Feeling overwhelmed and helpless?

Posted by Joanne wellington for mediumsworld.
Often times, life throws challenging situations at us that are beyond our control. Perhaps your relationship with your spouse is becoming worse and you are tired of trying to make it better. Or, you might have been laid off from a job and finding it challenging to meet ends. Perhaps your business is failing and unable to keep up with the competition. Or maybe you are tying to find the right life partner for many years now. In all the above situations, you tried your best to get what you want a number of times, only to encounter disappointment time after time. Now you feel overwhelmed and helpless with the problem at hand, and no longer believe that a solution is possible. Does this sound like you? If so read on.
Why do we give up?
Failure is painful. No one wants to try again and again just to fail each time and lose all respect of those around them in the process . In order to avoid further pain, our mind simply gives up on us. When this happens, one becomes unwilling to attempt anything further as the moment we think about the problem, all the painful thoughts of past failure overwhelms us, and all we are able to do is to give ourselves reasons why any action we take will not succeed.
The good news is that whatever  the life situation or whatever life throws at us, we can always turn it around once we decide to make it happen! Here are some tips to orchestrate the turn around :
1) Believe it is possible to succeed
The only real danger is your belief that there is no solution for your problem – that you are indeed helpless. You need to first remove this belief if you want to make any progress. The fact is that all power to find that solution lies within you – you are just not seeing the solution yet.
2) Your past is not equal to your future
Your future has got nothing to do with the past. By taking correct action in the present moment, you can create anything you want. Learn from the past but do not get stuck in it.
3) Practice Persistence
Success takes persistence. People who stick around longer without giving up open themselves to success more than people who give up easily when they fail a few times. Successful people never stop trying.
4) Do it better each day
While persistence is good, one needs to always look for better ways to solve the same problem. Get creative and see how you can solve the same problem in a better way, that you did not attempt yesterday.
5) There are no real failures
Each failure is a stepping stone to future success. Failures brings us much needed knowledge and experience that was lacking the last time around. If the correct lessons are learnt and applied from past experiences, success if not far away.
6) Consult with an expert
It is good to get some fresh ideas from other people who have experience and skill dealing with the challenges you are facing. For example, some relationships that you could not improve by yourself for over a decade can be turned around in a couple of months with help from a skilled relationship coach. The same goes with other areas of life such as your career, health and finances.
7) Stay positive and appreciative of what you do have
Just because one area of your life is not working the way you want, do not fool yourself into believing that your entire life has gone haywire. When we are focused on what is lacking, we just tend not to pay enough attention to what is working. Practice genuine appreciation of the areas of your life that are doing great. Whatever the situation, each one of us has a lot to be grateful for, that some others may not be blessed with.
8) Know that this too shall pass
No problem remains forever. Most of us have faced problems that perhaps felt like the end of the world many years back, that hardly cross our mind at this time. With continued right effort, you will find the solution much sooner than you think.

The Inner Coach – The Voice of Self Belief

The Inner Coach - The Voice of Self Belief. Do you remember when the last time was when you asked yourself, "who am I, and what do I stand for?" I bet it was rather a long time ago

The Inner Coach – The Voice of Self Belief

Do you remember when the last time was when you asked yourself, “who am I, and what do I stand for?” I bet it was rather a long time ago. The reason is like most people, you take yourself for granted. Hardly anyone thinks in sufficient depth about their beliefs, even though they are crucial to what makes a person an individual.

The question is what is a belief? Well a belief is a feeling of certainty about something particularly connected to yourself. Most beliefs are formed during childhood: the opinions of elder family members have a great influence on how a person turns out in life.

Self Belief

Beliefs can be separated into two straightforward categories – positive and negative. Having positive beliefs leads to a positive way of thinking and helps lead you towards your life goals. On the other hand negative beliefs produce negative behaviour. The main contributor to negative beliefs and thinking is the inner critic.

Do you know that little voice you hear in your head that tells you that you that you can’t do this, or you can’t do that? Well, that is what life coaches call the inner critic. The inner critic is great, and in fact essential, but only if it is kept under control. However, when the balance becomes upset, your inner critic can become a harmful energy in your life. An unchecked inner critic can wipe out your self-confidence in an instant.

The great news is though you also have the inner coach. This is the voice of self-belief, support and success. Your inner coach is the part of you that finds the solutions to problems, and gives you inspiration, and guides you towards your life goals.

Think which is the loudest in your head the inner critic, or the inner coach? Are you your own coach or your own worst enemy? If you think about it, it is a lot easier to criticise and be harsh on yourself than to go out there and do something constructive. The reason why most people don’t achieve what they want in life is because they listen to much to the inner critic. The People that do make something of themselves listen more to their inner coach.

