THE LAST WORDS!

THE LAST WORDS! One day a girl, Sara, who was fifteen years old, came home from school in a very bad mood. She’d had a fight with her best friend that day and it hadn’t turned out well at all.

THE LAST WORDS!

One day a girl, Sara, who was fifteen years old, came home from school in a very bad mood. She’d had a fight with her best friend that day and it hadn’t turned out well at all.

“Sara!” her mom yelled. “What are you doing? You know to do your chores right when you get home! And you’re late! ”Coming, Mom!”

Sara yelled, getting up and stomping towards the kitchen. “What?” she snapped as her mother gave her a stern look, annoyed.

“You’d better straighten up your attitude, young lady,” her mom warned, “or you’ll be grounded.”

“Whatever.” Sara began to throw around the dishes in the sink, trying to make as much noise as she possibly could. A plate cracked and cut her hand. Sara cursed.

“Sara!” her mom exclaimed. “How dare you use that language! Go to your room!”

“No!” Sara yelled, throwing down the towel she was using to wipe the blood off her hand.

“Do you want to say ‘no’ one more time and see what happens?” her mom asked. She looked furious.

“Sure,” Sara said sarcastically. “No.”

“How dare you!” Her mother slapped her.

Sara shrank back, staring incredulously at her mom. She had never hit Sara before.

“I HATE YOU!” Sara screamed before running out of the house.

“Sara, get back here!” her mom yelled, running after her.

“Leave me alone!” Sara screamed, running across the street. “I HATE YOU!” she screamed again.

She continued running until she heard the sound of screeching tires and a scream. She turned around, hoping that it wouldn’t be what she thought it would be….

People were crowding around Sara’s mother, who was laying in the middle of the street, looking broken, bloody. “NOOOO!” Sara screamed, running over and pushing through everyone to kneel by her mom. “Oh no, oh no….”

Her mom wasn’t moving or breathing. She was gone. Sara tipped back her head and wailed to the sky, sobbing so hard it hurt.

She couldn’t believe the last words she had spoken to her mother were “I hate you”.

LESSON: To everyone out there who tells your parents or friends you hate them, or any other rude thing, or you distinctly know they are hurting … Remember it might be the last thing you ever say to them.!

Dreams: Who’s Directing Your Life?

Dreams: Who's Directing Your Life? If you want to be happy, successful, and fulfilled, consider putting your "dreamer" in the director's chair.

Dreams: Who’s Directing Your Life?

While aspects of you encourage, “Go for your dreams,” simultaneously other parts threaten, “Don’t you dare.” A cast of characters lives inside of you and at different times you may receive conflicting or contradictory messages. If you want to be happy, successful, and fulfilled, consider putting your “dreamer” in the director’s chair.

What are the voices inside of you saying? As you turn the volume up on the voice of your dreamer and down on the voice of your doubter, you can practice discernment allowing for greater clarity. To assist you in hearing these voices, let’s set up a simple scenario. Picture something you want, something that matters to you. Choose a personal or professional dream and consider how these various parts of you might respond.

Dreamer – The dreamer inside says, “What if…” and is open to a creative process without over-analysing it. This is the part of you that imagines, believes in possibilities, has hope, and seeks kindred spirits. Dreamers talk about their ideas with intention, clarity, and passion. Great dreamers get others excited about their vision. And most importantly, successful dreamers take action to make their dreams a reality.

Doubter – This voice is often heard saying such things as, “I don’t think this is a good idea.” The doubter provides concern touting, “But what if…” and imagines the worst. If you crank the volume up it can even become annihilating with accusations shouting things like, “Are you out of your mind?” William Shakespeare said, “Our doubts are traitors.” Carlos Castaneda said, “In order to experience the magic of life, you must banish the doubt.” My favourite quote on this subject is in The Prophet where Kahlil Gibran wrote, “Doubt is a feeling too lonely to know that Faith is its twin brother.”

Realist – “Be realistic…” Modulate the doubter down a notch or two and it becomes the essential voice of the realist. This part wants to know, “What’s the plan?” including where is the time and money coming from. However, in the early phase of dreaming, you may not know.

