I love my kids! How much do you love your kids!!

 I love my kids! How much do you love your kids!! Because attracting the wrong people into their lives is on your head! meaning the type of friends and people you choose to be around you and your children”
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I love my kids! How much do you love your kids!!

How much do you love your children? Because attracting the wrong people into their lives is on your head! meaning the type of friends and people you choose to be around you and your children”

Setting the right foundations from the very beginning, from the moment they start watching you is so important, and continuing throughout as they grow. It is an important part of our parenting involving making decisions making sure your children are not surrounded by the wrong type of people.

I mean come on your not stupid  you know what I mean  if you have major selfish ‘me me me’ drama kings  or queens around your children .. That is not taking responsibility is it!  Having responsibilities and having duties to perform in keeping our kids safe at all times is one of our main priorities.

Sometimes we may wonder how to achieve a balance with these different demands they are conflicting for many people the first step to finding a balance is by holding a positive mind-set around them even through the bad, the bad is there for a reason it helps change our way of thinking for the better but that’s for us not our children, their time will come later on in life  …You have to believe  “(positive mind set)” in you in the people you associate with and around  is the best start for your children.

In “Parenting with Love and Logic” by Fay and Cline, they describe a child who needs to know their parents love them by setting firm limits. Children push their parents to see if they are going to be consistent, because if they are, the child will feel safe and stable, but if not, they will actually feel insecure and anxious growing up.

The authors liken this to a child leaning against a wall to see if it will hold up and not crumble; if they push against the wall and it crumbles, the child realizes that very little in life is stable and secure. At the same time, a wall is not going to push against the child either, it is not going to fall on top of them or hurt them, it just stands firm. Just as our children yearn for stability, we desire the same as adults.

“In all things that you can buy you will get what you paid for… In children, you will get back what values you put into them”.

Children, unfortunately do not come with “time-outs,” however, their needs must be met. In those times I have always managed to pick myself back up and continue to be the capable human being my children deserve and what they have helped make me today. Don’t worry that children never listen to you; WORRY  that they are always  WATCHING YOU ! And as your children get older  If you have never been hated by your child at some point you have never been a parent.

I wont lie I have made mistakes we all make mistakes. It is part of the learning process. Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything  new to better their life. Are you the kind of person who can learn from those mistakes?

I love my kids! How much do you love your kids!!

Really think about the kinds of values you would want to install in your children. The brain of a child is like a little sponge, it will soak everything up, hold it for as long as it can and then it will wring itself back out. If you want what comes back out of their sponge to be clean for them, then guess what? You need to be completely accountable for your actions. If you are not ready for near total accountability, you are not ready to have children.

I am a capable human being but there have certainly been times where I have literally curled up into a corner and had myself good, heart-wrenching sobs. In those moments I felt there was no possible way I could continue to go on doing what needed to be done but if you love and care for your children in a natural way you should do you will  always end up were you are needed to end up.

Happiness and comfort’ is a choice Life is a choice. It is YOUR life and you are the start of your child’s/children’s life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness for you and them.

THINK!╰დ╮❤╭დ╯SEE!  KNOW! ~J.Wellington ~

How to stay grounded

Intuition ~ an Intuitives View

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Intuition ~ an Intuitives View

In these days of burgeoning interest in all topics metaphysic, intuition and psychic phenomena have piqued the curiosity of many. Indeed, we have all, by and large, been fascinated by accounts of experiences involving psi (that elusive “x” factor that causes psychic phenomena), usually assuming that these phenomena belong to a realm out-of-the-ordinary and are not within the daily purview of most of us “common folk.”

As one who has delved more and more deeply into the world of intuition as a practicing intuitive, albeit somewhat unintentionally, I would like to share some of the things I’ve learned about these interest-provoking, yet little understood phenomena. I say “albeit somewhat unintentionally” because I did not set out years ago to have this as a career goal: it was not what I majored in in college nor something I had ever seen myself doing.