The Inner Coach – The Voice of Self Belief

The best thing then is to develop your inner coach. When you do this you will then be making your mind work for you and not against you. Just think for a moment about how amazing the human brain is. Even the most intelligent people only use about 10% to 12% of their brain power. The brain is more powerful than all the worlds computers put together. The brain has within it almost unlimited power. What a shame it is then not to use it for personal development. Everyone has the chance to be extraordinary, yet so many people just sit in the darkness all because they are unable to change their limiting beliefs about themselves.

Author – Dion Daly

Dion Daly is a certified trainer in hypnosis, a master practitioner in NLP and TLT. He also has a degree in metaphysics.

The Secret is…. LOA (Law of Attraction)

law-of-attraction1. We all work with one infinite power

2. The Secret is the Law of Attraction (LOA)

3. Whatever is going on in your mind is what you are attracting

4. We are like magnets – like attract like. You become AND attract what you think

5. Every thought has …a frequency. Thoughts send out a magnetic energy

6. People think about what they don’t want and attract more of the same

7. Thought = creation. If these thoughts are attached to powerful emotions (good or bad) that speeds the creation

8. You attract your dominant thoughts

9. Those who speak most of illness have illness, those who speak most of prosperity have it..etc..

10. It’s not “wishful” thinking.

11. You can’t have a universe without the mind entering into it

12. Choose your thoughts carefully .. you are a masterpiece of your life

13. It’s OK that thoughts don’t manifest into reality immediately (if we saw a picture of an elephant and it instantly appeared, that would be too soon)

14. EVERYTHING in your life you have attracted .. accept that fact .. it’s true.

15. Your thoughts cause your feelings

16. We don’t need to complicate all the “reasons” behind our emotions. It’s much simpler than that. Two categories .. good feelings, bad feelings.

17. Thoughts that bring about good feelings mean you are on the right track. Thoughts that bring about bad feelings means you are not on the right track.

18. Whatever it is you are feeling is a perfect reflection of what is in the process of becoming

19. You get exactly what you are FEELING

20. Happy feelings will attract more happy circumstances

The power to manifest the life you desire.

mind_powerCan you imagine what could emerge in the world if all of us were living the life of our grandest dreams?

It would be great! Yet there seems to be a large gap between what most of us want and what we really get.

Have you ever found yourself feeling helpless because your doctor can’t seem to figure out your illness or ailment? Or your therapist understands what the problem is (even tells you how to fix it) but no matter how hard you consciously try, you keep making the same mistakes.

The power to manifest the life you desire is truly inside you – in your subconscious mind.  And I’m living proof that Focused and Intention is one of the most effective ways to access and clear old subconscious patterns that are holding you back from the life you really want.

My personal healing journey has been one of triumph over adversity but I would not honestly change a single event in my life.   Each moment – good or bad – has contributed to deepening my inner knowing so I can share my gifts with the world. For the past 20 years I have made it my personal mission to create a safe place on Earth so people can journey to their full potential with comfort and integrity.  Through my own personal growth the Creator has shown me the way to loving teachers with powerful healing modalities.

Our beliefs are magnetic forces that attract or repel things from us. The Law of Attraction, popularized by the movie The Secret, states that the imagination of sensory detail of our future life and the things that we wish to have in our life actually cause their manifestation – because the universe attracts to us all things that are in harmony with the mental and emotional energies of our projection.

This is a law of the energetic universe – like energies attract like energies. Create energy with your mind and the universe answers with the same kind of energy. The better you craft your energetic ideas, the more elaborate the universe’s response will be.

The catch is our subconscious mind puts out energy of enormous magnitude, dwarfing whatever our conscious mind projects. Crippling and limiting beliefs in the subconscious prevent us from manifesting what we consciously want. Therefore, however inspiring it may be, it is not enough to watch The Secret or read dozens of books published on this basic law of nature, unless you access and improve the contents of your subconscious mind.

With focus and intention healing you can connect with your source and produce profound changes in your subconscious beliefs and your life.

One man I worked with had the belief: “It’s not safe to speak my true feelings.”  Each and every time he tried, he was overcome with heavy guilt and shame. On numerous occasions he tried changing the belief with positive thinking and with the law of attraction but he never had lasting results. When we got to the core of his belief using focus and intention he instantly felt a weight being lifted from his shoulders. He regained his self confidence and was able to speak what he needed without the heavy weight of guilt.   His conscious mind was no longer being fed a command from his subconscious mind that is was unsafe to share his feelings.   After he felt safe and confident when the limiting belief system was changed and he was finally able to take care of his personal needs which included getting out of a five year abusive relationship.

We develop beliefs at a very early age from our caregivers, our experiences and our environments. These beliefs are stored in our subconscious mind which then plays the same tapes over and over. This is why we tend to react the same old ways, even in new situations.

