man? What is this? If one lives in such a way, then anybody can come and kill you. And you have not even looked at that person, who he is, and why he did it.” The master said, “That is his problem, not mine.”

You can clash with an enlightened man, but that is your problem, not his. And if you are hurt in that clash, that too is your own problem. He cannot hurt you. And it is like knocking against a wall – you will be hurt, but the wall has not hurt you.

The ego is always looking for some trouble. Why? Because if nobody pays attention to you, the ego feels hungry. It lives on attention.

So even if somebody is fighting and angry with you, that too is good because at least the attention is paid. If somebody loves, it is okay. If somebody is not loving you, then even anger will be good. At least the attention will come to you. But if nobody is paying any attention to you, nobody thinks that you are somebody important, significant, then how will you feed your ego?

Other’s attention is needed.

In millions of ways you attract the attention of others; you dress in a certain way, you try to look beautiful, you behave, you become very polite, you change. When you feel what type of situation is there, you immediately change so that people pay attention to you.

This is a deep begging.

A real beggar is one who asks for and demands attention. And a real emperor is one who lives in himself; he has a center of his own, he doesn’t depend on anybody else.

Buddha sitting under his bodhi tree…if the whole world suddenly disappears, will it make any difference to Buddha? – none. It will not make any difference at all. If the whole world disappears, it will not make any difference because he has attained to the centre.

But you, if the wife escapes, divorces you, goes to somebody else, you are completely shattered – because she had been paying attention to you, caring, loving, moving around you, helping you to feel that you were somebody. Your whole empire is lost, you are simply shattered. You start thinking about suicide. Why? Why, if a wife leaves you, should you commit suicide? Why, if a husband leaves you, should you commit suicide? Because you don’t have any center of your own. The wife was giving you the center; the husband was giving you the center.

This is how people exist. This is how people become dependent on others. It is a deep slavery. Ego HAS to be a slave. It depends on others. And only a person who has no ego is for the first time a master; he is no longer a slave. Try to understand this.

And start looking for the ego – not in others, that is not your business, but in yourself. Whenever you feel miserable, immediately close you eyes and try to find out from where the misery is coming and you will always find it is the false center which has clashed with someone.

From Beyond the Frontier of the Mind by Osho

danger…

Written by Joanne Wellington

One of the greatest dangers in the field of personal development and self help is to believe that someone other than “you” yourself has the answer to YOUR happiness, enlightenment and freedom…