Thoughts for the day… things we should remember…

Thought-for-the-dayIt takes years to build up trust, but only seconds to destroy it.

You can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that you’d better know something.

Don’t compare yourself to the best others can do, But to the best you can do.

It’s not what happens to people that’s important. It’s what they do about it.

Always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

You control your attitude or it controls you.

It isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

Your background and circumstances may have influenced who you are, But you are responsible for who you become.

Even if you do the right thing for the wrong reason, It’s still the wrong thing to do.

The Benefits of Forgiving Yourself

The one person who can cause you the most harm, be the most oblivious to your best interests, and the hardest for you to forgive: You

By virtue of being human, you carry within you the potential to do self-destructive and foolish things. You can hurt your loved ones and yourself. You may be hurting right now because of something that you did in the past. Forgiving yourself is in many ways more difficult than forgiving others. Because you know your heart, you cannot get away with partial or false forgiveness.

The Dangers of Self-loathing

When you are unwilling to forgive yourself, you turn the force of your bitterness and anger inward. 2,000 years ago, a wise man wrote that a house divided against itself cannot stand. So too, you cannot function properly if you resent yourself. Your relationships, your work, your physical health and your emotional well being are all likely to suffer significantly if you are in a state of unresolved conflict with yourself.

You may be able to get by for a time, you may be able to fool those around you, but in the end you cannot be untrue to yourself. Being bitter against your own soul for the mistakes of your past will lead to only one thing: self-loathing.

If you are harboring an unforgiving pain within, it is nearly impossible to forgive others. Pain piles upon pain, and your heart becomes hardened. In a tragically short amount of time, your self-loathing will turn into an angry, seething loathing of everything and everyone around you. When you reach that stage, you become very hard to love. The loathing that you broadcast will be returned to you — until you forgive yourself and begin restoring a healthy sense of self-worth.

The Joys of Self-forgiveness

  • Self-forgiveness brings about a corrected self-image. Free from blame, we can see our true potential and feel good about ourselves again. When you stop flagellating yourself for the sins of your past, your future looks much brighter.Forgiving yourself is not easy.
  • There can be no tearful confession, no heart to heart talk because all is already known and there is but one heart — a heart broken by a war that can have no winner.
  • Forgiving yourself requires a conscious effort to let go of the past and take an active step toward a happier and healthier future.There can be no falsity, no deceit.
  • If you are going to forgive yourself, you’ve got to go all the way. Let the mistakes of your past stay in the past. Push them away as if they never happened.

When you can honestly do that, only then can you earnestly forgive others, only then can you begin to move away from bitterness and toward your true goal: Happiness.

Written by devaezhilTamilnadu, India

You are what you think is a well known mantra

You are what you think is a well known mantra.  To helps prepare your mind and allow your spirit to blend with this truth, I have listed 5 points below that I hope will help you:

  • Forgive. Let go of past hurts and mistakes. What has been said, or what has been done are all things of the past. They happened for a reason and we should learn from both the lessons and from those experiences. There is so much more ahead requiring our best efforts and energy. We cannot afford to carry the additional burden of past mistakes. Forgive yourself for your past mistakes, forgive others for theirs and move on. Feel the peace in your heart and be renewed.
  • Don’t look back look ahead. Looking back and worrying about events or incidents that have occurred are of no  benefit to us. They cannot be altered and the mental energy used  on dwelling over them is wasted energy. It is better to conserve such energy for creating new images and new visions for a new future.
  • Break free of resentment. Resentment stops progress. It is a mental resistance to something that has happened and over which we do not have any control. Resentment to an injustice, to having been treated unfairly, negatively and so on distracts us and weakens our spirit. Resolve to harness the energy and direct it towards a higher purpose.
  • Stop feelings of guilt. One of the most powerful negative emotions.  Guilt leads to a poor self-image. To be rid of guilt or to reduce the damage it can cause, we can act on what we feel guilty about. If it is about being selfish, share more at the next opportunity. If it is about not being kind and caring, be more generous and concerned in the future. We need to do what it takes to cut off from the guilt. We cannot afford to dwell on guilt and let it drag us down.
  • Clear mental blocks. There is nothing that we should hold onto or detach from if we want to free our spirit to grow and develop. Mental blocks obstruct our potential and stop the free flow of creative energy. Mental blocks take up valuable space which we need to free up and make available for creating the new wonderful images that we desire.

Whatever challenges life throws at us,  we can face those challenge and work at overcoming them. We have an unlimited and powerful spirit and also power of the mind, if we choose to work at developing and allowing  ourselves to use them.

Change… we can but only if WE want to…

We frail humans are at one time capable of the greatest good and, at the same time, capable of the greatest evil. Change will only come about when each of us takes up the daily struggle ourselves to be more forgiving, compassionate, loving, and above all joyful in the knowledge that, by some miracle of grace, we can change as those around us can change too. ~ Mairead Maguire ~