The challenge is not to allow the realist to immediately turn into a doubter who might judge or obliterate your idea. Honour this voice by (to the best of your ability) giving it the information it needs. If you ignore or reject it, it will cleverly agitate or distract you. Being realistic offers prudence and makes you do your homework but if you are overly realistic or go to strategy too soon, you will most likely compromise the dream and kill your passion.

Visionary – This voice says, “Anything is possible so let’s dream big!” These are the leaders and people we look up to and admire. They have learned the process of realizing their dreams and embody what it means to be a big dreamer. Setbacks or failures do not stop them. Simply put, a visionary has a vision and invites others to join them. They are found in all walks of life and we are often so inspired when they are in the presence of a true visionary that we sign up just to be near them or part of what they’re doing.

A visionary is not defined by the size of the dream since dreams are precious and come in all sizes, shapes and areas of life. If you were living your dream life, how would it be different? What do you see yourself doing? How many lives would you touch? What would you change? Who would you help if you were truly living as a visionary?

Avoid Sabotaging Your Dreams

When these different voices merge they can become muddled and result in confusion and poor decisions. For example, you might poison your dream by projecting doubt into it. Then with each step you take toward what you want, you also move toward your doubt. Doubt and fear, which most of us may have at some time or another (especially when embarking on a new or big dream) do not belong in your dream. These feelings are simply part of your reality. This is a subtle and essential point.

Here’s a simple technique for avoiding this sabotaging pattern. On a piece of paper draw a line across the middle. On the top half write out your dream with as much detail as possible. On the bottom write out your reality in relationship to your dream, where you are now. Reality usually includes good news and (so called) bad, as well as any fear or doubt you may have. Just state the facts and your feelings about them.

Now, which one are you more committed to; your dream or your reality? We tend to choose “reality” when we don’t have a clearly defined dream or when we saturate our dream with doubt. If your dream is loaded with your worst imagined nightmares, reality will always seem safer and saner.

But doubt placed appropriately as part of your reality, allows two things to happen. First, no longer blown out of proportion, it’s an obstacle that basically requires a strategy to manage it. But more importantly, with doubt where it rightfully belongs, you are free to move forward.

It’s like a play. All the characters have wisdom and insight, but you can’t clearly understand them when they’re speaking at once. Take time to tune in, to listen, and on a regular basis, have the courage to give your dreamer its directorial debut or even the leading role.

Seven steps to reduce your ego

Ego is simply an idea of who you are that you carry around with you. As such, it cannot be surgically removed by having an egoectomy!

Seven steps to reduce your ego

Posted by Joanne Wellington for medium2spirit  

Ego is simply an idea of who you are that you carry around with you. As such, it cannot be surgically removed by having an egoectomy! This idea of who you think you are will persistently erode any possibility you have of connecting to intention.

Dr Wayne Dwyer

Comment by Joanne Wellington

It is well known that our ego is the real obstacle to the progress in our spiritual evolution. What Dr. Wayne Dyer refers to as “Connecting to Intention” is known by different terms such as “Connecting to source” in law of attraction, “attaining higher states of consciousness” or simply to be “One with God”. It is the ego that keeps us disconnected to our source.

Dr. Dyer gives us the following seven suggestions by which the grip of the ego can be reduced:

Step 1) Stop being offended

When we get offended, it is really our ego at work. We take something that someone did or said personally, and make it wrong. Getting offended creates the same destructive energy that offended you in the first place and leads to an escalated situation of negative energy, thus moving us away from our connection to source. “Don’t take things personally”

Step 2) Let go of the need to win

It is our ego that divides the world into winners and losers. While performing to the best of our abilities is necessary, the real problem happens when we start associating our  self-worth to winning. If our self-worth is associated with winning, sooner or later we will get disconnected from source, as it not possible to win all the time. There will always be someone faster, stronger, younger, smarter on some day.

