Mindfulness Meditation – How to Navigate Through Your Own Personal Minefield

The cultivation of greater mindfulness, however, can help us navigate through this personal minefield, alerting us whenever we get too close to danger.

Mindfulness Meditation – How to Navigate Through Your Own Personal Minefield

Bad experiences sometimes leave deep wounds on our psyche – scars that take a long time to heal. While time generally does heal most wounds, we don’t do ourselves any favours by going back and picking at them. In fact, replaying bad experiences over again in your mind is a recipe for disaster, for the negative thoughts and emotions that were buried can be brought back to life with explosively destructive force, just like a landmine buried long ago in a forgotten war. The cultivation of greater mindfulness, however, can help us navigate through this personal minefield, alerting us whenever we get too close to danger.

Where Are Your Mines Buried?

Some of us do a better job than others of just going with the flow of life, and not spending too much time looking back with regret, recrimination, or guilt, to name just a few of the toxic emotions that can accompany our memories. But for almost all of us, there have been some particularly painful moments along the way, and these are the landmines that we must map out and stay away from, lest we unleash a damaging flow of thoughts and emotions.

The emotions associated with past traumas don’t just make us miserable; they also have creative (which in this case means destructive) potential, transforming the events that transpire in our outer reality as well as the inner landscape which can often be bad enough by itself.

What sort of events have you buried?

  • An argument with a co-worker or family member?
  • An accident that you caused?
  • The death of a loved one or pet?
  • Rejection by an object of your affection?
  • Getting fired from a job?
  • Failing a test at school?
  • Saying something that hurt someone else’s feelings?
  • Betraying a friend’s confidence?
  • A period of severe poverty and insecurity?
  • The time other people abused you verbally or physically?

Obviously, the list is endless. There’s a pretty good chance that you’re working on something in your own list right now. Our inherent “negativity bias” is almost irresistible, constantly drawing us back to the worst memories and the most negative expectations for the future. That sort of thinking once made sense in an earlier evolutionary environment, where the avoidance of real threats to our survival was paramount, but in today’s generally much safer world, this default “doom and gloom” setting does us no favors at all.

Awareness of the Danger Will Protect You

While conventional mindfulness practices, which teach us to be aware of what we’re doing, moment-to-moment, with our minds, can tell us when we’re dwelling on negative memories, they don’t do nearly enough to inform us about the very real danger of this type of thinking. Buddhist mindfulness does not embrace the much more modern New Age concept that we create our physical realities with our thoughts and emotions, and simply confines itself to inner reality.

While there is undoubtedly real benefit to be derived from a more harmonious inner life, the real danger we must avoid is the physical manifestation of our negative thoughts and feelings. This danger is very real, and the power of our most upsetting memories is particularly likely to expose us to harmful manifestations.

For unlike the positive manifestation goals so beloved of self-help authors like Rhonda Byrne, we know exactly what these bad experiences feel like and we can remember every little painful detail in technicolour glory. In short, it’s much, much easier to create bad realities than good ones, and we have to police ourselves constantly to protect ourselves from these self-inflicted wounds.

So the next time you catch yourself dwelling upon the worst events of your past, just stop. No matter how justified you feel you are in rehashing that event, you must remind yourself of the power of your thoughts and emotions. A simple way to manage yourself is to ask whether you want to relive that experience – or something very similar to it – again. Because if you don’t watch out, that is exactly what will happen.


ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Richard M. Frost

When replaying past events, one of the most damaging thought patterns we must avoid is that of self-blame. Critics of the New Age use that issue as an argument against the reality-creation principle, but it is – ironically – a strong argument in favour of New Age ideas.

Can You Change?

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Can You Change?

Do you really believe that everyone can change his or her lives for the better? Of course you can and it takes only one decision. The issue exists that even when you decide to change your life for the better, you are up against the sum total of all your missed opportunities (past mistakes). So, it does not seem as easy as just a decision. However, the decision is the starting point. Anyone can change because we know that change is a constant, therefore we are always evolving. This means that we are always in a period of change.

