How to recognise negative energy

Many of us know the harmful effect of negativity. Napolean Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich says; “There is very little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it’s positive or negative.”

negative energyIt is probably easier to be negative than positive. It is easy to slide into a blaming culture, the poor little old me mindset. We all know the importance of being positive and usually more effort is needed to a maintain positivity as it is easy to slide into negativity.

However, you can avoid negativity and disallow it to ruin your life by recognising them. Negative energy in our life can be ourselves and the people around us.

Personal negativity could come in the form of suspicion, mistrust and self doubt. Very often many of us allow negativity to invade our thoughts, for example, doubting the possibility that things are going smoothly, believing that there is a catch somewhere, always wary about being taken for a ride and being jealous of another person’s achievements. As we are the master of our own destiny and our thoughts can make or break us, such negativity will hinder our progress and even destroy something that is going well.

Negativity energy could also come from people could be our colleagues, our friends and family. When you are around people who say things to cast doubts in your mind, complained about almost everything and whatever other people are doing, it can have a negative effect on your emotions and behaviour. These people live in fear and worry. They can’t control their emotions and they are frequently angry. Being around negative people can drain your energy. Their negativity can lead you to making wrong judgement and decisions.

Sometimes, it may not be possible to stay away from negative people especially if they are family members. However, it is possible to walk away from a negative conversation. Stay away from people who make you doubt yourself or your progress

You know you are becoming a negative person when your venture start failing and your progress get stifled. You will notice that positive people stay away from you and you are surrounded by people who are constantly negative. Eventually, you will become an angry and depressed person.

Remember, nothing gets solved being negative and it will only make worsened our life. Recognise the negative energy, stay away from it and make a conscious effort to be positive.

“Whenever a negative thought concerning your personal power comes to mind, deliberately voice a positive thought to cancel it out.” – Norman Vincent Peale


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Overcoming Nonstop Thinking

Overcoming Nonstop Thinking. Are you aware that your mind is always occupied with thoughts? Are you aware that thoughts constantly demand your attention, dictate your behaviour and reactions?
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Overcoming Nonstop Thinking

Are you aware that your mind is always occupied with thoughts? Are you aware that thoughts constantly demand your attention, dictate your behaviour and reactions?

Do you sometimes feel that your mind is going to explode from nonstop thinking? Can you focus your attention on what you are doing at any moment, or are you constantly distracted by all kinds of thoughts, negative thinking or negative expectations? You need to learn to overcome your nonstop thinking in order to gain control over your attention.

Do you sometimes wish your mind could just stop thinking for a little while, and let you enjoy some rest and peace? Like an engine, it has to rest to avoid wear and tear. It needs some rest from time to time, in order to recharge itself and your body.

The mind often looks like a cluttered room, with no free space and no place to move. When you empty your room it will look bigger and tidied, and it will be more pleasant to be there. So it is with your mind. Remove the clutter – the unnecessary thoughts, the worries and the fears, and your life would look happier and brighter.

You are probably not constantly aware of the restlessness of your mind, because this became a habit and you got accustomed to it, yet, thoughts keep coming and going, occupying your mind every moment of the day, spending up mental and emotional energy, and sometimes making your head ache.

Tension, strain and pressure at work and at home make the mind even more restless, and attract more thoughts into it. Problems, difficulties, fears, worries and hurt feelings increase even more the mental restlessness and lack of inner peace, making you more acutely aware of the swarm of thoughts coming into your mind and making you feel helpless. It is during such times that you desperately feel the need for inner peace and freedom endless thinking.

When you need to focus your attention, study or meditate, you are again confronted with thoughts that swarm into your mind, disturbing and distracting your attention. This also happens when you are worried, angry or emotionally excited. You feel unable to stop the flow of thoughts and emotions that prevent clear thinking, calmness or self-control.

During such times you just want to scream at the mind to stop thinking. You feel that your mind has broken any control and barriers, and that it is working on its own, sometimes to your detriment. It is like being helpless in a rudderless boat in the midst of the ocean, and all you want is some steady and safe land.

