Overcoming Nonstop Thinking

Overcoming Nonstop Thinking. Are you aware that your mind is always occupied with thoughts? Are you aware that thoughts constantly demand your attention, dictate your behaviour and reactions?
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Overcoming Nonstop Thinking

Are you aware that your mind is always occupied with thoughts? Are you aware that thoughts constantly demand your attention, dictate your behaviour and reactions?

Do you sometimes feel that your mind is going to explode from nonstop thinking? Can you focus your attention on what you are doing at any moment, or are you constantly distracted by all kinds of thoughts, negative thinking or negative expectations? You need to learn to overcome your nonstop thinking in order to gain control over your attention.

Do you sometimes wish your mind could just stop thinking for a little while, and let you enjoy some rest and peace? Like an engine, it has to rest to avoid wear and tear. It needs some rest from time to time, in order to recharge itself and your body.

The mind often looks like a cluttered room, with no free space and no place to move. When you empty your room it will look bigger and tidied, and it will be more pleasant to be there. So it is with your mind. Remove the clutter – the unnecessary thoughts, the worries and the fears, and your life would look happier and brighter.

You are probably not constantly aware of the restlessness of your mind, because this became a habit and you got accustomed to it, yet, thoughts keep coming and going, occupying your mind every moment of the day, spending up mental and emotional energy, and sometimes making your head ache.

Tension, strain and pressure at work and at home make the mind even more restless, and attract more thoughts into it. Problems, difficulties, fears, worries and hurt feelings increase even more the mental restlessness and lack of inner peace, making you more acutely aware of the swarm of thoughts coming into your mind and making you feel helpless. It is during such times that you desperately feel the need for inner peace and freedom endless thinking.

When you need to focus your attention, study or meditate, you are again confronted with thoughts that swarm into your mind, disturbing and distracting your attention. This also happens when you are worried, angry or emotionally excited. You feel unable to stop the flow of thoughts and emotions that prevent clear thinking, calmness or self-control.

During such times you just want to scream at the mind to stop thinking. You feel that your mind has broken any control and barriers, and that it is working on its own, sometimes to your detriment. It is like being helpless in a rudderless boat in the midst of the ocean, and all you want is some steady and safe land.

It is in times of worry, stress, fear and strain that inner peace of mind is greatly desired and appreciated. Actually, inner peace and freedom from restless and incessant thinking is a great boon anytime and everywhere. It makes you happier, stronger, more confident and happy.

Imagine how it would be to live your life, work, interact with people, read, watch TV, travel or do anything else, without thoughts and worries claiming your attention. Just think how your concentration would become stronger and your five senses sharper! Just imagine how your understanding, comprehension, awareness and intuition will increase!

You need mental and emotional training, in order to overcome nonstop thinking and free yourself the compulsion, and it is a compulsion, to think incessantly and involuntary, and fill your mind with thoughts that weaken you and distract your attention. You also need to develop some degree of inner detachment and mastery over your mind.

There are no short cuts to overcoming nonstop thinking and lack of inner peace. The aim is not to stunt your mind through hypnosis or subliminal programming, but to gain real inner peace, which you can enjoy while staying active, pursuing your goals, and while handling more efficiently and peacefully your daily affairs of life.

Everything worth having requires work and effort. You cannot become a pilot, an Olympic champion or an engineer by listening to a CD, hypnotizing yourself or saying some magic words. Developing inner abilities, such as calming down your mind, is no different.

Here are a few simple things that can help you:

Reduce the amount of time you read the newspapers or watch the news on TV.

Stay away from negative conversations and from negative people.

Don’t hold grudges. Learn to forget and forgive. Nurturing ill feelings and grievances hurts you and causes lack of sleep.

Don’t be jealous of others. Being jealous means that you have low self-esteem and consider yourself inferior to others. Jealousy and low self-esteem, often lead to lack of inner peace.

Accept what cannot be changed. This saves a lot of time, energy and worries.

Every day we face numerous inconveniences, irritations and situations that are beyond our control. If we can change them, that’s fine, but this is not always possible. We must learn to put up with such things and accept them cheerfully.

Learn to be more patient and tolerant with people and events.

Don’t take everything too personally. Some emotional and mental detachment is desirable. Try to view your life and other people with a little detachment and less involvement. Detachment is not indifference, lack of interest or coldness. It is the ability to think and judge impartially and logically. Don’t worry if again and again you fail to manifest detachment. Just keep trying.

Let bygones be gone. Forget the past and concentrate on the present moment. There is no need to evoke unpleasant memories and immerse yourself in them.

Practice some concentration exercises. This will help you to reject unpleasant thoughts and worries that steal away your peace of mind.