However, at the same time, being somewhat of a “reluctant” intuitive has given me an interesting perspective on this often misperceived topic as I had to develop and work with a faculty I didn’t even know was there.

I think what most of us do is to assume that intuitive/psychic phenomena are something that other people experience (and I’ll use these terms interchangeably in this article to refer to informational phenomena, rather than other forms involving psychokinesis, teleportation, etc.). One thing (of the many) that I’ve learned from doing this work is that everyone is intuitive and can have “psychic experiences.” Intuition is democratic; it really is everyone’s birthright.

I’ve also learned that what I used to consider as other-worldly really is a very natural part of life. Intuition and psychic knowing are actually another form of intelligence, another way of knowing and apprehending. For those who are interested in developing and using their full mental and knowing potential, developing and using their intuition is essential.

However, one flip side of this aspect of intuition is that, because intuition really is a form of intelligence, it is not always connected to spirituality. We have often assumed that intuitives, just because they are intuitive, are spiritually oriented; this ain’t necessarily so! As an ability, it can be used for good or ill, just like anything else.

Consider, for example, the reports of psychics who tell vulnerable clients that they have a curse on them and they can remove it for some exorbitant fee. Although this sort of misuse would appear to be in the minority, the point is that spirituality is not always a correlate of psychic ability nor, conversely, is psychic ability necessarily a portal to mystical wisdom and higher knowing. When the two are combined, however, ah, now that’s a beautiful thing! But I’m digressing….

One fascinating aspect of intuition is that it can come in many different forms and, just as I am convinced that everyone has intuitive ability, so too have I learned that the form it can take can vary greatly from one person to another.

I always assumed that intuitive or psychic information came in the form of sudden, strong awareness, almost like being hit by information, and, indeed, some people do get information like this. Intuitive insights can also be very subtle — a sense or feeling or impression about something.

And some people simply have a knowing about things; this knowing can be so deep that it will often be there with no effort, as if by osmosis, a knowing that is deeply integrated and ingrained and may just come to conscious awareness at the appropriate time. One just knows — without knowing how one knows or when one came to know.

Aside from the strength or subtlety of these awarenesses, the form can vary greatly as well. Some people will see images or hear voices (either literally through the auditory faculties of their ears or in their heads or minds). Some may see or sense colors. Others may have an impression that does not come in the form of one of the five senses.

Some people are very sensitive to energy, whether it’s the energy of a place or location, people’s energy, geological or geothermal energy, nature energy, animal or plant energy, or even color or light energy. Some people are sensitive to the energy of objects, receiving information from holding them. This latter form is called psychometry and many forensic psychics who specialize in working with police on solving crimes work with this form.

The type of information that comes from intuition can also vary. We have all had mundane experiences where we think of a song right before it’s played on the radio or think of someone just before they call on the phone. Psychic information can come in the form of events — what is going to happen — whether trivial or significant. It can also come in the form of meaning, what the meaning or significance is of what someone is going through.

There are truly many variations on the forms and types of intuitive experiences and the information they may provide, as well as the way they come to people. I am often asked by clients how I receive my information and what form it comes in.

It took me a long time to figure this out and to know how to respond, because I was not doing what I thought an intuitive did (or should do?). (I read people’s energy — directly experiencing it — on a level not usually associated with the body, receive information, and work to interpret it — usually in the form of a direct experiencing that is difficult to define, a sense, an impression, sometimes visual images, sometimes words or quotations, sometimes colours, etc. I am particularly sensitive to people’s and animals’ energy.

And I also have a deeply seated knowing about things.) Some intuitives/psychics specialize in certain types of phenomena or information: some specialize in health, working as medical intuitives; some, in finding missing people or lost objects; some, in communicating with passed-on loved ones; some, in animal communication; etc. Some people directly access their information; others work with guides as intermediaries.

The point I would like to make is that intuition/psychic informational experiences are a much richer, more complex, and diversified phenomena than most of us have realized and, because of their richness and complex beauty, are well deserving of our admiration as another of the universe’s creations and marvels.

