Changing your life by Changing your mind

Changing your life by Changing your mind. Most of us feel upset and resentful from time to time, and for some that feeling seems to almost always be with us.  The word "resent" means literally to re-feel, so those who carry resentments are simply replaying unhappy times in their lives over and over again.

Changing your life by Changing your mind

Most of us feel upset and resentful from time to time, and for some that feeling seems to almost always be with us.  The word “resent” means literally to re-feel, so those who carry resentments are simply replaying unhappy times in their lives over and over again. 

One lady I worked with at one time kept saying to me, “But how can I feel happy when my husband is gone.”  I would usually tell her that she could feel sad that he was no longer with her, but she could begin to let go of the constant feelings of grief.  She insisted that wasn’t possible.  She would tell me that no matter how engrossing whatever she was doing was, she would also be thinking of how much she missed her husband and about all the things she wished she had done differently in her life with him..

It is very difficult to shift our thinking from one channel to another, but it can be done with lots and lots of practice.  The process can begin with the realisation that no matter how hard we work at it, we can not change reality. 

My patient’s husband was not going to come back, and she would never be able to change the way her life with him had been. 

By spending so much of her energy resenting the fact that he was gone, she was in effect poisoning the current moments in her life.  We talked about the fact that her husband would not have wanted her to think that way, and gradually she began to see that she could begin to shift her thinking to more positive thoughts.

Many people allow their thinking to get stuck in certain tracks, and they come to believe that it is not possible to change this.  Their take on life is that they feel what they feel, and there is no way to feel differently.  In recent years, science has come a long way toward proving that what we think determines what plays out in our lives.  It doesn’t do so directly, of course, or we would all be winning the lottery all the time. 

But when we think we are helpless to change our thinking, we find that is true in our lives.  When we begin to think about all the ways we might be able to shift our thought processes, we find we can do that occasionally.  Since practice makes perfect, we find that our ability to change our thinking can grow.

To give you an example of how this words, I will tell you that my parents lived through the “great depression” just prior to my birth.  It coloured their lives and I grew up thinking that no matter how much I had, it was never enough.  Eventually I realised that my thoughts were always of scarcity, so scarcity was what I attracted to my life. 

I worked very hard at shifting my thoughts to abundant thinking.  I would get mail from many worthy causes asking for donations.  In the past, I always felt that I did not have enough to give funds away.  Slowly I sifted my thinking to the realisation that I might not have much, but I had more than many others, so I opted to share the little I had.  Since I was sending out abundant thoughts into the universe, the abundance in my life grew and grew.

Changing your life by Changing your mind

If you have decided you want to learn to control your own thoughts (which will indeed change the way you view life and the people in it) you can begin by taking baby steps and progress from there.  Whenever, you find your thinking is going around and around like a hamster on a wheel, tell yourself that you would like to change the way you are thinking.  The way that works best for me is to ask for help from a power greater than myself.  I simply say, “Please help me not think this way.”  It helps if you have some more positive thoughts available. 

Think about something for which you are grateful.  Think, perhaps, about the reward you will give yourself when you have achieved a change in thinking.  Above all else, do not be discouraged when your thoughts shift back into an old rut.  Simply allow yourself to be aware that this has happened, and try again.  It will work if you work at it.

Sherry – About the Author:

I’m a retired senior, married 53 years, and have three sons and two grand children.  I’ve written all my life but have only published two books and one workbook.  I worked over 20 years as an addictions’ counsellor.  My most recent book is of scripture based daily meditations and is titled “Talks with our Creator.”

I love my kids! How much do you love your kids!!

 I love my kids! How much do you love your kids!! Because attracting the wrong people into their lives is on your head! meaning the type of friends and people you choose to be around you and your children”
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I love my kids! How much do you love your kids!!

How much do you love your children? Because attracting the wrong people into their lives is on your head! meaning the type of friends and people you choose to be around you and your children”

Setting the right foundations from the very beginning, from the moment they start watching you is so important, and continuing throughout as they grow. It is an important part of our parenting involving making decisions making sure your children are not surrounded by the wrong type of people.

