Your True Self

Your True Self. What is your true self? In everyday life, we tend to be different people in different situations. We can be corporate at work, relaxed with our friends, formal with our family, firm with our kids. We wear many different hats.

Your True Self

What is your true self? In everyday life, we tend to be different people in different situations. We can be corporate at work, relaxed with our friends, formal with our family, firm with our kids. We wear many different hats. So who are you? What is your purpose? What is your mission on life? Have you wondered what makes you special out of billions on people on this planet? Are you just an ant in a colony following the leader? Why do you go to work? Why do you have friends? Why do you live in a house? Why do you drive a car? Have you stopped and wondered? Have you stopped and thought about what life should be like? Or have you just followed blindly?

Does society dictate who you are and how you should live your life? Is it progressive to have a job? What is society ? Are you here to live and die and nothing really happens in that lifetime. Are you here just to live, eat and just drift along for the best part of seventy years. Are you truly happy? By happiness I don’t mean fleeting moments at the weekend or when you are in the company of a loved one but I mean when you are on your own, day in, day out. A place of contentment where external events have very little impact on your equilibrium. Is that contentment generated by an internal source? Can you be happy just being?

Do you think you have a purpose? What would happen if you actually stopped occupying yourself with the mundane tasks of your life and thought about what your true nature?

Have you thought about your soul mission, your divine purpose? Are you letting the life waste away? Do you have the courage to say enough? I choose to live a different life, I choose to be an individual, I choose to denounce society and follow my own rules.

I know some of you reading this will be up in arms at this point! This woman is living in cuckoo land but I am or are you? I understand life has been structured around society and we need money, for shelter, to feed ourselves, cloth ourselves etc. What I am saying is to denounce society is to use the current structure of what has been laid out to achieve what you want rather than the other way round. To take back control, I don’t think it’s feasible to go back to caveman days and live off the land but I am saying is to go back to making your decisions. You make think you do, but how many of us get influenced by our peers and by the media?

The media and big corporations know how to manipulate the masses so that we tied up in situations for the rest of our lives. For the current structure of society to work , they need workers. They need people like you and me to willingly to go into a four walled office and sit there for 8 hours a day without complaining because that enables us to buy the big screen tv, the ipad , a Mercedes , or whatever we think will make our lives easier. What is happening in reality is slowly we are getting ourselves trapped, trapped in a situation where we loose our true selves , where we forget pleasure, spontaneity , being who you are . In order to feed what we think we require for a happy life we dilute our true essence.

This blog isn’t for the people who are happy in their current situations, who I am to tell people how to live but it’s more aimed at people who think these thoughts but get beaten down by others. I have had these thoughts since a very young age and was told to snap out it and to “live in the real world” but what is the real world? Isn’t the world what we create in our heads? Is isn’t it all about perception?

I believe that we have all come to earth to achieve and learn certain lessons. All of us are on a certain rug of a spiritual ladder. Depending where you are on this ladder you will look at life differently. Some people will go through this incarnation never considering the questions mentioned above , never having the awareness. However what concerns me is the minority that do question and do have an awareness. They get caught up and lost and if they were happy doing that then this blog isn’t for them either. However drawing from personal experience I know what happens when you deny your true self, happiness becomes a distant friend only visiting once in a while.

I wish I had a courage to follow my feelings when I was younger and take more of a spiritual path but also understand that I had to get lost in illusion (Maya) in order to seek the truth. Now that I have the awareness of the bigger picture, I still find it hard to live up to my true potential. As you go through life , you pick up attachments. Attachments to friends to family, some of them who may not be fully up to speed on these matters as you are. These attachments then serve to hold you back in realising your goals as they introduce threads of doubt and insecurity. I acknowledge that we are here to interact with fellow human beings and we have to sustain relationships in order to learn the lessons but to achieve enlightenment /Moksha we have to see beyond this and follow the path we were meant to follow not matter the consequences. This does not mean hurting people we love or being a loner who goes into the forest but just having the courage to stand up to your beliefs and explaining to your loved ones how you feel. If someone truly loves you , they will want you to be happy and if that happiness does not follow convention so be it. If someone is very against your plans than you can carry on loving them sending them your love and then carry on with your life purpose.

