The Adventure That Is Life

I was the oldest of four boys, and after our father died, mother supported us by taking in sewing. We were quite poor. I got an afterschool job as the janitor in a factory; it was the only way I’d have any money.

what's-your-storyAfter a couple of years I got bored with that, so I beat the pavement to just about every business in our small Ontario town. I found a job hammering nails. The cut in pay from $.40 per hour to $.30 per hour was worth it for the new experience. Unfortunately, this was to be a short-lived adventure; my new boss found out I was only 13, and child labor laws kicked in. I went back to my afterschool sweeping and toilets and kept a low profile…

My mother had always wanted me to go to university, but she died in a car crash when I was 16. Nevertheless, the janitoring and summer jobs financed my big adventure of going off to university. I was the first from my mother’s side to do so.

I had come to realize by the time I was 12 that I could choose to look at my life as a series of crises: drowning and resuscitation, abduction and torture, abduction and sexual abuse, father dying, poverty, my teacher labeling me “slow.” Alternatively, I could choose to look at my life as a series of adventures: solo hiking and exploring, hitchhiking to Toronto to spend a week each year at the CNE, long bicycling adventures, building a boat and riding the spring floodwaters amidst the ice jams on the local river, learning to hunt with a 12-gauge shotgun. I chose adventure over crisis.

When you are confronted with a life event, you are given a choice as to how you interpret it. And let’s face it; life has its ups and downs.

A “down” could be a disaster like a marriage failure… or the opening for the adventure of remarriage. I’ve been blessed with that adventure twice.

Another not uncommon disaster is a job loss or business failure that leads to the loss of your hard-earned material possessions. However, losing our business, our house and our vehicles cut our material ties to the east and led to the adventure of starting over on the west coast. Without the business crash two decades ago, my adventures in writing might never have begun.

Family is one of life’s big adventures, and three of my adult children dying in the last five years have been tragic. However, the time before each one died was one of deep mutual reconnection and re-bonding as we said our goodbyes… and that has been another blessing.

The nature of adventure changes with the lifecycle. I gave up motorcycle adventure touring a couple of years ago (downgraded to four wheels) and am now much more focused on my healing work and internet outreach work.

I invite you to reflect on the positive adventures of your life that have arisen from the ashes of the not so positive.

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 – About the Author:

Psychologist Dr. Neill Neill maintains an active practice on Vancouver Island, BC, Canada, with a focus on healthy relationships and life after addictions. He is the author of Living with a Functioning Alcoholic – A Woman’s Survival Guide.  Get a copy of his free report “Codependency and Alcohol Addiction” at www.neillneill.com,

Responsibility and Blame

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Responsibility and Blame

What is the difference between responsibility and blame? The most basic answer to that question is judgment; when you blame you judge. According to Merriam Webster, responsibility is defined as the quality or state of being responsible as a: moral, legal, or mental accountability. Blame, however, is defined by finding fault with someone or something.  The most obvious difference when examining these definitions is judgment. If someone blames you for something, they have found fault with something that you have done or some decision that you made. If you are to blame then something you have said or done has caused an adverse or undesired outcome.

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Change Hurts…..

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Re-post of origional article…..

Change hurts. It makes people insecure, confused, and angry. People want things to be the same as they’ve always been, because that makes life easier, they feel safer.  But, in doing so it creates a “limbo world” no one learns, moves forward or grows. Fears are not faced and therefore never overcome, others may be held in positions that are unhealthy or uncomfortable, preventing their own natural growth, people should learn from but not hold on to the past.

The problem isn’t that we have problems.


The problem isn’t that we have problems. The problem is we’ve become weak. and we make most of the problems ourselves. There’s far too many people looking for “someone” or some “thing” to blame for their lot or stages in life. We’ve become a world consisting of a self-serving, hedonistic life-style that only breeds further contempt, shame, cynicism, and fear…HATERS, Look…

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How much do you love your kids?

“How much do you love your children? Because attracting the wrong people into their lives is on your head! meaning the type of friends and people you choose to be around you and your children”

 

Setting the right foundations from the very beginning, from the moment they start watching you is so important, and continuing throughout as they grow. It is an important part of our parenting involving making decisions making sure your children are not surrounded by the wrong type of people. I mean come on your not stupid  you know what I mean  if you have major selfish ‘me me me’ drama kings  or queens around your children .. That is not taking responsibility is it!  Having responsibilities and having duties to perform in keeping our kids safe at all times is one of our main priorities.

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Our Conscious And Subconscious Mind

Have you tried to change a bad habit, or try to motivate yourself, only to find out something deep inside your mind resisting? A basic law of the mind is working here: whenever the conscious and subconscious mind is at odds, your subconscious usually wins. This is the law of conflict.

Brain LevelsPeople usually change their habits through will power or through self-discipline. While they do work in some cases, most of us fail miserably. Logic works well with the conscious mind, but it often does not with the subconscious. Meditation or subconscious programming helps the subconscious mind. The conscious and subconscious mind displays different aspect of our mind.

Dynamic meditation is a simple process that most of us can do. It doesn’t cost much or require too much effort, yet the outcome is persuasive. It simply combines suggestion and imaginative visualization in a relaxed state of mind. The first thing to do is simply get to relax and imagine the desired traits or circumstance. This is combined with affirmation or suggestion constructed in present tense.

To understand how the conscious and subconscious mind works, first we must understand the 4 states of the mind. We are in what is called the beta state for almost all of our waking hours. Our mind radiates these waves when we think, reason or engaged in some problem solving. As our brain waves slow down, we enter what is called the alpha state of mind. The portal in our conscious and subconscious mind is opened. This allows access to memories and storing new information. This is also often regarded as meditative state, in which the mind and body become so relaxed. We are also at our most suggestible state.

Below the two types of conscious states is the theta, this is the dream state, and delta, which is basically us in deep sleep or unconscious. At alpha and theta state our words have extremely increased power. These are the two areas where controlled meditation is focused.

Why does controlled meditation work on the conscious and subconscious mind? There are six reasons as the Rules of The Mind as professed by the late Charles Tebbets.

First, every thought or idea causes a physical reaction.The mind has the capability to make you sick or keep you healthy. Ideas with a strong emotional component almost will reach the subconscious mind.

Second, what’s expected to happen tends to be realized. The brain and the entire nervous system responds only to mental images, whether self-induced or from the surroundings. The image formed becomes the template, and the conscious and subconscious mind carries out the thought.

Third, Imagination rules. Imagination overcomes knowledge when dealing with the mind. Ideas accompanied by a strong emotion state like anger or love cannot be modified through reason.

Fourth, Conflicting ideas cannot be kept simultaneously. Many people try to hold opposing ideas at the same time.

Fifth, Once an idea has been accepted by the conscious and subconscious mind, it will remain until another idea comes to fore. The longer an idea is held, the more it takes a hold of the mind. Forming into a habit or belief system .

Sixth, Emotionally induced sign tends to cause physical change if held onto long enough. We are a mind in a body and just like the conscious and subconscious mind the two cannot be separated.

This simple and safe process of controlled meditation combined with faith, hope, and passion, this allows for a healthier conscious and subconscious mind.

 

 

 

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