I mean come on your not stupid  you know what I mean  if you have major selfish ‘me me me’ drama kings  or queens around your children .. That is not taking responsibility is it!  Having responsibilities and having duties to perform in keeping our kids safe at all times is one of our main priorities.

Sometimes we may wonder how to achieve a balance with these different demands they are conflicting for many people the first step to finding a balance is by holding a positive mind-set around them even through the bad, the bad is there for a reason it helps change our way of thinking for the better but that’s for us not our children, their time will come later on in life  …You have to believe  “(positive mind set)” in you in the people you associate with and around  is the best start for your children.

In “Parenting with Love and Logic” by Fay and Cline, they describe a child who needs to know their parents love them by setting firm limits. Children push their parents to see if they are going to be consistent, because if they are, the child will feel safe and stable, but if not, they will actually feel insecure and anxious growing up.

The authors liken this to a child leaning against a wall to see if it will hold up and not crumble; if they push against the wall and it crumbles, the child realizes that very little in life is stable and secure. At the same time, a wall is not going to push against the child either, it is not going to fall on top of them or hurt them, it just stands firm. Just as our children yearn for stability, we desire the same as adults.

“In all things that you can buy you will get what you paid for… In children, you will get back what values you put into them”.

Children, unfortunately do not come with “time-outs,” however, their needs must be met. In those times I have always managed to pick myself back up and continue to be the capable human being my children deserve and what they have helped make me today. Don’t worry that children never listen to you; WORRY  that they are always  WATCHING YOU ! And as your children get older  If you have never been hated by your child at some point you have never been a parent.

I wont lie I have made mistakes we all make mistakes. It is part of the learning process. Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything  new to better their life. Are you the kind of person who can learn from those mistakes?

I love my kids! How much do you love your kids!!

Really think about the kinds of values you would want to install in your children. The brain of a child is like a little sponge, it will soak everything up, hold it for as long as it can and then it will wring itself back out. If you want what comes back out of their sponge to be clean for them, then guess what? You need to be completely accountable for your actions. If you are not ready for near total accountability, you are not ready to have children.

I am a capable human being but there have certainly been times where I have literally curled up into a corner and had myself good, heart-wrenching sobs. In those moments I felt there was no possible way I could continue to go on doing what needed to be done but if you love and care for your children in a natural way you should do you will  always end up were you are needed to end up.

Happiness and comfort’ is a choice Life is a choice. It is YOUR life and you are the start of your child’s/children’s life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness for you and them.

THINK!╰დ╮❤╭დ╯SEE!  KNOW! ~J.Wellington ~

How to stay grounded

Spiritually Minded

How to stop absorbing other peoples negative emotions.

pain-lossEmotional freedom means learning how to stay centered in a stressful, highly emotionally charged world. Since emotions such as fear, anger, and frustration are energies, you can potentially “catch” them from people without realizing it. If you tend to be an emotional sponge, it’s vital to know how to avoid taking on an individual’s negative emotions or the free-floating kind in crowds.

Another twist is that chronic anxiety, depression, or stress can turn you into an emotional sponge by wearing down your defenses. Suddenly, you become hyper-attuned to others, especially those with similar pain. That’s how  empathy works; we zero in on hot-button issues that are unresolved in ourselves.

Read more >>> How to stop absorbing other peoples negative emotions.

Quantum Physics and Energy Healing

Many people had thought of energy  healing as nothing more than superstition of the eastern cultures.  Recently, advancements in quantum physics has brought a new understanding to the  impact that energy has on our beings.

Quantum Physics and Energy Healing

Many people had thought of energy  healing as nothing more than superstition of the eastern cultures. Recently, advancements in quantum physics has brought a new understanding to the impact that energy has on our beings. There are many   healing quotes that contain wisdom that has only recently been understood in the west thanks to these developments and understandings. Read on  to learn more about quantum physics and how it pertains to energy healing.

