Words, Trust and Relationships

Words, Trust and Relationships.

Words, Trust and Relationships

Interpersonal relationships are social connections, associations and affiliations between people. They vary in levels of depth and intimacy and cover different aspects such as friendship, family, boy-girl relationship and marriage. Regardless of the different kinds of relationship or the different role which a person plays in a social entity, conflicts may arise and can strain a relationship. Trust is an important element in maintaining a healthy and harmonious relationship. Conflicts normally arise due to the betrayal of trust between two parties in a relationship. Whenever there is a conflict, parties may resort to hurling harsh words and insults on each other which may eventually lead to emotional stress.

Trust is the pillar which supports relationships. Lies are the culprits for distrust and suspicion in relationships. Lies should be taken seriously because for every time a lie is told, the level of trust will drop and create more and more suspicion between parties. Eventually, the person who tells the lies will lose their credibility and this will strain the relationship. In today’s modern society of heightened stress and competition, lies are inevitable and serve as a convenient tool to evade trouble and protect oneself. However, this form of convenience is exchanged with the reduction in trust. A person who has their trust misplaced before may have difficulty trusting people again. Therefore, with regards of relationship, once there is zero trust between both parties, this relationship has failed. Honesty is the best policy!

Words can be the most powerful tool but the most destructive weapon in the world. Words can be in the form of praise and compliment but also a weapon that can hurt and leave an emotional scar in a person. For instance, rumors are able to cause a person to break down and become adversely affected because of the large number of people being involved. When it comes to relationship, hurtful remarks and insults being hurled on a person in the fit of anger during conflicts can deeply affect the person’s psychological and emotional state. The impact of these words can be further intensified especially when it come out from a person who you are closely attached to. The emotional effect may heal over time but it can also change a person’s perception of humanity and relationships permanently.

In conclusion, trust and words are closely related to each other in a relationship. Any incorrect management of these two important elements can strain a relationship. Anger management, character building and emotional stress management are crucial to prevent conflicts and handle any aftermath of failed relationships. Therefore, one should not take things to be granted and learn to cherish relationships.

 

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Friendship – An offspring of Spiritual affinity.

friendship

I was doing some thinking today about Friendship and what all it means and implies, it’s obligations and so on. The most important thing to remember is… Always appreciate the friends that you have. A fight may come and go very easily, but a friendship could last forever.  For every second spent in anger, a minute of happiness is wasted. Most people walk in and out of your life. But only true friends leave footprints in your heart.

When we look back on our younger years, we will remember the people who went to school with us, the people who made us laugh, the people who hung out with us when nobody else would, and the  people who made our lives much better simply by being a part of it. Good friends are hard to find, harder to leave, and impossible to forget. The language of friendship is not in words but in their meanings.

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Temptation ! ..need help..? Prayer is always an open line.

Temptation

Re-post of Joanne’ original article 21/12/2010

Temptation is something we all face in our every day life, no matter what religion or belief we follow if any at all. It can and will in some cases lead to lust and self-destructive behaviours. A lot of individuals believe they have more restraint than they actually possess—ultimately leading to poor decision-making as most of us miscalculated the amount of temptation we could truly handle, in turn leading to a greater likelihood of indulging impulsive or addictive behaviour.

”We expose ourselves to more temptation than is wise, and subsequently we have millions of people suffering with obesity, addictions and other unhealthy lifestyles”

Some people are not good at anticipating the power of their urges, and those who are the most confident about their self-control are the most likely to give into temptation, some people often have difficulty appreciating the power of impulsive states. People in a “cold state” (not experiencing hunger, anger, sexual arousal, etc.) tend to underestimate how a “hot” impulsive state will influence their behaviour.

There are a few practical things however, that we can do to grow stronger and smarter in our struggle against s such emotion. “The key is simply to avoid any situations where vices and other weaknesses thrive and, most importantly, for individuals to keep a humble view of their willpower.” You can learn how to avoid temptation by practicing these five steps.

  1. Recognize your tendency and ability to control your impulses, in response to temptation such as, food, material, people, work, greed, drug craving and sexual arousal influences and much more.
  2. Walk away from it when you feel its heaviness, and you can feel it.
  3. Resist with the Word of truth ..You must admit you have self-control before you can use it.
  4. “Refocus”.. It’s all right letting yourself go, as long as you can get yourself back .
  5. Repeat the above quickly when you fail.

Temptations first manifest them-selves as split second thoughts. If you are losing ground in your thoughts, the temptation will find greater resistance if you take them before the holy spirit this will give you more strength of mind than you may think .

The best day of your life will be the one on which you decide your life is your own.  No apologies or excuses.  No one to lean on, rely on, or blame.  This gift is yours – life  is an amazing journey when you manifest it the right ways – and you alone are responsible for the quality of it.

Regular prayer is essential for maintaining intimacy with the holy spirit through your inner-self, personal relationship with spirit and  personal responsibility.

The communication line of prayer is always open!

Just a thought: Nothing makes it easier to resist temptation than a proper up bringing, and a sound set of values from the start for your children.

 
Written by Joanne Wellington for Mediums World
Copyright © 2010,2015 Joanne Wellington All Rights Reserved.

