Fear, Worry and Doubt ~ The Enemies Of Your Self-Confidence

Do you feel sometimes as being in the middle of a desert? When you started  you had a clear vision of your goals, but now you don’t know any more whether  you are going in a right direction, you have begun to fear, worry and doubt.  This is usually the moment we leave the right path and start going around in  circles. I was once doing my research in the Middle East and took a taxi to go  somewhere, but my taxi driver didn’t have faith in me, and every time I asked  him to go straight, he turned right or left. Thus, I wasted lot of time driving  around in circles until he decided to trust me and we reached our destination.  Worry and fear cause doubt which is the biggest reason of all the failures in  our lives. Our confidence is cut off when we are fearful and worried.

doubt_diceRobert Anthony says that “self-confidence is the inner feeling of certainty”. Brian Tracy states that successful people act in spite of  fear, while unsuccessful people let fear stop them, because successful people  are self-confident and they move intuitively in the right direction. Self-confidence is not just a self-confident look on your  face, acting like you are better than others. It is your inner guidance and  peace of mind. It simply means having faith in oneself. Self-confidence gives us  energy to create our dreams. Steve G. Jones says that our lives are shaped by  decisions that we make and the decision to act is fueled by confidence. If you  want to land at your dream job but lack the confidence to make the decision to  act in a way that would bring you closer to your goals, you will probably wind  up without achieving your goal. Confidence is a resource which is both  invaluable and essential toward the achievement of any goal.

We often let worry take over our lives, as worry is almost our God.  Atkinson says that “a man may worry himself  to death and yet nothing will be accomplished, but when he transmutes his worry  and discontent into desire and belief, then something happens.”  Rev.  Christopher Ian Chenoweth compares worrying to being in a rocking chair. You are  rocking back and forth, back and forth – you feel like you are doing something,  but you are not getting anywhere.  You are just mentally and physically  tiring yourself out. Thinking about all the things that could be wrong or go  wrong doesn’t make your life any more controllable or safer.  Mark Twain  said once: “I’ve suffered a great many catastrophes in my life. Most of them  never happened”. 99% of what we worry about, never come to pass.  Worry can  never accomplish anything. Worry is negative and destructive. William Walker  Atkinson claims in his book “Thought Vibration Or the Law of Attraction in the  Thought World” that worry is the child of fear – if you kill out fear, worry  will die for want of nourishment.

The act of worrying is using your imagination and emotion to create something  you do not want. If you are in a situation where you haven’t got any results in  achieving your goals, and you start to question and doubt, you are moving away  from your goals. Joseph Murphy states that our subconscious mind creates our  reality through the pictures we accept  and hold. If you have been doing affirmations over a period of years and still  getting nowhere, it would be wise to look inwardly at the pictures that you have  been holding about yourself. If you are not sure, if you doubt, then it will not  come to pass, because the messages you send to your subconscious mind are  controversial and you sabotage your goals. That is why we fail to manifest what  we want.

Brad Yates provides an example how contradictory thoughts influence our  manifestation. If we imagine ourselves going to a restaurant and ordering a  hamburger, but immediately as the waiter walks away, you say, “I really  shouldn’t have that. Maybe I should order a salad. Or maybe I should have a  sandwich.” The waiter stands there waiting for you to make up your mind, and you  wonder why you don’t have your hamburger yet. Our subconscious mind is like this  waiter, he can’t serve us if we send contradictory signals to it. Some people  try visualizing and affirming what they want for a moment, but then they spend  the rest of the time undoing this creation by worrying and doubting. Joseph  Murphy reminds us that when our desires and imagination are in conflict, our  imagination invariably wins. Ron Holland confirms it in his book “Eureka Enigma”  by saying that when the words and the pictures are in conflict it is always the  pictures that win.