The body is composed entirely of energy. The field of quantum physics has  recently discovered that all matter is composed of energy. If you continue down  beyond the atomic level, you will eventually find what are known as “super strings” which are pure vibrations of energy. The frequency with which these  strings are vibrating determine what kind of matter they form. These sub-subatomic particles then interact with each other in ways that eventually form atoms.

These atoms form molecules, which form cells. And our cells ultimately form us. The resonance of the energy of which we are made determines  a lot about our bodies. The good news is, much like a stringed instrument, you can tune these strings to provide resonance and frequencies that are more beneficial to our being. But, like a poorly tuned instrument, if you don’t pay attention to your energy, you will find that things get out of harmony and lead to an unpleasant experience.

Failure to take the tune of your body seriously is what leads many people to  suffer depression, anxiety, stress, and illness. If you learn to use energy healing to manipulate the energies in your body, you will learn to sense disruptions  and negative energies in and around your body. This will give you an opportunity to improve your condition greatly if utilized properly.

Some of the forms of energy healing you can look into include: guided  meditations, Reiki, Qigong, Domancic Bioenergy Theory, Therapeutic Touch, and  Meridian Tapping. All of these methods take advantage of the bodies energies in  some way or another, and provide ways to manipulate them for positive  benefit.

It’s important that you stay in touch with your energies. They determine a lot about you. By ignoring these energies, you are leaving yourself without the ability to know what is really going on for you and your life. Keep your spirit in tune and you will sing a happy song. But fail to do so, and you will  suffer.

Many cultures have a form of energy healing, but the majority of our knowledge of this field originates from the wise Asian cultures of past millennia. Recently, a surge of information about these techniques has been coming to western cultures and captivating us. Many are sceptical, though, because it can not be proven by science. But plenty of people are able to  recognize the basic truths that form the principles of energy healing, chi and chakras. The advancements taking place in quantum physics will enable us to  justify the thoughts behind the practice and bring it to the entire world as a  validated medicine. Until then – choose  to believe.

Jill  Magso –    About the Author:

Jill Magso is a member of the Silva Team and contributes to spreading  enlightened ideas and sharing teachings about meditation practices. The Silva Method encompasses a variety of powerful exercises that take you deep into Alpha and Theta levels of the mind so that you can work within your subconscious as  well as your conscious mind.
 

Blaming Others (what are the consequences of blame or self-pity)

taking-responsibility-for-your-choicesIn all situations in life, you have the freedom and choice to choose how you will react and what actions you will take. You also have the power to control your thoughts. Ok, there may be some forces which are clearly out of your control but you do have the choice even in these situations on how you will react.

We often get into the habit of blaming other people for our circumstances or our unhappiness. We end up complaining to our friends or anyone who will listen. For example:

1) My partner stops me from doing things

2) My boss won’t listen to me

3) Its my parents fault that I am the way I am

Do you blame your boss for your lack of income? If so, will blaming them change things? Will it help the situation?

Do you blame your partner for your unhappy relationship or sit in self pity blaming your parents because ‘ they made you this way’? If you do, then you are just setting yourself up for more misery and keeping yourself stuck in the blame game.
The truth of the matter is, that in laying blame on others, you are giving someone else the power to impact your life in a massive way. When you are pointing the blame finger at someone else, who or what have you given your power away to? We often end up blaming others, as it is easier than actually taking action and taking responsibility ourselves.
If something is not working in your life, instead of blaming others, look at what action you can take to resolve the situation and take responsibility. I often believe we have three choices in situations which may not be working for us – Accept it, Change it or Walk away from it!
For example, if you don’t enjoy your job or feel you are not earning enough money, take responsibility and do something about it. Speak with your boss or update your resume and go out job searching! If you are not happy in your relationship, speak to your partner and if you are still unhappy – let them go and move on!
Try this exercise:

Where in your life are you laying blame?

Who have you given your power to in this situation?

What are the consequences of laying blame in this situation?

What specifically do you need to do to take responsibility in this situation right now?

So, if you find yourself pointing the blame at someone else, ask yourself what you can do to resolve the situation and take action. Remember, when you point the blame finger at someone else, you are also pointing three fingers backwards towards yourself.

 

article written by Lisa Phillips