The greatest injustice you can inflict upon yourself is not be true to yourself. So who is you want to be, what is you want to achieve? What are you waiting for? Today is a good a place to start as any.

Article written by: Sneha Ramji

Article sourced: spiritguides.co.uk

How to be Happy

The simple secrets are People and Purpose

More than a thousand years ago, the ruler Spain,Abd Er-Rahman III, wrote these words

“I have now reigned about 50 years in victory or peace, beloved by my subjects, dreaded by my enemies, and respected by my allies. Riches and honors, power and pleasure, have waited on my call, nor does any earthly blessing appear to have been wanting to my felicity. In this situation, I have diligently numbered the days of pure and genuine happiness which have fallen to my lot. They amount to fourteen.”

Here’s a challenging question for you:

Are you happy?
Perhaps you’ve been asked this question before.  The person who asked may have meant something specific: ‘are you happy in your new job?’, ‘are you happy with your new home?’, or ‘are you happy about your new car?’  You probably answered politely ‘oh, yes, I’m very happy!’  Well, there have been times when I forgot about answering politely for a moment and really thought about the question – the big question!  I imagine that a kind of blank far away look came over my face as I began to ponder the many layers of ‘are you happy?’
happyWhat is happiness?
Is it the same as joy or pleasure or satisfaction or contentment?
Am I feeling it right now?
Do I have to feel happy to be happy?
Is it important to be happy?
Should happiness be the aim of my life?
And since – like Abd Er-Rahman III – I don’t feel joyful at every moment of every day, the question also sets me wondering about what I might be missing.  Could I be happier?  Should I be happier?  How?  What is keeping me from being happier?
One thing we should probably clear up at the very start is what we mean happiness. Talking with a few people, I discussed my plan to start a programme which to be called ‘happiness class.’  The reaction was not positive.  Everyone liked the idea of the programme – teaching and using spiritual practice to cultivate compassion, gratitude, mindfulness, and self-acceptance – but they didn’t like the name at all.  To their ears, ‘Happiness Class’ immediately made them think ‘happy clappy.’
Do you know the expression?  It refers to a certain style of exuberant Christian worship that involves a lot of lively singing and clapping and a kind of theology that I will – perhaps unfairly – characterise with the simple phrase: ‘love Jesus and everything will be OK.’
The negative sense of ‘happy clappy’, I think, comes from the belief that this is a shallow and simplistic kind of religious thought.  I don’t disagree.  There is also the sense that happiness can be seen as a superficial thing that is put on like a garment, but that has relatively little to do with our deeper reality.
This is not what I mean by happiness – at least not the kind that is worthwhile goal.
So, if happiness is something other than the fleeting superficial feeling of pleasure we sometimes think of, what is it?
George Santayana said this:
“A string of excited, fugitive, miscellaneous pleasures is not happiness; happiness resides in imaginative reflection and judgment, when the picture of one’s life, or of human life, as it truly has been or is, satisfies the will, and is gladly accepted.”
This is a notion of happiness that refers not to moments of pleasure but to a quality of a whole life.  Happiness is that which makes life good – especially in the knowledge that life is marked not just by joy but by suffering and pain as well.  This is also what Aristotle meant by happiness when he called happiness “…the whole aim and end of human existence.”  Not the momentary thrill of a purchase or a sensation, but the deep sense of living a good life.
When we understand happiness in this deeper way, it begins to look more like a worthwhile goal for our lives than do the shallower more hedonistic versions.  Acting to maximize the happiness of ourselves and others does not seem like a bad idea at all.  Indeed, this was the core idea of the Utilitarian philosophers.  As Jeremy Bentham put it, “The greatest happiness of the greatest number is the foundation of morals and legislation.”

