Can You Change?

can you change

Can You Change?

Do you really believe that everyone can change his or her lives for the better? Of course you can and it takes only one decision. The issue exists that even when you decide to change your life for the better, you are up against the sum total of all your missed opportunities (past mistakes). So, it does not seem as easy as just a decision. However, the decision is the starting point. Anyone can change because we know that change is a constant, therefore we are always evolving. This means that we are always in a period of change.

The blockages that you come up against are those that are created by yourself believing that you cannot change and from others who want to see you hurt because it makes them feel better. Let’s look at each blockage a little more in detail, which will hopefully enlighten you as to the methods or ways to overcome these blockages.

The human being is a very resilient animal, yet if you bring in the spiritual aspect into the equation life becomes a rollercoaster and you are the one in control. It takes on a new meaning, rather like panning for gold and recognizing that you have just struck the mother load.

Believe in yourself! How many times have you heard this statement? I bet you have heard it many times over. It’s not as easy as you think, but the truth is that if you do not believe in yourself, you will find it very difficult to change anything or achieve anything. Many people fail at this first hurdle and it seems that everything you really want to be or change for the better is so far in the distance.

If you believe in a higher power you can believe in yourself and if you have difficulty with believing in a higher power, yet you are beginning to believe in yourself you can bet the higher power is at work. This is because you are a spiritual being and have an amazing power that you can harness to better yourself. No matter what you think of yourself, you have the right to happiness and this is a matter of choice.

Perhaps if you begin to really feel that you deserve happiness and no matter what causes lay in the past, you have the power to make the present wonderful by knowing that you can make the changes that are necessary. Every positive thing you do for yourself and in service to others strengthens your resolve for change to be affected.

Now even after you have gotten over that hurdle and you are beginning to feel better about yourself, you find another hurdle. This is the hurdle that is erected, not by yourself but by those who are damaged themselves and who do not want you to succeed in anything.

The truth is that many people are suffering needlessly and normally due to the three lacks. The Three Lacks are the same spiritual lessons that the Great Spirit has always wished to impart to us and that is;

  • Love
  • Forgiveness
  • Compassion

These are the three lacks that are also the spiritual lessons of life. If we lack in any of these three lessons or attributes, then we cause suffering not only to ourselves but also to those around us. This also means these people will act in such a way that will cause suffering to you because it makes them feel good, powerful and self gratifies themselves.

Hurdles that are borne from the Lacks are erected by those who do not wish you to change and who show you no compassion, love or forgiveness because it fuels their ego and makes them feel good. This is the worse type of suffering and no one deserves to suffer in life. So how do you deal with those Damaged People?

What you have to show or give is what they lack in themselves. Never retaliate, use loving speech and do not feed your negative seeds or the negative energy that may surround you. This reminds me of an old Cherokee Indian story that denotes the profound spiritual truth. A Chief from the Cherokee Nation was talking with his son.

“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight between two wolves.” The young boy listened intently. “One wolf is evil, unhappy, and ugly: He is anger, envy, war, greed, selfishness, sorrow, regret, guilt, resentment, inferiority/superiority, false pride, coarseness, and arrogance.

He spreads lies, deceit, fear, hatred, blame, scarcity, poverty, and divisiveness.” “The other wolf is beautiful and good: He is friendly, joyful, loving, worthy, serene, humble, kind, benevolent, just, fair, empathetic, generous, honest, compassionate, grateful, brave, and inspiring resting wholeheartedly in deep vision beyond ordinary wisdom.” The son paused in deep reflection of what his father had just said. Then he exclaimed; “Oyee! (In recognition).

His father continued; “This same fight is going on inside you and inside all human beings even though they fail to recognize it.” The young boy paused in deep reflection and recognition of what his grandfather had just said. Then he finally cried out deeply, “Oyee! Grandfather, which wolf will win this horrific war?” The elder Cherokee replied, “The wolf that you feed. That wolf will surely win!” Sometimes the greatest weapon you have is silence for within the silence is the nourishment for the soul.