The great news is that we have the ability to consciously evaluate our responses to environmental stimuli and change old responses. According to the holistic model our being is made up of spiritual, mental, emotional and physical aspects.  What we believe affects what we think, what we feel and what we do. Science now confirms that our beliefs even profoundly and directly affect our biology!

For example, if I don’t BELIEVE people can be trusted, I might think people want to hurt me. If I THINK people want to hurt me that is going to affect how I FEEL because energy follows thought.  If I feel fear towards people, that will affect the choices I make and what I DO. If I fear relationships, I will not let people get close physically which could lead to feeling disconnected and alone or create health problems. Once I become aware of how this belief affects me I can change my belief with Theta Healing to create a broader conscious awareness.

Events that happened in our life that we don’t finish processing get held in our energetic field on all levels. These unfinished events have a big hidden influence on many of the choices we make and the things we do or don’t do.

The trick to getting rid of unwanted beliefs and values is to be able to learn how to spot them.  First, pay attention when something happens that ‘pushes your buttons.’  Second, stop and listen inside. The secret is in the momentary gap – AFTER the outside event and BEFORE your feelings about it.

When we stimulate the mind and clear negative thought impulses, we can raise the vibration of the brain action to a place in which new creative solutions to problems arise and you are able to manifest anything that you wish to attract into your life.

Every time you identify the belief and use focus and intention on yourself or others you are bringing more balance to your life and raising your vibration level because the more negative thought impulses you clear out from your subconscious, the more you will connect to this creative flow. When you no longer are RE-acting toward life, you begin to become present to the infinite possibilities held in each moment.

I imagine that some of you may have thought: “I’d love to change, but I don’t know how.” Some of you are probably scared to take steps to change, while some of you have just been waiting for the right time. Well now is that right time. I want to invite you to take the opportunity to remove an obstacle that’s been in your way, take on an issue that you’ve been ignoring, address one of your integrity issues, find the courage to get help with one of your addictions, uncover one of your biggest lies, give up a grudge or an insecurity, face one of your biggest fears, and to be able to enthusiastically finish this sentence: “Thank God I finally handled__________________!”

Note: This information is for educational purposes only. It is intended to supplement your current health program and not to replace the care of a doctor.  For diagnosis or treatment of any disease please consult a licensed physician.

 

Loretta MohlLoretta MohlAbout the Author:

Loretta Mohl, Coach, Author & Founder FIT

Loretta has spent the past 25 years living and promoting heart-centered consciousness. She is the founder of the Canadian College of Healing Arts and the Focused Intention Technique™; both are dedicated to providing a service which awakens the individual’s Unlimited Potential. Since her introduction to energy healing in the late 80s, she has studied many formal and natural healing approaches. After those years of study and much reflection, she formulated Focused Intention Technique™ (FIT™) utilizing many elements from her life’s work and drawing deeply from her own instincts. She named this dynamic healing modality, Focused Intention Technique™, because it so perfectly describes what she knows to be the absolute truth: The body knows how to heal itself and by just activating intention and focus, the body will do the rest.   Check our blog http://justlivingyourlife.com or website at www.lorettamohl.com for more information or to recieve your free meditation journey.

How faith affects the outcome of our desires

stepfaithIs there something deep in your heart that over rules all other feelings? Something that you just can’t get out of your mind? It might even be something that you try to push away. Sometimes we even know that it is so farfetched, so farfetched that all the odds are against us. Other people and even our own minds can go against it. That something is called desire. It is just something that you cannot explain.

When we think of the word desire, we tend to think that what we desire is something that is going to always make us happy. It is true that having our desire fulfilled will make us happy, but sometimes in order to get our desires we have to go through a lot of pain and struggles to get there.
How do we know it is a true desire?

Well if it is something that you can feel in your heart, something that is so much stronger than anything else it is desire. If you try to give up on it, because it seems that your desire will never come to pass, and the next thing you know it has made its way to your heart again, that is a desire. Sometimes we do not even want to have the desires that we have. It sounds strange but it’s true. If it is something that can change our plans, or make us work a little harder than usual then we might not even want it. But if we sit and think about it, the outcome would really make us happy. Let’s say that deep in our heart we desire starting our own business. Yes this is something that you have always thought about. But right now you have two kids and a spouse. Starting your own business right now is not feasible. It would be too risky. You have a job that is getting you by, and you are doing ok for yourself. Your life is not bad. But you can’t stop thinking about owning your own business. It is always in the back of your mind. You even try not to think about it for a long time. At one point you even thought it was forgotten. Then all of a sudden you start thinking about it again. That is your desire. That is what you really want. That is the dream that you must go after. Let me just warn you that if what is in your heart is a true desire, and you never act on it, it will be there for the rest of your life. Only you can fulfil the desire of your heart. You can choose to live with or without it. Even if you choose to live without, it doesn’t mean your life will be bad. It just means it won’t be the best it could be.
Here is where faith comes into play.