Of course, some would disagree with placing such an emphasis on happiness.  We are certainly aware of belief systems that place a strong emphasis on self-denial and sacrifice – that suffering altruistically is truly the good life and that happiness is not a worthy goal.  To be fair though, often the motivation for such behaviour is happiness anyway – albeit in a world to come.  So even there, we have a recognition of the centrality of happiness to the human experience.

Now, where does happiness come from?  How do we attain it?
Well, there are an awful lot of notions about this.  Of course, companies are spending billions of pounds each year to convince us that happiness comes from purchasing their goods or services.  And there is a strong message in our culture telling us that happiness goes hand in hand with wealth.  Money, beauty, stuff, love…  It’s all supposed to be a package that we should be reaching for. Does it bring happiness?
Many wise people have weighed in on the question of what causes happiness.  In profound and compelling words we are offered a wide variety of advice.  I find much of this advice to have the ring of truth.  It’s just too bad that so much of it is contradictory!
Some words of wisdom claim that happiness is an option we can take – that we choose whether or not to be happy.  At the opposite end of the spectrum, though, it is claimed that happiness is determined by our upbringing and genetics – that there is almost nothing we can do to change our happiness now.
We are told that happiness arises from doing:  that it comes from satisfying work, from achievement, or fidelity to a worthy purpose.  We are also told that it comes from a way of being – from wisdom, from purity of mind, or for the Buddhists, through extinguishing of craving or attachment.
We are told that happiness comes from our relations with others: from having family, from the exercise of compassion or from helping or giving happiness to others.  And then we are told that happiness arises from independence.
What a muddle!
Fortunately, happiness has over the past several years become a serious subject of psychological research.  We actually know quite a bit now about what actually produces happiness.
One very important finding of the scientific studies: money doesn’t make you happy!  Once our basic needs are met, people with more money are no happier than people with less.  The British people are three times wealthier than they were in the 1950s, but are significantly less happy now than then!
And maybe people are beginning to recognize the lack of a connection between income and satisfaction: in a recent opinion poll, people were asked whether the government’s prime objective should be the greatest happiness or the greatest wealth.  An overwhelming fraction – over 80% – chose happiness over money!
What else doesn’t matter besides money? We might expect that smarter or more informed people are happier.  They’re not.  Education and intelligence have no correlation with happiness.
Certainly in our increasingly youth-oriented culture, the young must be happier than the old, right? Nope!  Older people are actually more satisfied with their lives.  Good weather? Not at all! People who live in sunnier places are no happier than those who live with rain and cold.
What does matter then?
In short, two things rise to the top of the list: People and purpose.
If you have strong ties to family and friends you are more likely to be happy. And you are more likely to be happy if you are engaged in purposeful activity – something that provides meaning to your life and that engages and interests you deeply.
What about the pessimistic notion I mentioned earlier that your level of happiness is determined by your genetics and your upbringing?  If true, this would seem to make it not worth trying to be any happier.  The news is mixed.  There are some very good reasons to believe that genes and our childhoods do give us a certain happiness set point.  For most people, joyous or sorrowful events move us away from that happiness level, but only temporarily.  Eventually – even with extremely positive or negative life events – we tend to return to the set-point.
But the good news is that there is also very strong evidence that the set-point can be altered.  It takes effort.  There are no simple solutions.  No seminar or tape or DVD or workshop is going to make a sad person into a happy one overnight.  The keys are the same two factors I mentioned a moment ago: people and purpose.  Becoming more engaged in meaningful activity and making and strengthening human ties do make us happier.  Helping others makes us happier. Connecting with others makes us happier. And bringing meaning to life through cultivation of gratitude makes us happier.
Let’s stop here for a moment and review…  We want to be happy and we know that money and things don’t help us to reach that goal.  What does help us reach that goal is to find meaningful activity to engage in and people with whom to connect.  Cultivating gratitude and helping others are found to be powerful ways of increasing our happiness.
Does this sound at all familiar?  Purpose, commitment, compassion, community, gratitude…  If religion didn’t already exist, we would have to invent it!
And this supposition is not just the wishful thinking of a dedicated and passionate minister.  It is backed up by numerous studies.  People who participate in a religious community are found to be happier – significantly happier – than people who don’t.  And not only that, this happiness shows up in some very important ways.  Religious people have lower rates of depression, drug and alcohol abuse, and suicide.  They even have lower blood pressure!
There is something wonderful in the understanding that is developing of the way happiness arises.  In his book, Ethics for a New Millenium, HH The Dalai Lama writes:
“our greatest joy should come when we are motivated by concern for others. […] not only do altruistic actions bring about happiness but they also lessen our experience of suffering. […] In our concern for others, we worry less about ourselves. When we worry less about ourselves an experience of our own suffering is less intense. […] genuine happiness consists in those spiritual qualities of love, compassion, patience, tolerance and forgiveness and so on.”
The very actions that we can do to make others happy make us happy as well. We attend both to our own and others’ happiness when we commit to helping, to building meaningful relationships, and when we engage in activity that is deeply meaningful.
How could such a happy situation come about?  Some might call it a divine plan: a loving and purposeful God created us in such a way that our own happiness is tied to that of others.  Others might see the work of evolution here – the most successful individuals were the ones who worked well with others and bonded with them and so finding satisfaction from such behaviour was advantageous.  Still others could say it’s simply luck that brought us to this situation.
No matter how it came to pass, there is great hope to be found in this understanding.  To find that our individual happiness is tied to the happiness of others is to see ever more clearly that we are all, as Martin Luther King put it, ‘tied in a single garment of destiny’.  As a society, we seem to have forgotten this truth – a truth that can be found in various forms within nearly all religious traditions.  But we can recover it and here is as good a place to start as any.
And so, I ask again ‘Are you happy?’
Robert Louis Stevenson tells us ‘There is no duty we so underrate as the duty of being happy. By being happy we sow anonymous benefits upon the world.’