Don’t feed fears for the fear will become the angry wolf and do not feed those that would seek to block you with your fear. You have the right to happiness as everyone has that right, and not one person should judge. You have to forgive yourself before you can forgive others and even though your path may seem blocked your light will shine and resilience will become stronger. You will leap over the hurdle that others erect.

The last and final hurdle that you will come across in your quest for change is the support network that you have around you. If you have no support you cannot stand. If your legs are taken from you, will you crawl on your belly or will you recognize that your spiritual legs can carry you further than the physical and material?

As a spiritual being, you can transcend any problem that is presented in the material world. Maybe your support network does not seem to be around you. The truth is that you have the support of the spirit and when the spirit is strong, it can answer the call that nature requires of it. You are a spiritual being that can overcome these hurdles and all you have to do is recognize the power of the spirit no matter what life throws at you.

The past is gone; the future has not arrived so the only time to live is now in the present moment.

Jock  Brocas –    About the Author:

Jock Brocas is a professional Psychic Medium who was natural from birth yet  developed later in life. Jock has dedicated his later years to his own spiritual  development and the professional development of his psychic and mediumship  gifts. Being a professional Psychic Medium is very rewarding but also has its  inherent problems. Nevertheless, Jock believes in the sanctity of mediumship and  takes his work as a psychic medium very seriously.

Jock is known for  giving irrefutable evidence and some of which can be validated much later. Jock  is passionate about the science of psychic mediumship and works closely with  many professionals in this field. He does not give general information that some  psychics throw out and prefers the protocol of scientifically controlled  telephone appointments. Jock very rarely gives psychic readings face-to-face  unless pre booked.

Jock developed his psychic gifts and mediumship later  in life when he was visited by a spirit. At first, this visitation shocked him  and terrified him, which led him into the true vocation he was here for, a  psychic medium’s life. He learned from his past and recognized that he was being  groomed to work for spirit all his life – from growing up with spiritual leaders  and spending time with religious communities – the path was being prepared. He  is also a trained vocalist and is currently working on an Album to be released  at some point in the future.

Jock Brocas (Psychic Medium) has studied  many martial arts in the past and dedicated his later years to the study of  Budo. He has amalgamated what he has learned in Budo and as a psychic medium to  help change individuals lives for the better.


Why the Need to Fear?

Why the Need to Fear? Fear has existed in the world for the beginning of time and still humans  cannot eliminate its existence

Why the Need to Fear?

Fear has existed in the world for the beginning of time and still humans  cannot eliminate its existence. Certainly fear can be a positive force in certain situations, but generally it can be a very detrimental energy force. It  can steer someone in the opposite direction of opportunity or safety. When  viewed in a positive light, it can stop a person from doing something that can  harm them emotionally, mentally, spiritually or physically. With unhealthy fear  comes anxiety, hesitation, resistance to change and progression.

So why is it  tolerated? Why does it continue to drive humanity to be destructive and  non-productive? Because, it has not been put in its place. Its lifeline, the  past, is constantly fuelled by imagination, lies bought into and delusion. The  more one feeds off of what has happened to them in the past, the more fear grows  in strength. And then there are the “ifs.” “What if this happens, or that person  reacts in this way or that or…”

The truth of the matter is that fear is  not real. It is fabricated and is a self-sabotaging excuse to keep a person  down-and-out. But, it is a choice for each person to decide to throw out this  self-defeating defence mechanism, which is completely broken, inept and again  not real and choose to live life through the power of love. Love casts out all  fear. The two cannot co-exist in a single thought or action. It sounds easier  than it is, especially when the world is volatile and is the home to all us for  however long we live.

I personally struggle with fear and every day I have to  reject its pathetic attempts to derail me by replacing whatever garbage it tries  to drop on my head with positive, self-affirming and courageous thoughts. Also,  acknowledging that the past is gone, it’s finished and it is history also gives  me leverage against unfounded fear.

Therefore, basing today, which is all that  DOES exist, on truth, the now, living in the moment and allowing the possibility  of greatness, beauty and life to occur is how we can eject fear. The mind, which  is nothing but a computer full of data, which is a compilation of truths, fabrications, fairy tales, nightmares among other things, unfortunately  malfunctions. As it malfunctions, other parts of ones being also malfunction.