Rev. Chenoweth advises to say to yourself: “The worry stops here!” You must do it at the moment when you  feel worried, not later. Focus only on what you desire. Do not focus on your  fear of not achieving your goal. If you doubt it, then it will not come to pass.  Chenoweth says that if we see our problem as a heavy rope, it seems to be strong  and unbreakable. And yet this rope is made of individual strands. If you would  take it apart, it would be easy to break these strands even with bare hands. If  you stop worrying and trying too hard to get solutions consciously, your  subconscious mind will solve problems for you, and you start to move intuitively  in the right direction. You have to shift your awareness to your desired reality  in order to draw it into manifestation. The key is to feel comfortable with  thinking, talking and acting in a state where your desire is already a reality.  This means that you must relax and release all stress related to achieving your  goal.  You have the power to bring yourself into harmony with who you  really are – a being that has infinite possibilities of experiencing great  success in life.

Ulrica  R.Richmond –    About the Author:

Ulrica R. Richmond produces articles on the power of your mind that can help  you succeed in business and in everyday life.  Read more how to overcome  fear and worry , increase you self worth, discover your  inner voice   and attract a positive confident  energy  into your life by  visiting this website! http://millionairemind.weebly.com/self-confidence.html

 

 

Where Did My Synchronicity Go?

Where Did My Synchronicity Go?

Where Did My Synchronicity Go?

The first time you really experience a synchronistic event in your life, you feel a real sense of wonder and awe. It can be difficult quite simply because you get so excited about it that you want to tell everyone, and more often than not, you’ll get blown off and people will discount it as a coincidence.

As synchronicity keeps happening you begin to get that sense of destiny I love to talk about so much. You begin to see the order that lies beneath the surface of what we think is a chaotic and random world. You begin to feel a sense of safety and your faith strengthens.

You ride the wave and wonderful unexpected things happen, life clicks into place at all the right moments. You find yourself in the right place at the right time and you start loving the simple act of living.

Then one day you wake up, expecting the trend to continue and wham, there it goes. Your winning streak runs out.

You look around at things suddenly taking the opposite momentum. Your tire blows. Your boss hands you the pink slip. Life gets tough again. You wonder, “gee, did I do something wrong?”

Sometimes the answer is yes, you just took a big step in the wrong direction. You made a choice that was out of alignment with your destiny. When you do that, rebalancing is going to happen. You’ll receive as much displeasure as it takes to provoke you back along the straight and narrow. This isn’t a punishment. It is really nothing personal at all. It is simply a predictable way to get you back on track.

There are a few things I can assure you will cause this to happen with certainty. It may take awhile to show up, but it certainly will if you continue in these actions.

The most certain way to stop synchronicity is to dwell in thoughts of anger, judgement or fear.

If you’re paying too much attention to the news and your obsessing over the fine job our president has made of ruining our economy, or you’re worried about the gas climbing to 5.00 a gallon, or if you just can’t get over an argument you had with your spouse and you brood about it, it will take you out of the flow.

Anger is the fear of not getting what you want, fear is the belief that something awful will happen, judgement is when you have to be right. All of these things impede the flow. The reason is you are taking yourself out of the now and either harping on the past or fretting about the future.

Synchronicity occurs when you are living in the NOW.

By accepting exactly where you are in this moment, you embrace the now. So if you are currently laid out with the flu, think, “This is wonderful, my body is telling me I need to relax for awhile. I must have ignored it too long. No matter, I’ll rest and take this time to enjoy my bed.” If you find yourself in the unemployment line, say, “This is a wonderful new opportunity to explore new avenues of expressing my talents.” By taking this positive attitude about where you are now, you allow the flow to carry you to the next step.

This is one the biggest secrets I used to survive cancer, bankruptcy and divorce. Trust me, this really works.

The Buddha said it is only the things we resist that cause us to suffer.

Author Bill White

Bill White, The Synchronicity Expert, is an internationally recognized author, speaker and coach. Bill is also the editor-in-chief of Synchronicity In Your Life magazine.