It is in times of worry, stress, fear and strain that inner peace of mind is greatly desired and appreciated. Actually, inner peace and freedom from restless and incessant thinking is a great boon anytime and everywhere. It makes you happier, stronger, more confident and happy.

Imagine how it would be to live your life, work, interact with people, read, watch TV, travel or do anything else, without thoughts and worries claiming your attention. Just think how your concentration would become stronger and your five senses sharper! Just imagine how your understanding, comprehension, awareness and intuition will increase!

You need mental and emotional training, in order to overcome nonstop thinking and free yourself the compulsion, and it is a compulsion, to think incessantly and involuntary, and fill your mind with thoughts that weaken you and distract your attention. You also need to develop some degree of inner detachment and mastery over your mind.

There are no short cuts to overcoming nonstop thinking and lack of inner peace. The aim is not to stunt your mind through hypnosis or subliminal programming, but to gain real inner peace, which you can enjoy while staying active, pursuing your goals, and while handling more efficiently and peacefully your daily affairs of life.

Everything worth having requires work and effort. You cannot become a pilot, an Olympic champion or an engineer by listening to a CD, hypnotizing yourself or saying some magic words. Developing inner abilities, such as calming down your mind, is no different.

Here are a few simple things that can help you:

Reduce the amount of time you read the newspapers or watch the news on TV.

Stay away from negative conversations and from negative people.

Don’t hold grudges. Learn to forget and forgive. Nurturing ill feelings and grievances hurts you and causes lack of sleep.

Don’t be jealous of others. Being jealous means that you have low self-esteem and consider yourself inferior to others. Jealousy and low self-esteem, often lead to lack of inner peace.

Accept what cannot be changed. This saves a lot of time, energy and worries.

Every day we face numerous inconveniences, irritations and situations that are beyond our control. If we can change them, that’s fine, but this is not always possible. We must learn to put up with such things and accept them cheerfully.

Learn to be more patient and tolerant with people and events.

Don’t take everything too personally. Some emotional and mental detachment is desirable. Try to view your life and other people with a little detachment and less involvement. Detachment is not indifference, lack of interest or coldness. It is the ability to think and judge impartially and logically. Don’t worry if again and again you fail to manifest detachment. Just keep trying.

Let bygones be gone. Forget the past and concentrate on the present moment. There is no need to evoke unpleasant memories and immerse yourself in them.

Practice some concentration exercises. This will help you to reject unpleasant thoughts and worries that steal away your peace of mind.

Learn to practice meditation. Even a few minutes a day will make a change in your life.

Inner peace ultimately leads to external peace. By creating peace in our inner world, we bring it into the external world, affecting other people too.

Written by Remez Sasson
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Remez Sasson teaches and writes on positive thinking, creative visualization, motivation, self-improvement, peace of mind, spiritual growth and meditation. He is the author of several books, among which are “Peace of mind in Daily Life”, “Will Power and Self Discipline”, “Visualize and Achieve” and “Affirmations – Words of Power”.

Visit his website and find articles and books filled with inspiration, motivation and practical advice and guidance.

The Powers of a Positive Mental Attitude

If you were to write down you thoughts for the next hour would most of them  be positive or negative? How do you know if your thoughts are positive or  negative? Do you have motivational thoughts, thoughts full of gratitude for what  you have and what is coming your way, or are your thoughts full of what you lack  or would like to have but don’t?

positive-mental-attitudeNow let’s say you are taking a walk  down the street with these thoughts you wrote down. Do you think anyone you meet  would be able to tell you what’s on your mind?

While the answer to the  questions in paragraph one are entirely up to you, the answer to the question in  paragraph two is yes. People can tell what’s on your mind. Although they won’t  be able to tell exactly what you are thinking about, they will have a good idea  of how you are feeling. They can tell if your mind is wandering in a positive or  a negative direction.

Let me ask you this, when you enter a party filled  with friends and people you know, do they all fall silent as if something  terrible had happened? Or does everybody there perk up as if waiting for  something exciting to happen?