When the mind sends out a false alarm, which it does countless times throughout  the day, emotional and physical responses occur if we don’t throw out is  messaging. Emotionally one may feel anxious, scared, worried, confused,  terrorized and isolated. Physically one may feel sick to their stomach, acquire  a headache, throw up, experience panic attacks or have a complete meltdown. All  because the mind decided to send out a fear alert when the present situation  didn’t call for it.

It goes back to living  with the Spirit leading the Mind as the Body follows. The Spirit never loses it  cool. It is not influenced by the mind or the body. It is taking orders from God  and when it is given top billing instead of being ignored, it can eliminate ALL  things and thoughts that are causing fear to erupt in irrelevant circumstances.  So, how can the Spirit lead the way without the mind jumping and giving its two cents worth or even a bucket worth?

By tuning in within and not allowing the  world and life and other people to externally regulate your life. Being a hermit  is not the answer for most of us. But you can “live” in a way where regardless  of the storm; you can remain in the eye and be still and at peace while the  winds, rain and thunder attempt to drown you.

It starts with accepting that a  Higher Power is in charge of the whole thing. That’s right. Every situation,  every person, every challenge, a Power greater than anyone of us can fathom, is  working behind the scenes and some cases just comes out of the shadows and steps  in and takes charge…if we let Him.

Our humanness though loves to be in control.  In fact, some of us are so used to waking up with fear that we have just  accepted it as part of the package. Again, we buy into the daily lies that are  dished out and instead of telling our minds to get the heck out of our way, we  cash in our chips and live from a place of falsehood and dismay.

It is  hard to believe that with all that is happening in the world, that one can find  peace within rather than in a whiskey bottle, a pill, toxic relationships or  broken dreams. The Spirit within knows the deal. Give it a chance to speak, get  quiet and listen. Meditate, pray, read positive literature, study spiritual  writings and just let go of the control.

Can’t you tell that the control is not  for any of us to have no matter what title, financial status, gender, personal  and professional clout has or how “popular” we are. In the end, what comes  around goes around and how someone attempts to enforce their so-called power on  others, the Universe keeps score and eventually what comes around goes around.

The world will never stop turning, people will never stop making mistakes and  change will continue to be the only constant. But, that is the joke. If we  really see how ridiculous the things we “think” (oops there goes the Mind again)  are important, they simply are not. While life in general runs around with its  head cut off and offers us the hatchet we can laugh knowing that we are  internally regulated and in the big picture man has turned Mother Earth into a spectacle and each other into punching bags for selfish gain. In end, what  anyone reaps, they will sow.

Being at peace with not having to always react, always get involved, always be overwhelmed, always overbook our calendars,  always saying yes to everything can stop the madness and we will look forward to  our reaping.

So many Spiritual leaders spoke and speak about being still  and quiet and turning within to find the true answers to questions that leave  one in a state of fear. Look past the fear and surprisingly there is no  substance, no legitimate reason for its existence. Choose to not believe in fear  and choose the existence of just love. Love is stronger than any political  leader, CEO, manager, parents, spouse, creditor, disease and financial hardship. 

Regardless of the outcomes, fear doesn’t belong in ones life. Love is the key  master that opens the door to positive possibility. Just ask for the key from  your Spirit and watch the doors open. Don’t peer inside, just jump in. It’s  called taking a risk on your own behalf. Throw all the fear-based tapes that are  piled up in the archives in your head and start creating new tapes for your mind  to run, even it is a phrase or a single works.

For example, “all things are  possible and all things are created in love. There is no room for fear in my  realm of being because I’m in the business of living in a state of peace, joy,  health and prosperity!”

In Love & Faith,
Athena  Kapantas
SELF, INC. Life Program

Athena  Kapantas –    About the Author:

I am the President of the SELF, INC. Life Program (  I decided to become  a writer of articles so I can perhaps offer up any insight that I have gained  and continue to gain, as a student of life, on how to manage our personal  worlds  in so we can manage them effectively and gain spiritual  enlightenment. Lastly, I want to be part of a community of people that are  committed to personal enlightenment, that wants to be enlightened and wants to  help other people be enlightened, or just want to find the darn light, turn it  on in our community and in the lives of others.