Learn to practice meditation. Even a few minutes a day will make a change in your life.

Inner peace ultimately leads to external peace. By creating peace in our inner world, we bring it into the external world, affecting other people too.

Written by Remez Sasson
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Remez Sasson teaches and writes on positive thinking, creative visualization, motivation, self-improvement, peace of mind, spiritual growth and meditation. He is the author of several books, among which are “Peace of mind in Daily Life”, “Will Power and Self Discipline”, “Visualize and Achieve” and “Affirmations – Words of Power”.

Visit his website and find articles and books filled with inspiration, motivation and practical advice and guidance.
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What is Self-respect and How Does it Relate to Self-esteem?

The terms “self-esteem” and “self-respect” may seem at first glance very similar, if not exactly the same. But they are indeed very different things and have very different consequences, especially when cultivated at a young age.

i-amPsychiatrists, psychologists, counselors and other experts for years have encouraged parents and teachers to cultivate self-esteem in kids. About thirty years ago, it became very popular among child experts to tout self-esteem as the solution to all our children’s problems. We’ve heard it a million times—high self-esteem is good, low self-esteem is bad. But what does this really mean and what effect does it have in the long-term?

Self-esteem means simply thinking highly of one’s self. Many parents, teachers and psychologists feel that by showering a child with praise, he or she will grow up with a positive attitude and confidence. But often self-esteem that is left unchecked can develop into destructive behavior: thinking less of others, un-gratefulness, arrogance, cockiness. The pursuit of self-esteem can become, as described by family psychologist and parenting expert John Rosemond, “an excuse to do your own thing—regardless of whether or not the “thing” in question is anti-social—and quickly mutate[s] into self-worship.”

Self-respect, on the other hand, is a mindset that allows us to become grateful, humble and well-adjusted. Self-respect encompasses respect not just of ourselves, but also of others. In fact, by respecting our fellow humans we can learn to respect ourselves more. When we have self-respect, we love ourselves but do not become arrogant or cocky. As Rosemond puts it, “A person growing in self-respect understands that he is an imperfect being who was given the gift of life in order to serve.”

Self-respect is akin to the Golden Rule: in order to receive respect and learn to respect ourselves, we must learn to give respect to others. And while having confidence is not a bad thing, people who are over-confident (and who are often seen as arrogant) haven’t learned this principle—that in order to get respect from others and from ourselves, we must first learn to give.

Self-respect is gained “not by being told how wonderful you are,” Rosemond writes. “But by developing respect for others.”

As you’ve probably experienced, people who have grown up being told how great they are usually aren’t very fun to be around and don’t make very good friends. But people who have been taught to take an interest in and care about others while maintaining a positive attitude about themselves tend to be the type of interesting people with whom we enjoy spending time.

By encouraging our children’s individuality and growth by teaching them to be confident yet humble and respectful, we can help them become adults who have healthy, stable relationships and friendships, and respect for themselves and others.

Mark Arens – About the Author:

Help your children to gain self-respect by taking one step at a time. One way to accomplish this is to help your child set goals.

Believe in yourself to bring change

If you take your eyes off your goals, all you see are  obstacles.”

“…You need to believe that you can affect circumstances and situations in  your life in order to have the confidence and courage you’ll need to meet the  many challenges you face.”
Cheryl Saban

imagine believe achieveNo one will believe in you until you believe in yourself. Create your own  life and then go out and live it. Self  confidence often becomes contagious and others will follow in your foot  steps. As we get better, so do others.

Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a  winner and a great individual and believe in yourself, Self-esteem is described  as confidence in one’s own worth or abilities, and pertains to a personal  appraisal of ourselves. Yet, unfortunately, we often make this evaluation based  on cues we receive from society. In other words, we look to others to establish  who we are, how we should behave, and how we’re valued, even though this  societal reflection won’t be an accurate indicator of what we are made of.

Trying to measure up to a dominant mindset, antiquated cultural rules,  or stigmatizing stereotypes that don’t serve you well isn’t the best plan. Using  such subjective measuring devices may also explain why you don’t always feel  like a good fit. Bottom line, try not to rely totally on the outside world to  validate you. A better option is to equalize the playing field by believing in,  and validating yourself.

Remember that your body is a temple, and you are a treasure. You are unique,  precious, and one-of-a-kind. Believe that you have a right to be here; that you  are worth the effort of saving, educating, healing, playing with, working with,  loving, and sharing a lifetime with.
Say the following words like a mantra. “I believe I am worth believing in.” Say  these words every day. You’ll be amazed how the universe will contrive to make  it so.