The blockages that you come up against are those that are created by yourself believing that you cannot change and from others who want to see you hurt because it makes them feel better. Let’s look at each blockage a little more in detail, which will hopefully enlighten you as to the methods or ways to overcome these blockages.

The human being is a very resilient animal, yet if you bring in the spiritual aspect into the equation life becomes a rollercoaster and you are the one in control. It takes on a new meaning, rather like panning for gold and recognizing that you have just struck the mother load.

Believe in yourself! How many times have you heard this statement? I bet you have heard it many times over. It’s not as easy as you think, but the truth is that if you do not believe in yourself, you will find it very difficult to change anything or achieve anything. Many people fail at this first hurdle and it seems that everything you really want to be or change for the better is so far in the distance.

If you believe in a higher power you can believe in yourself and if you have difficulty with believing in a higher power, yet you are beginning to believe in yourself you can bet the higher power is at work. This is because you are a spiritual being and have an amazing power that you can harness to better yourself. No matter what you think of yourself, you have the right to happiness and this is a matter of choice.

Perhaps if you begin to really feel that you deserve happiness and no matter what causes lay in the past, you have the power to make the present wonderful by knowing that you can make the changes that are necessary. Every positive thing you do for yourself and in service to others strengthens your resolve for change to be affected.

Now even after you have gotten over that hurdle and you are beginning to feel better about yourself, you find another hurdle. This is the hurdle that is erected, not by yourself but by those who are damaged themselves and who do not want you to succeed in anything.

The truth is that many people are suffering needlessly and normally due to the three lacks. The Three Lacks are the same spiritual lessons that the Great Spirit has always wished to impart to us and that is;

  • Love
  • Forgiveness
  • Compassion

These are the three lacks that are also the spiritual lessons of life. If we lack in any of these three lessons or attributes, then we cause suffering not only to ourselves but also to those around us. This also means these people will act in such a way that will cause suffering to you because it makes them feel good, powerful and self gratifies themselves.

Hurdles that are borne from the Lacks are erected by those who do not wish you to change and who show you no compassion, love or forgiveness because it fuels their ego and makes them feel good. This is the worse type of suffering and no one deserves to suffer in life. So how do you deal with those Damaged People?

What you have to show or give is what they lack in themselves. Never retaliate, use loving speech and do not feed your negative seeds or the negative energy that may surround you. This reminds me of an old Cherokee Indian story that denotes the profound spiritual truth. A Chief from the Cherokee Nation was talking with his son.

“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight between two wolves.” The young boy listened intently. “One wolf is evil, unhappy, and ugly: He is anger, envy, war, greed, selfishness, sorrow, regret, guilt, resentment, inferiority/superiority, false pride, coarseness, and arrogance.

He spreads lies, deceit, fear, hatred, blame, scarcity, poverty, and divisiveness.” “The other wolf is beautiful and good: He is friendly, joyful, loving, worthy, serene, humble, kind, benevolent, just, fair, empathetic, generous, honest, compassionate, grateful, brave, and inspiring resting wholeheartedly in deep vision beyond ordinary wisdom.” The son paused in deep reflection of what his father had just said. Then he exclaimed; “Oyee! (In recognition).

His father continued; “This same fight is going on inside you and inside all human beings even though they fail to recognize it.” The young boy paused in deep reflection and recognition of what his grandfather had just said. Then he finally cried out deeply, “Oyee! Grandfather, which wolf will win this horrific war?” The elder Cherokee replied, “The wolf that you feed. That wolf will surely win!” Sometimes the greatest weapon you have is silence for within the silence is the nourishment for the soul.

Don’t feed fears for the fear will become the angry wolf and do not feed those that would seek to block you with your fear. You have the right to happiness as everyone has that right, and not one person should judge. You have to forgive yourself before you can forgive others and even though your path may seem blocked your light will shine and resilience will become stronger. You will leap over the hurdle that others erect.