Andy Pakula – About the Author:

Andrew Pakula is Minister to the Newington Green and Islington Unitarians, a rapidly-growing, radically-inclusive, spiritual community in north London. He directs UKspirituality.org, a not-for-profit association of quality providers of spiritual events, programmes, and workshops. With a Jewish background and influences from many other religious traditions, his is a particularly open and eclectic approach to spirituality. Andrew believes that authentic spirituality provides a way of living deeply, meaningfully, and with connection and that it offers an essential antidote to the busy, individualistic, materialistic culture in which we live. http://www.ukspirituality.org apakula@gmail.com 0780 9144879

How to Identify Your Destiny

destiny-roadWe all try to pin point our destiny. We all wish to know exactly what our calling is, what we should do in life, career paths to take, and so on. This question has always frustrated myself as well. However, while meditating on the question recently, I realized why the answer had not yet been given to me.

I have written before on how we are gifted with talents, interests, and certain likings for a reason. And it is these skills we were gifted with that we should steer our jobs, service, and our fun towards. But how often do we doubt our talents? How often do people suggest we “don’t go for that career”, because it’s not known for making lots of money? How little are we encouraged to step outside the box to try new things that spark our interest?

Life is known to hold us back, but mainly because people fear change. We fear what we can become, or what we want to become, because we often think we can’t. Well, the answer I received to that question was this: You cannot realize your destiny if you doubt yourself. Because if you doubt yourself, you won’t understand what you were meant for.

Doubting yourself means you lack the faith in who you are and who you were created to be – something we had no control over. It is God who created us in his image, his likeness. He created us for his plan, and every person will have their own unique qualities and traits for a reason. The strong passions and talents you have, from art to music, to writing and teaching, they don’t just grow in you overnight! You were fashioned with certain gifts to live out your specific and unique life.

Ultimately, we were meant to use what we were given in order to live out our calling. Someone shared a quote with me once that said, “Everything you’ll ever need, you’ve always had.”  Truthfully, that quote speaks about our gifts we’ve had in us since birth. And indeed, these gifts are meant to drive us on this journey, fulfilling our calling and purpose in life.