Changes in life are inevitable. One who accepts them and changes with them is  the one who succeeds in life. There are instances in life when everything gets  blocked and you find yourself helpless. In such a situation one who accepts it  and tries to fight out new ways to overcome the situation emerges in flying  colors. One who thinks that such a change has in fact left him to do nothing,  can do nothing but brood over his misfortune. Working in new directions helps  one find light.

Changes make life challenging and without a challenge life is boring. It is  also very important to notice small changes early so that you can adapt to  bigger changes easily. It is better to try new things than remain in a hopeless  situation. Old beliefs do not lead you to new  ideas. Hence, it is necessary to change. If change is anticipated,  monitored, and quickly adapted to, then it becomes enjoyable as well. Some  changes are harder then others no matter how you think you have prepared  yourself and as you grow older and wiser, it does seem easier. Accepting  ‘change’ allows us to grow and if we don’t grow we don’t really live. Change is  important, as nothing in this world is  permanent. However, change must be well managed in order to have a good  effect.

BERNARD  KOFI TURKSON –    About the Author:


Energy Imbalance And Negative Emotions

We are living in a world, which is complex and forever changing. As such, our  personality is also a complex and changing component of who we are and how we  cope with our problems.

bodyenergyFor thousands of years, the Chinese have believed that the human body is  dominated by the presence of “qi”, which is internal life  energy. Based on the concept of balance between “yin” and “yang”, the  Chinese also believe that energy imbalance or imbalance of internal life energy  can be attributed to different negative emotions experienced in life.

If a person experiences negative emotions of guilt, the energy imbalance may  change the personality, making that person become manipulative or prone to  blaming others.

Energy imbalance due to negative emotions of grief and sorrow over an extended period of time may cause a person to  become depressed or to resign to the perception of failure in life.

Traumatic life experiences, such as sexual abuse, or even physical  imperfections, can lead to energy imbalance that can cause negative emotions of  shame and low self-esteem with devastating effects, such as difficulties in  self-acceptance or self-sabotaging behaviors, such as drug abuse or  alcoholism.


Fear, due to energy imbalance, is more often than not a negative emotion that  can be debilitating. For one thing, it can limit the growth of personality; for  another, it can lead to negative emotions, including jealousy, stress, or even  fear of success. The only positive effect of fear is that it may help avoiding  danger; however, fear can also lead to anxiety and paranoia, which are negative emotions.

Obsessive desire for fame, power, or money can deplete internal life energy,  leading to energy imbalance, which results in addictions. Desire can never be  satisfied: having one desire achieved is often followed by another replacing  it.

Anger is another negative emotion that drains one’s internal life energy,  causing energy imbalance. Anger nurtures resentment and revenge, which are  negative emotions or destructive outcomes of energy imbalance.

Pride is more of a negative than a positive emotion. Although pride can give  one an incentive in life, pride often leads to inflated ego, which may become  vulnerable. Pride may also cause shame when one’s projected accomplishments fail  to materialize. Pride can cause energy imbalance.

Positive emotions, on the other hand, can supply more internal life energy to  deal with life’s problems.

Courage, for example, is positive emotion in that it gives you confidence to  accept new challenges in life, to embrace the opportunities of life, and to  confront fear as well as to overcome obstacles.

Acceptance is a positive emotion in that it enables one to accept success as  well as failure, to know that there are ups and downs in life, and to recognize  that there are neither simple answers nor rigid solutions to life’s problems.  More importantly, acceptance means happiness is within oneself, and that love  comes from within — not something that can be given or taken away by  someone.

Life is complex, and so are human emotions. Just remember that emotions,  positive or negative, have a positive or negative impact on your internal life  energy, and that energy imbalance due to negative emotions is the major cause of  disease and distress in life. Manage your energy system to manage your health  and wellness.

Copyright (c) 2010 Stephen Lau

Stephen  Lau –    About the Author:

Use meditation to change your thoughts about your emotions. Positive or  negative emotions are all in your mind. For more information on Meditation, go  to Stephen Lau’s web page: Meditation  Techniques. Stephen Lau also has websites on Chinese natural healing,  anti-aging, and longevity living. Visit his website Chinese Natural  Healing to find out more on energy imbalance and energy healing.

When Nothing You Do Is Good Enough

This is a re-post of a very popular article…

Have you ever felt as though you are burning candle from both ends trying to get everything properly handled, when you’ve done your best and keep trying every single day, still it is not so in other people’s eyes? You don’t feel appreciated furthermore you are even to blame for most things?

be yourselfYou are not alone.