The last and final hurdle that you will come across in your quest for change is the support network that you have around you. If you have no support you cannot stand. If your legs are taken from you, will you crawl on your belly or will you recognize that your spiritual legs can carry you further than the physical and material?

As a spiritual being, you can transcend any problem that is presented in the material world. Maybe your support network does not seem to be around you. The truth is that you have the support of the spirit and when the spirit is strong, it can answer the call that nature requires of it. You are a spiritual being that can overcome these hurdles and all you have to do is recognize the power of the spirit no matter what life throws at you.

The past is gone; the future has not arrived so the only time to live is now in the present moment.

Jock  Brocas –    About the Author:

Jock Brocas is a professional Psychic Medium who was natural from birth yet  developed later in life. Jock has dedicated his later years to his own spiritual  development and the professional development of his psychic and mediumship  gifts. Being a professional Psychic Medium is very rewarding but also has its  inherent problems. Nevertheless, Jock believes in the sanctity of mediumship and  takes his work as a psychic medium very seriously.

Jock is known for  giving irrefutable evidence and some of which can be validated much later. Jock  is passionate about the science of psychic mediumship and works closely with  many professionals in this field. He does not give general information that some  psychics throw out and prefers the protocol of scientifically controlled  telephone appointments. Jock very rarely gives psychic readings face-to-face  unless pre booked.

Jock developed his psychic gifts and mediumship later  in life when he was visited by a spirit. At first, this visitation shocked him  and terrified him, which led him into the true vocation he was here for, a  psychic medium’s life. He learned from his past and recognized that he was being  groomed to work for spirit all his life – from growing up with spiritual leaders  and spending time with religious communities – the path was being prepared. He  is also a trained vocalist and is currently working on an Album to be released  at some point in the future.

Jock Brocas (Psychic Medium) has studied  many martial arts in the past and dedicated his later years to the study of  Budo. He has amalgamated what he has learned in Budo and as a psychic medium to  help change individuals lives for the better.

 

You are what you think is a well known mantra

You are what you think is a well known mantra.  To helps prepare your mind and allow your spirit to blend with this truth, I have listed 5 points below that I hope will help you:

  • Forgive. Let go of past hurts and mistakes. What has been said, or what has been done are all things of the past. They happened for a reason and we should learn from both the lessons and from those experiences. There is so much more ahead requiring our best efforts and energy. We cannot afford to carry the additional burden of past mistakes. Forgive yourself for your past mistakes, forgive others for theirs and move on. Feel the peace in your heart and be renewed.
  • Don’t look back look ahead. Looking back and worrying about events or incidents that have occurred are of no  benefit to us. They cannot be altered and the mental energy used  on dwelling over them is wasted energy. It is better to conserve such energy for creating new images and new visions for a new future.
  • Break free of resentment. Resentment stops progress. It is a mental resistance to something that has happened and over which we do not have any control. Resentment to an injustice, to having been treated unfairly, negatively and so on distracts us and weakens our spirit. Resolve to harness the energy and direct it towards a higher purpose.
  • Stop feelings of guilt. One of the most powerful negative emotions.  Guilt leads to a poor self-image. To be rid of guilt or to reduce the damage it can cause, we can act on what we feel guilty about. If it is about being selfish, share more at the next opportunity. If it is about not being kind and caring, be more generous and concerned in the future. We need to do what it takes to cut off from the guilt. We cannot afford to dwell on guilt and let it drag us down.
  • Clear mental blocks. There is nothing that we should hold onto or detach from if we want to free our spirit to grow and develop. Mental blocks obstruct our potential and stop the free flow of creative energy. Mental blocks take up valuable space which we need to free up and make available for creating the new wonderful images that we desire.

Whatever challenges life throws at us,  we can face those challenge and work at overcoming them. We have an unlimited and powerful spirit and also power of the mind, if we choose to work at developing and allowing  ourselves to use them.