Step 3) Let go of the need to be right

The natural job of the ego is to make ourselves right, and make others wrong. Being connected to our source is being kind, loving, receptive and at peace, without any anger, resentment or bitterness.  Giving power to the ego is encouraging it’s natural hostility, and when one is hostile, he is disconnected from the source. The ego is the reason many beautiful relationships are destroyed. In moments when the ego kicks in strongly, one can ask ourselves  “Do we want to be right or do we want to be happy?” Choosing to be happy keeps our connection to our source and helps us create the life we want.

Step 4) Let go of the need to be superior

All of us are equal in the eyes of God. Each and every person is a manifestation of divinity. We all have a special purpose of our own. No one is inferior or superior. However it is natural for the ego to identify others on the basis of their appearance, achievements, intelligence and possessions, and judge itself as superior in some way. A superiority complex is a form of hostility, and attracts back only hostile feelings, and keeps us disconnected with source.

Step 5) Let go of the need to have more

The ego is never satisfied and always wants more. No matter how much one achieves or acquires, it is never enough for the ego. However this constant need of wanting more keeps one perpetually in a state of lack, and only brings back more lack. Instead, when we let go of this need to have more, we naturally start attracting abundance in our life. The nature of source is to be contended, without any lack, and hence contentment is necessary to be connected to the source.

Step 6) Stop identifying yourself on the basis of your achievements

The ego’s concept is that “I did it” – It is I who achieved everything. All spiritual students are taught that “We are not the doer”. What does that mean? It means giving up the need to take credit for all achievements. A person advanced on the path realizes that ultimately all talents are given by Him, and the credit for all achievements also goes to Him.

We just need to be grateful that He has given us unique talents with which we fulfil our purpose in this world. Taking all credit for our achievements is like the pen taking credit for writing a poem that the poet penned down. As long as we think “we did it”, the ego is active and we are disconnected from our source.

Step 7) Let go of your reputation

Your reputation lies in the minds of others and you have no control over it. When we are overly concerned about what others think of us, we are disconnected from our source and become a slave to other’s opinions. The real voice to listen to the voice of the heart – in doing so one is truly connected to his purpose and fully connected to the source. Your reputation has nothing to do with you – so let others debate over it.

Dr. Wayne Dyer

The power to manifest the life you desire.

mind_powerCan you imagine what could emerge in the world if all of us were living the life of our grandest dreams?

It would be great! Yet there seems to be a large gap between what most of us want and what we really get.

Have you ever found yourself feeling helpless because your doctor can’t seem to figure out your illness or ailment? Or your therapist understands what the problem is (even tells you how to fix it) but no matter how hard you consciously try, you keep making the same mistakes.

The power to manifest the life you desire is truly inside you – in your subconscious mind.  And I’m living proof that Focused and Intention is one of the most effective ways to access and clear old subconscious patterns that are holding you back from the life you really want.

My personal healing journey has been one of triumph over adversity but I would not honestly change a single event in my life.   Each moment – good or bad – has contributed to deepening my inner knowing so I can share my gifts with the world. For the past 20 years I have made it my personal mission to create a safe place on Earth so people can journey to their full potential with comfort and integrity.  Through my own personal growth the Creator has shown me the way to loving teachers with powerful healing modalities.

Our beliefs are magnetic forces that attract or repel things from us. The Law of Attraction, popularized by the movie The Secret, states that the imagination of sensory detail of our future life and the things that we wish to have in our life actually cause their manifestation – because the universe attracts to us all things that are in harmony with the mental and emotional energies of our projection.

This is a law of the energetic universe – like energies attract like energies. Create energy with your mind and the universe answers with the same kind of energy. The better you craft your energetic ideas, the more elaborate the universe’s response will be.

The catch is our subconscious mind puts out energy of enormous magnitude, dwarfing whatever our conscious mind projects. Crippling and limiting beliefs in the subconscious prevent us from manifesting what we consciously want. Therefore, however inspiring it may be, it is not enough to watch The Secret or read dozens of books published on this basic law of nature, unless you access and improve the contents of your subconscious mind.

With focus and intention healing you can connect with your source and produce profound changes in your subconscious beliefs and your life.