Allowed yourself to feel the discouragement (who wouldn’t?), but do not be discouraged. Never give up on doing things you know is right. It is also crucial that you do not put yourself down and start telling yourself you are not good enough. Acknowledgement and appreciation from people is good, but it is not compulsory as you can not and will never be able to force opinions into people’s mind. Trying to do so will only drain your energy and rob yourself off your happiness.

Everybody has their own different view points and understanding. We all see things in parts. It is in vain to expect anyone at all to understand you fully. In most cases, this doesn’t mean you are not loved, but rather they have different way of looking at things.

Here are some things you can do to lift up your spirit;

  1.  Forgive: It hurts to be blamed for things that you’ve put all your effort into, but holding on to the feeling will only weight heavily on your mind. Let it go.
  2.  Look out the window: Is it sunny outside? Have all the plants and trees outside changed colours and look even more beautiful? Take your mind away from the moment of hurt. Pay attention instead to things around you and open your eyes to beautiful things.
  3.  Ignore your point of view for a moment: If the other person is someone you care about, it is worth trying to look at the situation from where he/she stands. There’re many sides to the story. Bits and pieces of life here and there can add up to something unpleasant. Don’t forget that we human beings came to this world with a whole lot of emotions, and none of us know how to fully control them.
  4. Write: Put pen to paper. At the point where you feel you might explode if you don’t vent it all out. Go ahead and do just that (Don’t forget to tear them to pieces and throw them away after).
  5. Go for a walk: Find a place you know there’s a spot where you can easily shout out at the top of your lung without anybody hearing it. Take a long walk there and calm yourself down. If you still have the urge to cry out, go to that spot and shout it out.
  6. Understand the whole point: Understand that the worse thing you can do to hurt yourself is to depend your emotions on man, have expectation on man, and rely completely on man to satisfy you emotionally. Your peace should come from ‘you’ and the understanding that ‘God loves you and he knows every good thing you’ve done.’ All your good intentions, HE knows and appreciates them.’

Go on doing things with good intentions and with all you have. You are not doing them for people to praise you; you are doing them so you know you’ve done your best. It is only then that other people’s opinion can no longer hurt you.

 Good luck.

Source : http://giveitsomethoughts.blogspot.com/2010/09/when-nothing-you-do-is-good-enough.html

It Can Make or Break A Person

The Power of Your Words

words-powerWHAT kind of words do you use? Do they create energy and make the person you’re addressing to special? Or are they humiliating and can drain the energy to the point that you spoil his or her day? Whoever you are, you have the access to the power of making the person happy by using a language that is pleasing to the ear and can heighten the spirit of one’s soul.

Many of us may not have realized that if we use positive words, it enriches not only the person we are speaking to but also ourselves. When you use positive words of affirmations, you will vastly enrich someone’s life. In the process you’ll also enrich your own spirit. The remarkable fact is that dignity affirmed works like a boomerang. When you affirm someone, you feel affirmed yourself. Suddenly you feel that you have done something wonderful. And, indeed you have. You have helped restore someone’s respect and that is a priceless gift.

Words are meant to be tools to create a positive relationship that meet everyone’s honest need for respect. The use of language, our choice of words, is crucial in the whole self-esteem process. The saying: “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never harm me,” is definitely not true. Words can devastate a person; can lead to rejection, alienation, loneliness, bitterness, brokenness. Words can be emotional bombs, swords, bullets. Or when used reverently and sensitively, they can encourage, comfort, inspire, redeem, and create. Yes, words have immense power to affect the way we feel about ourselves.

The epidemic of low self-esteem in our society has been brought on or aggravated by the epidemic of profanity.  The horrific infection of demeaning words has proliferated in our society like a plaque. Real profanity is the use of language that strips people of their dignity, embarrasses them, and humiliates instead of affirming them: generating emotional blockage in the creative process. Words like “stupid,” dumb,” “bad,” idiot,” dirt ball” and other dirty words abuse the holy gift of language, for using something meant to create self-respect and turn it into a weapon that destroys human dignity.

To create and enhance the self-esteem of a person, you can change a person by using positive words that release positive mental pictures of what he can become. The gift of the language is the tool to create positive relationships. The creative use of words sustains positive creative relationship between ourselves and other persons. The healthy relationships stimulated and sustained through the appropriate gifts of creative language will go on to feed our mutual self-respect.

Hanameel Papellero – About the Author:

Hanameel Papellero is a successful teacher whose passion is to seek the meaning and secrets on how to live life to the fullest. She is the maker of YOUR GATEWAY TO SUCCESS BLOG where you can find free downloadable ebooks, audio books and video files to some of the best-selling authors in the world in the field of motivation, inspiration and of success.

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