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Signs of Mental Abuse in a Relationship

It’s only very recently that during a conversation with someone very close to me that I have realised that I myself was in such a situation as this, while in a long term relationship, I know that some may find it strange that a man is actually saying this, (as in so many cases it is usually the man who is the abuser, not the woman), but it is the truth and something I have realised, learned from, come to terms with and accepted. I am not ashamed or emabarressed to admit that this was the case, or looking for sympathy, I am submitting this post to highlight this growing and sadly frequent situation that so may people find themselves in, both Male and Female. I have done a little study work on this subject and have found the following listed below as a guide to anyone who may want to learn more about the subject or may find themselves in a similar situation.

Mental abuse, also called emotional abuse or verbal abuse, is defined as constant belittling, criticizing, rejecting, insulting and teasing of another person. There are some signs to look for if you believe you or someone you know is suffering from mental abuse in a relationship.

    Isolation

  1. An abuser often tries to isolate their victims by alienating them from friends and family. This causes the victim to depend on the abuser.
  2. Accusations

  3. The abuser may accuse the victim of being unfaithful if they discuss the opposite sex.
  4. Sex as a Weapon

  5. The abuser may guilt the victim into performing sexual acts to prove their love, or withhold sex as punishment.
  6. Criticizing

  7. The abuser may constant criticize the victim’s looks or weight.
  8. Decision Making

  9. The abuser may not allow the victim to have access to the finances or make decisions such as where to live or what car to drive.
  10. The Victim

  11. Victims of mental abuse may have low self-esteem, feel guilt when standing up for themselves, procrastinate, and are often in denial about the abusive relationship.

Information sourced from e-how.com

Jealousy ~ The Green Eyed Monster

Throughout life there are many things that can take us from our true intentions and off our true pathway one of those things is `Jealousy ~ the green eyed monster

Jealousy ~ The Green Eyed Monster

Throughout life there are many things that can take us from our true intentions and off our true pathway one of those things is `Jealousy ~ the green eyed monster’ this can effect us, our lives and our futures to such a great extent it can ruin and destroy the “real us” and very often rears it’s ugly head at this time of year. A time when the real sentiments should be love, kindness and good will to all.

What is Jealousy?

When jealous feelings come up, it’s usually because we’re afraid that we won’t get our needs of one kind or another met. It’s been our experience that when jealousy comes up, somewhere within us, we are crying out for help.

Causes Of Jealously

It shows up when one person or both people in the relationship are very insecure in their relationship or in life. Jealous feelings come up with a partner, or others, whose actions haven’t warranted it.

Whatever is going on–whether the jealousy is “warranted” or not–fear is at the bottom of those feelings and there’s a lot more going on than what is on the surface. Until we look at those fears and begin to heal them, no matter what relationship we’re in, jealousy will creep in again and again.

In their descriptions about their jealousy challenges, many people talk about “withdrawing,” “getting quiet,” “becoming numb,” “saying things they didn’t mean” and “lashing out.” These behaviours are all ways to shield, protect and insulate themselves from the pain they are feeling inside themselves.

Overcoming Jealousy Through The Power Of Positive Thinking

Pay attention to your thoughts: In order to control jealousy you will first have to learn where your jealousy is coming from. There is always a cause for jealousy to arise and once you have those causes figured out, controlling it will become easier. You must take a pause every time you feel jealous and ask yourself why you feel that way. Does it have something to do with your own self-esteem, or does the person you are in a relationship with provide you with good reasons to feel this way? etc…

Information sourced from swayamsat.org

The green eyed monster

green-eyed-monsterThroughout life there are many things that can take us from our true intentions and off our true pathway one of those things is `Jealousy ~ the green eyed monster’ this can effect us, our lives and our futures to such a great extent it can ruin and destroy the “real us” and very often rears it’s ugly head at this time of year. A time when the real sentiments should be love, kindness and good will to all.

 

What is Jealousy?

When jealous feelings come up, it’s usually because we’re afraid that we won’t get our needs of one kind or another met. It’s been our experience that when jealousy comes up, somewhere within us, we are crying out for help.

Causes Of Jealously

It shows up when one person or both people in the relationship are very insecure in their relationship or in life. Jealous feelings come up with a partner, or others, whose actions haven’t warranted it.

Whatever is going on–whether the jealousy is “warranted” or not–fear is at the bottom of those feelings and there’s a lot more going on than what is on the surface. Until we look at those fears and begin to heal them, no matter what relationship we’re in, jealousy will creep in again and again.

In their descriptions about their jealousy challenges, many people talk about “withdrawing,” “getting quiet,” “becoming numb,” “saying things they didn’t mean” and “lashing out.” These behaviors are all ways to shield, protect and insulate themselves from the pain they are feeling inside themselves.

Overcoming Jealousy Through The Power Of Positive Thinking

Pay attention to your thoughts: In order to control jealousy you will first have to learn where your jealousy is coming from. There is always a cause for jealousy to arise and once you have those causes figured out, controlling it will become easier. You must take a pause every time you feel jealous and ask yourself why you feel that way. Does it have something to do with your own self-esteem, or does the person you are in a relationship with provide you with good reasons to feel this way? etc…

 

Information sourced from swayamsat.org