Having faith has a lot to do with achieving your desires. If you do not believe it will happen then it won’t. It is as simple as that. Faith is a knowing that even though the situation looks impossible, it is not. It is a knowing that at the right time and place it will happen. And you just can’t have faith for a week, say it has not happened and give up. No faith takes a lot of strength and a lot of discipline on your part. It means going against the odds, going against others opinions and at time even going against your own opinion. Well then why bother going through all this if achieving my desire is going to be so hard? The answer is that achieving your desire in the end will be so worth it. Do you realize how much happier you would be doing the thing or things that you truly desire? While our minds analyze things our hearts know things. Our hearts know things that our own minds cannot comprehend. It is always smart to make wise choices and decisions, but ignoring our hearts will most of the time let great opportunities pass us by.
By having faith you allow yourself to KNOW that this is possible.

It allows you to do the things you need to do in order to achieve your goal. We will use the business desire as an example. Ok, now you understand that owning your own business is your desire. If we have faith that it will happen, then we will do all we can do at this point in time to make it happen. We will work harder on achieving it. We might set up a certain amount of time each day to start planning. We might stop buying the extra donuts at the supermarket so that we can save a little extra money to get things started. If you have no faith, if you do not believe that it will happen, then you will do nothing about it and it won’t. Another example; we will use a pro football player. More than likely if you are a pro football player that is something you have always desired. It was something that was always in your heart. You worked for it because you really wanted it. You trained a lot and did not get to do a lot of things that other kids your age did because you were always working on getting better. You desired to be a pro. Did that desire come easily? 99% of the time the answer is no. It had to be something they really wanted and something they really worked for.

Now do you think this pro football player lacks faith? Do you think that he believes that he cannot win the game? What would happen if he had no faith in himself? He would lose. He wouldn’t even try. What would be the point in doing something you had no faith in? There would be no point.
So how will achieving my desires really make a difference?

Think about it like this. If there is something that you really want and you work really hard in order to get it, it will make you feel like you have never felt before. There is a difference between wants’ and desires. I really want that purse. And yes that purse will make me feel good, I might even really like it, but buying a purse is not going to change my life. I basically just had to put in on the counter and buy it. That wasn’t that hard to do. One day that purse is going to end up in the closet with the other 100 purses I have. It was just a want. But if you have had to overcome a lot of struggle a lot of obstacles and had to put in a lot of work then it is going to be something that you really treasure forever. It will be something that you never want to throw to the back of your closet. It was your desire and you achieved it! When something comes for free it is not appreciated as much as something we work for. If you won a million dollars in the lottery, I am sure you would be very happy, but let’s say you worked really hard all of your life and made your first million dollars. You are more likely to spend your money wisely if you worked for it than if you had won it. If you won it you are more likely to go on a huge shopping spree and buy things you really do not need. This is usually not the case when there was a lot of effort on your part. You will make better choices and appreciate things a lot more if you had to actually work to obtain the things you desire. So go ahead and start working on the things you desire. Do not worry if you don’t achieve it today or even tomorrow. With faith you can make it happen!

 

Written by Jennifer Maldonado www.jennshealthstore.com

Why do people believe what they want to believe not what they should or must believe is a question some people ask.

 Well I will begin with this…!

You cannot make people believe what they do not want to believe
You cannot make people feel what they do not want to feel
You cannot make people see what they do not want to see
You cannot make people hear what they do not want to hear
You cannot make people do what they do not want to do
All of these things they must do for themselves…..

Billions of people fail to live the life they have always wished to live. They fail to realize their ambitions and give up on their big dreams as soon as they encounter the first obstacle. One of the strongest reasons for this attitude is that these people do not believe in themselves and let their fears rule them.

Believing in yourself is being sure that you are going to do whatever you put your mind to, even if others are against you. Usually, when you decide to take a big challenge or do something that they failed to do, you will find that everyone is putting you down. Under the pressure of this criticism some of us start to doubt our own abilities and eventually give up. The few that manage to believe in themselves and continue down the path they’ve chosen will be the ones that bask in the glory of success.

 Final Words

If you don’t believe in yourself you will end up discarding your ideas and no one will remember you. On the other hand, if you believe in yourself and continue fighting for what you want, people may reject your ideas or even you  in the beginning, but will be forced to believe in you in the end after seeing you succeed……. ☆҉‿↗⁀☆҉☆ Love, luck and peace to you all ☆҉‿↗⁀☆҉☆Joanne ☆҉↘‿↗⁀☆҉ .

 Written by Joanne Wellington for Mediums World                                            

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