How to overcome negative thoughts.

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How to overcome negative thoughts.

Negative thoughts make us feel down and gloomy. We all know that negativity will destroy us, but we still do it- we think negative, and we behave negatively. To a certain extent, we all worsen our situations just by taking things to another level in our minds. And even though we know that it’s not helping us, we still somehow find ourselves stuck in the spiral of negative thoughts that recur again and again, following different patterns.

Thinking negative is like wearing dirty and dark glasses, because it fogs our vision and gives us a highly distorted image of reality. When you are thinking negative, you can’t find joy in life as your entire mindset convinces you that joy and happiness are not an option for you, and even if you are feeling some happiness, it is only temporary.

Negative thinking leads to negative actions, which creates a wall between you and your friends or other people around you. No matter how kind and open others may be to you, you will not be able to trust them if you do not have a positive outlook towards life. Your negativity will lead you into thinking that their kindness isn’t real, and their good behaviour will not last for long.

An especially harmful situation arises when a person enters a stage that is sometimes called the ‘negative negativity’. In this situation, a person is aware of his negative thinking-so much so, that he actually knows the exact pattern of his negative thinking. He is aware that this thinking is destructive for him, and thus he goes into guilt for feeling so negative. And this trap of guilt proves to be even more harmful as it leads to more of negativity.

Yes, it does sound grim. This situation promotes negativity to a higher degree, and creates a spiral. Negative thinking patterns aren’t naturally acquired- they are learned.

When we get the light of positivity, we can see the negativity clearly without giving ourselves a bad time mulling over it. This is when we decide to change ourselves and our way of thinking. It lightens up the heavy burden on our personality.

Here are five great ways to defeat negative thinking:

1. Use breathing techniques

After every few minutes, pause your work and just breathe. Concentrate on your breathing and feel yourself breathe. Enjoy the goodness of things that surround you. If you do this often, you will be more in touch with your inner self and feel tremendous energy, which will purify any negative thinking.

2. Keep a log about negative thinking

Carry a notebook with you. Whenever you feel that you are experiencing a negative pattern, just note it down along with whatever thoughts you are having and the cause behind them. Then after a couple of weeks, sit down and go through that notebook. Try to find some common themes that encourage negative thoughts in you. This will make you more aware about yourself.

3. Do stuff that you like

Take some time out from your schedule and enjoy your life a bit. Do things that make you happy. Everyone wants to be happy, but they mostly can’t find time for it. Take a vacation this weekend, go for long walks in the park, go out for dinner or movie, or get a relaxing massage. Just slow down the pace and give yourself some peace of mind.

4. Appreciate the little things

Learn to see the brighter side of life. Be thankful for who you are and what you have. Keep in mind that no matter what happens in your life, it is still possible to gaze up and behold the magic that is around you. Acknowledge the simple joys of life, like feeling of cool breeze on your skin, or how amazing the universe is. When you appreciate goodness, negativity dissolves away.

5. Spread the joy

Kindness never goes unrewarded. But somehow we all have forgotten this old saying. It is the greatest medicine that eases aching minds and hearts. When you make someone else happy, you get happiness in return. Generosity puts a sure end to negativity and generosity doesn’t have to be always shown. Try leaving the best parking spot for someone else. Or maybe clean up the office lunch room someday, and don’t let anybody know who did it. Doing small things like these will wash away your negativity and you will start feeling good about yourself.

If you be kind in this way, you release positive energy. Even if nobody gets to know about your generous acts, it will cheer you up and you’ll feel better from the inside. This will make you less negative and you will experience personal growth. Follow these simple points honestly and you’ll find a huge difference in less than a month.

Life is perpetual, creative and expansive. It continually creates itself within each moment, so remain attuned to the energy of the moment.

Tony Fahkry – About the Author:

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Raising Others Up

We all have those around us that we love and care about. So, naturally when we experience growth, we want our loved ones to grow with us. Except they don’t always want to come along. This is an area of frustration for many people, especially those on a path of spiritual growth.

Why don’t they see it? The first area of confusion is “why wouldn’t they?” We just don’t understand why someone we love wouldn’t choose our current mode of feeling good. Why we’ve discovered the answer, we think, and I’ve got to share it with everyone!

But the problem is they don’t see things the same from where they are. And words don’t teach anyway. The best you can do is to BE the answer. Or rather, be the example of a happy, spiritually growing person who is connected to Source Energy. In their own time, they will see it, and ask you for help. And voilá: ask and it is given.

You may ask: Is there nothing at all I can do to help my loved ones? Well, actually there are a few things that you can do right now that will immediately impact and help those around you.

One: Appreciate. Find something to appreciate in the people you love everyday. Anything you can focus your attention upon that calls up the quality of appreciation in you is perfect. Doesn’t matter what it is. Because when you are “tuned in” while focusing on them – they benefit. How this works is the subject for another day. Just try it and see for yourself.

Two: Listen. When you practice the great art of listening, your world takes on a new perspective. You are better able to understand your loved one as well as appreciate them. Listening is one of the highest forms of love. Think of the people who really listen to you. Love them, don’t you?

Three: Keep the focus on you. You are the only person you can change. You can alter your thoughts and therefore change your life! This is the great news of our generation and this “age of enlightenment” that we are experiencing. So whenever you are disturbed, even if that disturbance is your observation of your loved one “gone wrong” — turn your focus back to you. Calm your own disturbance and find a way to love and accept more, judge less. And all will surely be well.

Uplifting others is a beautiful thing, but it takes a little finesse to accomplish. Develop these three practices, by doing them everyday and the change in your relationships will not be lost on you. And those loved ones…they will love it!

Christina Watson is a dynamic prosperity life coach. She helps her clients discover their own path to prosperity. Christina believes that every person has the power to transform their world and is committed to partnering with them to assist in that process.