We can all have one or more types of intuition in one or more forms. The information or content we get can run the gamut from the mundane to the divinely sublime. But we all usually have some form or forms of it, and, if we’re truly open and don’t put preconceived terms and self-imposed limitations on it, can receive many different types of information in different forms.

The trick is to start to work with what we have (and may not even know that we have). Ofttimes someone will have an ability and just assume that everyone else does. For instance, a gifted healer I know has always been able to see people’s organs and assumed that everyone else had this trait.

It is in starting to work with what we have that we start to open up the treasure chest that we have been given in our lives. There are many benefits of doing this aside from the trivial and temporary side effects of wowing or entertaining ourselves or others, or of simply manipulating energy or playing psychic games.

We can have many practical benefits in our lives with regard to information that can be helpful to us in a practical, quotidian fashion. For instance, we have all heard about people averting potential tragedy or catastrophe by heeding gut feelings or other intuitive information they received.

In addition and quite significantly, when we begin to tap into our own intuitive/psychic knowing ability, we begin to strengthen in ourselves. Once we begin to develop our own knowing, it is very powerful and deepening. No one can take that away from us. With knowing comes the beginning of understanding. And with understanding and insight can come wisdom if we are so open and so inclined.

There are many ways of starting to develop our innate gifts. There are several very good books on this subject that are available. I as well as others have taught workshops on this. One can just practice and feel one’s way along.

The key is to know how it works for us and also simply to believe that it is indeed there. We have to first acknowledge and own that we do, in fact, have some form(s) of intuitive ability. Once we figure out how ours manifests, we must honor our gifts and their form(s).

“One tricky little potential sticky point to using intuition/psychic ability is in learning to distinguish what is true knowing from what may be coming from our own “stuff” — our wants, needs, fears, mindsets, beliefs, etc. True intuition is not colored by emotional feelings; it is neutral, colorless. Nor is it filtered through our mindsets or cultural filters. If we get a feeling about something that is tinged with, for example, fear, it may just be coming from our own issues. Pure intuitive information is just that: pure, and uncontaminated by our “stuff.”

One reason why it may have been more difficult for us in our contemporary Western culture to work with our intuition, aside from the fact that it hasn’t been valued in our culture, is that it often works in a different way from our normally used and encouraged faculties. Intuition is receptive.

It is a receiving of information, which is a different mode from that of our left-brain logical modes which are active as we analyse and probe. Instead of trying to figure things out intuitively (which doesn’t work because it’s a figurative oxymoron), we must instead receive information, paying attention to what comes. I am convinced that we all receive information all the time. It’s just that we aren’t trained or encouraged to pay attention to these subtleties.

As a matter of fact, I am convinced that we are all spoken to all the time by this wonderful universe, if we are inclined to listen or pay attention to the signs we are given.

It is perhaps my own personal prejudice, but I also feel that the highest manifestations of intuition/psychic information come in a spiritual form and/or have spiritual relevance — that give us information for our own progress on our paths (or for others on their paths).

I haven’t figured it all out yet, but I have a strong sense that the more we connect to the knowing place within ourselves, the more we also connect to the divine. And the more we consciously connect with the divine, the more true knowing we have.

We don’t have to become professional practicing intuitives or psychics to develop our potential and benefit from it. Intuition is real. It is a very natural part of life. And it can be yours if you desire for it to be. It can enrich your life, as well as that of others around you. And it is deserving of our respect, because it can serve a quite honorable purpose.

This article was first published in “Innerchange Magazine” in the February/March 1998 issue.