You know what? Unless you forgot to bathe  for a week the answer to these two questions depends almost entirely on your  frame of mind.

Earl Nightingale, the late Dean of Personal development was fond of saying “Thoughts are  things.” I believe him. Thoughts are very powerful. They affect your attitude,  your beliefs and the way you carry yourself. Your attitude reflects in your  appearance, your face, your smile your eyes. Yes, people can read your mind, or  at least what your body is telling them about what’s in your mind.

The  problem is that it doesn’t end there. Your attitude will also affect the people  around you. It will affect how people react to you, whether they want to help  you or not.

The great thing is that you are in control! The type of  attitude you carry depends on you. You can decide to have a positive or negative  attitude.

When you have a positive mental attitude your thoughts will  lift you up. They will fill your mind with possibilities. Motivational thoughts  are invigorating and can spur you into action. An added  bonus is that the people around you will be energized by your attitude. That’s  the power of a positive mental attitude.

Negative thoughts on the other  hand have a power sapping effect on other people. They are like an energy vacuum  that sucks the vitality from everyone around them. In addition to making you  look dumpy and gloomy, negative thoughts can turn a festive gathering into a  funeral wake.

Think of your attitude like a magnet. If you have a  positive mental attitude you attract people, while if you have a negative  attitude you repel them. Unless they are in the mental health profession or just  like pain, people tend to shy away from those who carry a negative attitude  around with them.     

Your attitude  defines your focus. For example, if you choose to focus on the negative things  in the world, watch the news and listen to the latest gossip, you are developing  a negative attitude. However, if you choose to focus on the positive things, on  things that are going well in your life and the world at large, then you are  developing positive mental attitude.

You have much to gain from  developing a positive mental attitude. For one, studies have shown that a  positive mental attitude promotes better health. These same studies go on to  point out that this is probably because these people generally have less stress.  That’s because they are focusing on solutions and what they want and not being  frustrated so often!

Studies show that those people with a positive  mental attitude also have more friends. Well duh. Who do you want to be around?  Someone who always has something good to say or someone who is always telling  you the sky is falling and the world’s going to hell in a hand basket?

A  positive mental attitude begins with a healthy self-image. If you love the way  you are and are satisfied, confident, and self-assured, you also make others  around you feel the same way.

On the other hand, a negative attitude has  an opposite effect, and a negative attitude carries a double whammy with it.  First you feel bad about yourself. Second you make people around you feel the  same way.

If you want to develop a positive mental attitude, you have to  focus on motivational thoughts, thoughts that will empower you. If you watch the  news constantly this can be very difficult. That’s because the media feeds us  nothing but negative thoughts. You want to know how to change this? Don’t watch  the news! The world will still survive and you won’t be filling your mind will  all that negative junk!

One study showed that for every 14 things a  parent says to his or her child, only one is positive. This is truly a saddening  thought. But you can change this. Start to examine what you say to your child  and make it a point to be what Zig Ziglar calls a “good finder.” Find the good  your child does and tell them about it.

If you want a healthier outlook  on life, you’ll want to begin to program your mind for success. You’ll want to  hear positive things as well. So, what can you do? Well, an easy one would be to  watch a funny movie.  Some other things might be playing with children or  spending time telling jokes with friends. Read the biography of someone you  admire or a rags to riches story. All these activities will fill you with  positive stimuli, which will in turn promote a positive mental  attitude.

Although it is impossible to shield yourself from all the  negative influences around you, you can still maintain a positive mental  attitude by focusing on the good things, the positive things in your life. One  of the ways that works well for me is through positive visualization, using self hypnosis to help me recognize and  focus on the positive things that are happening to me.

The development  of your positive mental attitude will benefit others also. You want to be of  help to somebody feeling down? When someone comes to you with a problem, instead  of giving them advice, like we all like to do, just sit and listen to them. Your  positive mental attitude may be able to cheer them up without even having to say  a word.