So, what can you do to realize your own destiny? Begin by not doubting yourself and by loving who you are. Understand that you, along with every person in this world, was gifted with a unique personality and certain talents – no exceptions! Even if you have not discovered your talents yet, there will come a time when you will.

We all possess hundreds of interests, so start even with the smallest of detail. For example, if you have a love for children, that could very well be a gift you were blessed with. If you love children and are creative, you might make a great teacher, designer for children clothing, author of children books, etc. – the possibilities are literally endless. If you are really stuck, simply make a list of everything you’re interested in, from favorite scents to favorite music! Get to know yourself better and the areas that interest you. Then simply take these interests and begin to envision how you can use them in life, whether as a hobby or even a career.

The key, however, is to understand that these gifts were placed inside you for the benefit of not only your own joy, but for the joy and purpose of the Creator. As mentioned before, he is the one that has shaped and purposed you for his ultimate plan, and we give back (and say “thank you”) by using our talents for him and his people. Does this mean you should only work for a church? Of course not. You can uphold almost any job, as long as you put your heart, focus and the right intent into it.

Keep your HEART on your passions in order to develop them, and FOCUS them towards serving the greater purpose, and by doing so, you will truly begin to realize your destiny.

KarinAbout the Author:
Karin believes in the importance of a focused, spiritual journey.  She hopes to inspire those seeking truth and change through dream guidance, inspirational articles, and more at thegardendream.com

De-Clutter Your Mind Just For a Moment

declutterIf you don’t know which way to go, then stop for a few moments and listen to your heart. There are many times in life when you come to question where you are meant to be, what you are meant to do and what your real purpose in life is. In reality this only happens when your mind is too busy thinking about your options to allow yourself the space to listen to your heart. Either that or you are too worried about the future to even see the choices and opportunities which are available to you.

What you should be doing is asking how you feel about each option, and asking yourself how you would really like to feel in the future. We live in a materialistic world where everything becomes tagged with a price, be it in dollars, sterling, Euros or whatever other currency you are attached to. Quit thinking in terms of money and how to get it and what it would buy and instead start to listen to your heart and notice how you really feel.

There are many opportunities which are presented to us in life which we do not even see because we are too busy thinking to actually look and listen to what is going on in our world. It is far too easy for us to fall into this trap, and if you want to change anything in your life then the first step is to stop, see, listen and identify how you are feeling.

Sometimes we feel very alone. We feel that the choices put in front of us are too difficult or that we have been somehow cut adrift from our purpose in life. In a materialistic world you can easily distance yourself from your spiritual nature, but then you end up feeling out of sorts, alone and dissatisfied. Getting back in touch with your heart and your spirituality provide the major keys to happiness.

When in tune with your spiritual nature you feel calm and comfortable, you feel a sense of togetherness and you never feel alone. And if you ask for help you receive gentle guidance because your eyes and ears are open, instead of closed and cluttered with trivial things.

A great goal for the coming year would be to get back in touch with your spiritual nature and discover the real purpose in your life.

Author Roseanna Leaton

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When You Know Your Core Values, Every Single Decision You Make is Easier.

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Written by Joanne Wellington for Mediums World

Sound core values are the foundation of a truly successful life. Have more purpose, passion and meaning in your life

In order for you to create this excellence anywhere in your life, there must be a strong foundation for you to build upon. Build that foundation with solid values and a strong sense of purpose, and your results will be nothing short of magical.

By living Your Core Values, not only will you be more successful , you enjoy your success more. You also achieve your outcomes with less effort and conflict.

From Core Values you can expect to . . .

 
  • gain real clarity about who you are  and what you stand for
 
  • make better choices about where you spend your time and who you spend it with
 
  • see why and how your values affect your bottom line
 
  • have more passion in your purpose & purpose in your passion
 
  • discover how your core values drive and direct your purpose
 
  • stay inspired and motivated; overcome discouragement
 
  • notice if, when and why you’re off-course
 
  • learn how to prioritize your goals
 
  • help your family and your friends to develop their values
 
  • get more of the right things done
 
  • stay focused on what matters most to you