 – About the Author:

Diane Brandon is the Host of “Living Your Power” on the Health & Wellness Channel of VoiceAmerica.com, as well as an Intuition Teacher, Integrative Intuitive Counsellor, and Speaker. She is the author of “Invisible Blueprints” and several articles on personal growth topics, as well as a contributing author to “Speaking Out” and “The Long Way Around: How 34 Women Found the Lives They Love.” Her private work with individuals focuses on personal growth, working with dreams, and personal empowerment, and she has done corporate seminars on intuition, creativity, and listening skills. More information may be found on her websites, http://www.dianebrandon.com and http://www.dianebrandon.net. She may be contacted at diane@dianebrandon.com.

Life Experiences – Choice – Karma – Unconditional Love – Part 3

Life Experiences - Choice - Karma - Unconditional Love - Part 3

Life Experiences – Choice – Karma – Unconditional Love – Part 3

“I am he, and he is me, and we are all together”.

Is this what the great masters and teachers such as Jesus, Buddha, and Muhammad have been implying for centuries? If so, I was beginning to understand it. The spirits fondly expressed to me that when we have real attachments to things, such as to a particular writer, poet, artist, or sculptor, and are drawn to his or her work, it is  probably because we were actually the creator of that piece of work.

Karma

If we read  something from history that profoundly teaches us, we may have been part of the  actual event. Even if we are extremely attached or moved to help someone, perhaps to support a child in a Third World country, then we are probably that  child in a different lifetime expression. Do unto others as you would do unto  yourself; the other might actually be you! Now there’s a thought.

I am  still processing this information and probably will be for several years to  come. It is amazing. The spirits have since taught me to journey to my other  lifetimes and to remember the wisdom I gained from each lifetime expression. I have also learned to journey to souls I would like to learn more about. The possibilities available through journeying are unlimited. Journeys to other  lifetimes can be extremely informative, but also lots of fun. I highly recommend  them for anyone practicing their journey skills.

We need to  understand that lifetimes are both experiences of the soul and an exchange of energy. We also need to remember that everything is energy. Lifetimes are energy, and thoughts, words, and actions are energy. Everything is energy and  everything affects and is affected by everything else. Energy used in a  directive way is power. The universe is in a constant state of motion  striving to keep energy in balance. Even if we are not consciously aware of our  energy and how it affects the whole universe, the universe is aware of it. We  are all very powerful beings.

Karma

The actions of every person on the planet  affect the lives of us all; one never does anything that is isolated from  others. We are all interconnected in a divine sphere relating, interrelating,  and exchanging energy in a holographic and profound way.

These  interrelationships are extremely complex, colouring every experience we  have. I understand that this is a difficult concept because it is so  vast, so I will describe it metaphorically: A butterfly hatches out of its cocoon 2,000 years ago. It sits in the sun in a far away country to dry its  wings. It then begins to flap its wings, moving the air around its body. That  movement of air alters the surrounding nature and the influences expand ever  outward. That continuing effect of change creates our weather patterns today!

This metaphor is, in truth, an  expression of the scientific principle of complexity. Quantum theory recognizes  the complex association of  interdependence as fundamental to reality. All of existence self-orders into a  purposeful, yet unpredictable pattern.  Science, however, “discovered” this reality long after it was known to mystics. In the study of spirituality, the manipulation of  energy is fundamental. Directing energy in a powerful way through intention can  be used for both good and evil. People can be harmed or healed through words  that carry powerful intentions.

Jan  Engels Smith –    About the Author:

Jan Engels-Smith promotes self-healing, empowerment, better communities, a  healthy world and conducts workshops in shamanism & journeying. Her book,  Becoming Yourself is at http://www.LightSong.net .  Jan’s a Licensed Counsellor. She’s done over 2,000 soul retrievals. She is the  founder of LightSong School of Shamanic Studies, a Chemical Dependency  Specialist, and Marriage Therapist. She is a water-pourer for sweat lodge, a  minister, a Reiki Master.

Knowledge and Understanding

Knowledge and Understanding

Knowledge and Understanding

As a spiritual medium I believe that we are on this earth to learn and progress. One of the principles of The Spiritualist National Union is that Eternal Progress is Open to Every Human Soul. But we also have “free will” so the choice is really ours, we can race through to the end learning nothing and make no progress at all… it really is our choice!