Here’s a great question, if a positive mental attitude is really  so great, why do people choose to adopt a negative attitude instead? I believe  that it is a learned trait. We have been taught since we were small children  that negatives will get the attention of our parents and teachers. So as adults  our negative attitude may be actually a signal for attention. Now this is not to  say that emotions like feeling sad, angry, or gloomy are wrong. These emotions  are the expression of our experiences. But dwelling on these emotions for far  too long is not healthy. The thing is to recognize them for what they are and  move on. Life is much too short to stay stuck in such a bad state.

While  my dear friend K. Lee Kappmeier was suffering from stage IV colon cancer she taught me an invaluable lesson. She taught  me that no matter what the trouble, no matter how dark the hour we need to focus  on the good things in life. We need to focus on what we want our lives to be, on  what we want to do and accomplish. Until the very end she had hope that she  would overcome her illness and, as a result, she accomplished as much in her two  years of illness as many people accomplish in their lifetimes.

Focusing  on the good will give you hope, just like it did for K. Lee. It may not lengthen  your life, but it will definitely make what life you have sweeter and more  enjoyable.

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by adopting a  healthy, positive mental attitude. Studies show that such an attitude actually  retards aging, makes you healthier, helps you develop better stress coping  skills, and has a very positive effect on all the people you meet every day.

So, why not develop a positive mental attitude? It will help your  problems become puzzles, things to be solved and overcome. Your life will be  brighter and more full of energy. It will make every day a joy that you can be  grateful for.

Wil  Dieck –    About the Author:

Wil Dieck is the founder of Total Mind Therapy and author of an e-Course “Boost Your Positive Mental Attitude“ that you can have at absolutely no charge.  Drop by  for your copy today.


Thought for the day… Positive Thinking

Thought-for-the-dayWhen you make descisions when you are emotional, fed up or panicing, you can make mistakes…it only takes a minute to sit quietly, think, and decide what is the best outcome for you alone…make all your descisions in love and positive thinking then whatever happens you will know you decided in your right mind..think before you speak, speak before you act, act in love alone.

What A Positive Attitude Can Teach Us

positive_thinkingPositive thinking is not the same as blind optimism, neither does it mean overconfidence. It is a force that can empower you to overcome any obstacle that life puts forth. So, if you find that the everyday life stress is getting you down, your performance at work is deteriorating, relationships are home seem strained or are a cause of added stress or if you feel that there is a gap between where you are and where you want to be in life – the answer is learning to think positively.

What Positive Thinking Does for You

Here are some things that you will gain when you learn to alter your perceptions and think more positively:

* Less Stress – The way you think about a situation determines how to act in that situation. This could mean that you either worsen an already bad set of circumstances or you handle it masterfully. With positive thinking, you will be able to seek solutions more easily, you will see the positives even in a bad situation and you will know that you have the ability to overcome all obstacles. This will lead to lower stress levels.

* More Energy and Inner Drive – When you think negatively, it saps you of energy. However, when you have less stress and are constructively perceiving things, you will have more energy to spare that would otherwise have been used up coping with the stress and negativity. You will feel the inner drive or motivation to work harder to resolve things and move ahead or even to complete tasks at hand.

* Lower Anxiety – While negativity creates higher levels of fear and anxiety, positive thinking empowers you. This means that you feel less overwhelmed with whatever life has in store for you. The lower the anxiety when faced with a new situation, the better you will deal with it.

* Better Relationships – With greater positivity, you will give more to building and sustained deeper relationships. Your communication style will improve and you will see a definite change for the better in your interactions with people. You will also find that you handle conflicts better because you are less stressed and anxious about them and because you are able to see the positives in the situation.

* Peace of Mind and Healthier Existence – If all the above is true, then you definitely will find greater peace of mind. Things will trouble you less and with each situation you handle successfully, you will gain greater confidence. When you are at peace with yourself and the world, your body reacts to it. Just as higher stress levels lead to higher blood pressure, ulcers and many other health problems, lower stress and positive thinking also affect you physically to give you a healthier existence.

So, get the Law of Attraction working for you by gaining a positive attitude.