One man I worked with had the belief: “It’s not safe to speak my true feelings.”  Each and every time he tried, he was overcome with heavy guilt and shame. On numerous occasions he tried changing the belief with positive thinking and with the law of attraction but he never had lasting results. When we got to the core of his belief using focus and intention he instantly felt a weight being lifted from his shoulders. He regained his self confidence and was able to speak what he needed without the heavy weight of guilt.   His conscious mind was no longer being fed a command from his subconscious mind that is was unsafe to share his feelings.   After he felt safe and confident when the limiting belief system was changed and he was finally able to take care of his personal needs which included getting out of a five year abusive relationship.

We develop beliefs at a very early age from our caregivers, our experiences and our environments. These beliefs are stored in our subconscious mind which then plays the same tapes over and over. This is why we tend to react the same old ways, even in new situations.

The great news is that we have the ability to consciously evaluate our responses to environmental stimuli and change old responses. According to the holistic model our being is made up of spiritual, mental, emotional and physical aspects.  What we believe affects what we think, what we feel and what we do. Science now confirms that our beliefs even profoundly and directly affect our biology!

For example, if I don’t BELIEVE people can be trusted, I might think people want to hurt me. If I THINK people want to hurt me that is going to affect how I FEEL because energy follows thought.  If I feel fear towards people, that will affect the choices I make and what I DO. If I fear relationships, I will not let people get close physically which could lead to feeling disconnected and alone or create health problems. Once I become aware of how this belief affects me I can change my belief with Theta Healing to create a broader conscious awareness.

Events that happened in our life that we don’t finish processing get held in our energetic field on all levels. These unfinished events have a big hidden influence on many of the choices we make and the things we do or don’t do.

The trick to getting rid of unwanted beliefs and values is to be able to learn how to spot them.  First, pay attention when something happens that ‘pushes your buttons.’  Second, stop and listen inside. The secret is in the momentary gap – AFTER the outside event and BEFORE your feelings about it.

When we stimulate the mind and clear negative thought impulses, we can raise the vibration of the brain action to a place in which new creative solutions to problems arise and you are able to manifest anything that you wish to attract into your life.

Every time you identify the belief and use focus and intention on yourself or others you are bringing more balance to your life and raising your vibration level because the more negative thought impulses you clear out from your subconscious, the more you will connect to this creative flow. When you no longer are RE-acting toward life, you begin to become present to the infinite possibilities held in each moment.

I imagine that some of you may have thought: “I’d love to change, but I don’t know how.” Some of you are probably scared to take steps to change, while some of you have just been waiting for the right time. Well now is that right time. I want to invite you to take the opportunity to remove an obstacle that’s been in your way, take on an issue that you’ve been ignoring, address one of your integrity issues, find the courage to get help with one of your addictions, uncover one of your biggest lies, give up a grudge or an insecurity, face one of your biggest fears, and to be able to enthusiastically finish this sentence: “Thank God I finally handled__________________!”

Note: This information is for educational purposes only. It is intended to supplement your current health program and not to replace the care of a doctor.  For diagnosis or treatment of any disease please consult a licensed physician.

 

Loretta MohlLoretta MohlAbout the Author:

Loretta Mohl, Coach, Author & Founder FIT

Loretta has spent the past 25 years living and promoting heart-centered consciousness. She is the founder of the Canadian College of Healing Arts and the Focused Intention Technique™; both are dedicated to providing a service which awakens the individual’s Unlimited Potential. Since her introduction to energy healing in the late 80s, she has studied many formal and natural healing approaches. After those years of study and much reflection, she formulated Focused Intention Technique™ (FIT™) utilizing many elements from her life’s work and drawing deeply from her own instincts. She named this dynamic healing modality, Focused Intention Technique™, because it so perfectly describes what she knows to be the absolute truth: The body knows how to heal itself and by just activating intention and focus, the body will do the rest.   Check our blog http://justlivingyourlife.com or website at www.lorettamohl.com for more information or to recieve your free meditation journey.