As explained above the gaining of knowledge is so important to our spiritual progression, but knowledge alone is no good without the complete understanding of the knowledge gained, sometimes the understanding can only be achieved through practical experience. For some people being given information is not enough, sometimes it is as the old saying goes “you have to learn the hard way”.

One of the biggest mistakes we can make with knowledge is to feel “we have the answer” that “we are right”, that “we know what we know”, because although we may posses a certain amount of knowledge maybe on a particular subject, or aspect of life, it doesn’t mean we are right all of the time. It could be that we only have limited knowledge, we may not have not completely “understood” the knowledge gained or it could be that we lack the necessary experience(s) to understand what we have learned. We should always be open to any of these possibilities.

“life is like an eternal classroom”

The gaining of knowledge and the further understanding of what we have learned is a never ending process. It really is like being in the “classroom of life”. We should never assume we know all, we should always remain flexible and be prepared to accept that we don’t know all there is to know, our minds should stay open to the endless possibilities and experiences life has to offer, to learn all that we can, and then go through the process of understanding and digesting that knowledge.

Books, Television, friends, associates and various other forms of media are all good forms of learning, however the information received may not always be correct, it may be biased, it may be incomplete, it is up to us to digest the information received and then decide for ourselves if it is correct or if it needs further study.

“To know that we know what we know, and that we do not know what we do not know, that is true knowledge.”

Henry David Thoreau.

As a natural medium I have had to both learn and unlearn, by unlearning I mean that some of what I held in my beliefs  to be true I have had to accept that I was wrong and therefore adjusted my own personal beliefs and philosophy on life. I have accepted that although I have natural mediumistic abilities, that those abilities have to be practised, used, understood and refined. (e.g. a footballer, athlete or musician may have natural abilities but it  is only through hard work, practice and study that they reach a professional standard of excellence.)

I have attended many classes, seminars and workshops in my attempt to gain the experience and knowledge that I need from mediums far more experienced than myself, in my attempt to be the best that I can be. I have subjected myself to open criticism, accepted that at times I have been wrong in the way I have interpreted information I have received and have been open to listen to, and learn from a wide range of people/mediums as I have walked my pathway. 

Just as with life, my learning, my development, my understanding of mediumship is an on-going lesson and I accept that I will never know all that there is to know, but as those who have gone before me I will always be available to share the knowledge and experience that I do have, with others that are willing to listen and learn, as I have done, and still do myself.

Real knowledge is to know the extent of one’s ignorance.

Confucius

Learning and Growing.

Learning and Growing.

Learning and Growing.

“Learning is like rowing upstream: not to advance is to drop back”.

Chinese Proverb

Realize that in every moment or event is a chance to improve and advance our knowledge. The more information we gather, the more we broaden our mind. Learning is an infinite journey. Yet we should never pretend to know everything or to understand what we do not. All this does is limit us, narrows our options, and destroys an opportunity for growth. Always embrace the chance to learn.

By opening ourselves up to advice, ideas, or input from others, we allow ourselves to expand our knowledge, skills, and expertise. This is not to say that you need to agree or accept everything or anything at face value, but be open to it. Examine and explore everything with the realization that, regardless of how far you have come, there is still so much more to learn and experience. Emerson wrote, “In every man there is something wherein I may learn, and in that I am his pupil.”

This perceptive quote is a tribute to all people and events—that in each one, there is something to gain, discover or take away, sometimes as the pupil and others, as the teacher. This approach will help you experience life at its fullest, increase your options, and foster success.

Each day brings challenges to strengthen our resolve and opportunities to thrive, but we need to reach out for them. Never be discouraged or feel uncomfortable because you do not know something. Adopt that as an opportunity to learn. Ask questions, be inquisitive, and always keep your mind prepared for new ideas or possibilities. Anything you encounter in your daily routine, whether meeting someone new, or collecting information, is a chance to grow and learn.