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Thinking, Feeling & the Law of Attraction

Somewhere along the line, our culture got “thinking” and “feeling” all scrambled up. We’re regularly encouraged to “share how we feel” about something, when really, it’s our THOUGHT or OPINION that is being solicited. Sadly, we are rarely asked about our true feelings and we miss those sacred opportunities to connect with ourself or others at the emotional level.

Are we really being asked if we’re angry, happy or disappointed when our co-worker asks us how we “feel” about the new client proposal? Nope, we’re being asked if we like the colors, layout or point of view that was used.

When we’re at a PTA meeting and there’s a debate going on about a spaghetti feed vs. a crab feed, it wouldn’t be uncommon to hear a mom pipe up with “I just feel that crab will sell more tickets.” Nope, that’s an opinion, not a feeling.

I think (not feel!) that this is such an interesting reflection of our culture’s avoidance of feelings. We don’t have cultural norms for truly sharing our feelings about things in public settings. Many couples or families don’t have norms for sharing their feelings in private either. So sad!

When we label our thoughts as feelings, it minimizes the power of our opinion. “I think that we should…” is so much more direct and powerful than “I feel like it would be best to…” (On a side note, I wonder if women use “feel” more than men in this context? I’m going to start paying attention to this now!) “I think” is stating a strong, no-nonsense opinion. “I feel” almost has an apologetic energy to it, like “Well, this is just what little ol’ me thinks, but I don’t want to step on anyone’s toes with my opinion.”

And meanwhile our actual feelings are locked in the closet, so excited that someone is actually asking them to come out and share themselves, then crushed when they realize that their very-distant cousin, the opinion, is once again the one being asked to come out and play instead of them.

I began my healing work in high school when I was in a horrible relationship. I was finally realizing that I had feelings and was doing my brave best to acknowledge and honor them. I was naive/hopeful/committed enough to believe that my boyfriend and I could work out our differences if we could have a discussion about our feelings. I still have a vivid memory of begging him to share how he was FEELING, hoping that if we shared our inner states we could get move the conversation somewhere productive. Instead, he responded by saying “I feel that you need to…” Yowza. Not only was that definitely not sharing his feelings, he managed to twist it into a criticism of how he believed I needed to act differently.

When we share how we are feeling, or create that Spirit-filled place for another to share how they are feeling, we automatically create intimacy. Intimacy isn’t about sharing sex or secrets or space, rather it’s the energy that is created between people when we are sharing heart-to-heart. That may very well be in the context of sharing sex or secrets or space, but it’s the sharing of our feelings that creates the magic.

It’s this same magic that helps us tap into our creative potential. Abraham-Hicks is always teaching us to move to a higher feeling. Not a higher thought, not a higher opinion, a higher feeling. Here’s the tricky part though – our emotions are largely based on our thoughts. If we have a positive thought about something, it triggers a positive feeling. Same gig with the negative. Where we trip ourselves up is when we do a “happy slap” – we pretend that we think & feel positively about something when really it’s just a happy band-aid that we’ve slapped over a pit of hurt (or anger, resentment, disappointment…) That’s where our serious personal work comes in – doing the work to shift our inner beliefs (& therefore our feelings), forgive our self-judgments and create new, self-supportive beliefs. Hallelujah – then we get to genuinely be filled with those exalted feelings that we were longing for all along!

So here’s my challenge to you (& myself): Be aware of how you are using “think” and “feel” when you share your own experiences, when you ask your kids questions, in the workplace, with your spouse. Start to notice your patterns and if they are serving or hindering your desired connections to yourself, others and Creative Law. Start to delight in the magic and intimacy that is created when you and a beloved share your feelings, and celebrate that clarity that comes forward as you accurately name what you think, believe and feel.

Written by Heather KIng

Heather King has a Master’s Degree in Spiritual Psychology with additional study in Soul-Centered Leadership. She has been helping people learn to love and forgive themselves for 15 years. She is a co-founder of and is a writer and producer with She is happily married and blessed to be raising two daughters, a preschooler and a ‘tween.