Daniel Bell wrote, “The most important attitude that can be formed is that of the desire to go on learning.”

The second we believe we are complete or have reached our potential, there is nowhere to go. The moment you think you know everything, understand you know relatively nothing—knowledge and information are infinite. If we consider ourselves green, we will grow; if we consider ourselves ripe, we will rot. Continually challenge and feed your mind with different ideas and insights.

George Matthew Adams wrote, “You are your greatest investment. The more you store in that mind of yours, the more you enrich your experience, the more people you meet, the more books you read, the more places you visit, the greater is that investment in all that you are. Everything that you add to our peace of mind, and to your outlook upon life, is added capital that no one but yourself can dissipate.”

Knowledge is omnipresent, all around us to gather and share. Lord Chesterfield wrote, “There is hardly any place or any company where you may not gain knowledge.” A great conversation is one that is equality balanced. Similar to a tennis match, it is a balanced exchange of ideas and information, sincere listening and giving—not a fencing match. Learn the power in being the pupil; one who seeks to learn and understand.

When at school, spend some one-on-one time with the professors. Take advantage of their office hours to collect invaluable insight into a subject. Inquire about a topic and gain a more in-depth understanding. At work, find someone who specializes in a different field of interest and initiate conversations. In essence, make an opportunity to learn something new every day. Family or friends hold an abundance of interesting facts, stories, and events that can enliven our minds and nourish our intellect. Imagine what could be accomplished with just an hour a day on a topic or subject.

Never develop a negative attitude or allow life to become redundant. Learn to challenge yourself daily and be open to new thoughts or discoveries. Find the power in even the smallest things. Life is extraordinary, if you work at it. Clutch onto the myriad of opportunities that are around us. Create a mindset to look for something interesting or informative daily. Learn a new subject, a language, or skill. Spend time reading about an issue or studying an interesting topic. Visit the library where you can get books, music, DVDs or books on tape to listen to in the car.

With so much to achieve in the world, never allow yourself to become narrow minded or bogged down with excuses. Be receptive to others; for there is power in perception and amazing opportunity. Keep moving forward and take in everything you can. Momentum is vital in becoming stronger, smarter, and accomplishing your goals. Always learning and growing is an attitude—a forceful approach and mature outlook for conquering life, not being conquered by it.

Thought for the day

We sometimes go through life, at full speed with our head down not really taking in what is happening around us or where we are going. Sometimes we may put the blinkers on because we really don’t want to acknowledge or see what is happening.

I often refer to life and knowledge like reading a book, we can speed through from cover to cover thinking how good or bad it was when we reach the end, but how much of the story or information we may or may not have gained have we really understood? It is one thing and a very good thing to gain knowledge and information as we go though life, but we must also gain an understanding of it too.

In spiritual terms that is why we are here “eternal progress open to every human soul” to learn and progress, but it is the understanding of the knowledge gained or lesson learned that enables the progression. It’s a little bit like correcting a naughty child, saying don’t do that or that was naughty but not explaining why. The child may see that it’s done wrong because you are correcting its mistake, but do they understand why or what they have done wrong if you haven’t explained? A lesson learned maybe, because they now know they shouldn’t do it, but is it a lesson that has been understood? Do they really know what they have done wrong?

We gain knowledge through books, school, television, the internet, friends and many other forms of media. Some of the information is useful, some of it good, some bad, some misleading, but it is the understanding of it that is important, acknowledging within ourselves, is the information right?, using our own intuition, does it feel right? then putting that knowledge into action in our own life, because this is what helps our own spiritual growth and develops our own personal philosophy on life and therefore determines the way in which we choose to live our life. We can decide to race through from cover to cover with our heads down and race to the end, not really understanding where we are, what we are doing or where we are heading or we can take time to learn, understand the lessons, put those lessons into practice within our own life, develop as individuals, and spiritually progress.

I know which one I choose… Which one will you?