Don’t let the ugly in others kill the beauty in you!

Please don't let the ugly in others kill the beauty in you. Sometimes, we are surrounded by people who hold negativity in them naturally and make us feel the same with their presence.
don’t let the ugly

Please don’t let the ugly in others kill the beauty in you.

Sometimes, we are surrounded by people who hold negativity in them naturally and make us feel the same with their presence. Do not let this happen; make sure you are keeping yourself away from such toxic people and gatherings they will wear you down! And you will start to become toxic yourself without even realising it until its too late. Shield and protect yourself at all times. “Surround yourself, only with good vibes.” And if its the case that people are hating on you, don’t let that bring you down either. My whole life this has happened to me with my family situation!

Are people hating on you?

Are they trying to keep you down?

PLEASE CONTINUE HERE!

I love my kids! How much do you love your kids!!

 I love my kids! How much do you love your kids!! Because attracting the wrong people into their lives is on your head! meaning the type of friends and people you choose to be around you and your children”
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I love my kids! How much do you love your kids!!

How much do you love your children? Because attracting the wrong people into their lives is on your head! meaning the type of friends and people you choose to be around you and your children”

Setting the right foundations from the very beginning, from the moment they start watching you is so important, and continuing throughout as they grow. It is an important part of our parenting involving making decisions making sure your children are not surrounded by the wrong type of people.

I mean come on your not stupid  you know what I mean  if you have major selfish ‘me me me’ drama kings  or queens around your children .. That is not taking responsibility is it!  Having responsibilities and having duties to perform in keeping our kids safe at all times is one of our main priorities.

Sometimes we may wonder how to achieve a balance with these different demands they are conflicting for many people the first step to finding a balance is by holding a positive mind-set around them even through the bad, the bad is there for a reason it helps change our way of thinking for the better but that’s for us not our children, their time will come later on in life  …You have to believe  “(positive mind set)” in you in the people you associate with and around  is the best start for your children.

In “Parenting with Love and Logic” by Fay and Cline, they describe a child who needs to know their parents love them by setting firm limits. Children push their parents to see if they are going to be consistent, because if they are, the child will feel safe and stable, but if not, they will actually feel insecure and anxious growing up.

The authors liken this to a child leaning against a wall to see if it will hold up and not crumble; if they push against the wall and it crumbles, the child realizes that very little in life is stable and secure. At the same time, a wall is not going to push against the child either, it is not going to fall on top of them or hurt them, it just stands firm. Just as our children yearn for stability, we desire the same as adults.

“In all things that you can buy you will get what you paid for… In children, you will get back what values you put into them”.

Children, unfortunately do not come with “time-outs,” however, their needs must be met. In those times I have always managed to pick myself back up and continue to be the capable human being my children deserve and what they have helped make me today. Don’t worry that children never listen to you; WORRY  that they are always  WATCHING YOU ! And as your children get older  If you have never been hated by your child at some point you have never been a parent.

I wont lie I have made mistakes we all make mistakes. It is part of the learning process. Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything  new to better their life. Are you the kind of person who can learn from those mistakes?

I love my kids! How much do you love your kids!!

Really think about the kinds of values you would want to install in your children. The brain of a child is like a little sponge, it will soak everything up, hold it for as long as it can and then it will wring itself back out. If you want what comes back out of their sponge to be clean for them, then guess what? You need to be completely accountable for your actions. If you are not ready for near total accountability, you are not ready to have children.

I am a capable human being but there have certainly been times where I have literally curled up into a corner and had myself good, heart-wrenching sobs. In those moments I felt there was no possible way I could continue to go on doing what needed to be done but if you love and care for your children in a natural way you should do you will  always end up were you are needed to end up.

Happiness and comfort’ is a choice Life is a choice. It is YOUR life and you are the start of your child’s/children’s life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness for you and them.

THINK!╰დ╮❤╭დ╯SEE!  KNOW! ~J.Wellington ~

How to stay grounded

2012…. Don’t be afraid to ask WHY!

2012.... Don't be afraid to ask WHY! Why do we exist?

2012…. Don’t be afraid to ask WHY!

From the black Eames chair that I have sat in as a therapist for well over 10,000 hours, 2012 parades forth as the catalyst humans need to jar them from their slumber.  Blessings to the Mayans for their implantation of an alarm bell into the future collective consciousness of humanity.

Whether they have predicted the end of times, the beginning of a new spiritual era or nothing at all, we should not delay the existential question most everyone avoids in order to focus on thoughts that keep their self-concept and lives in tact.  Now, let’s ask:

Why do you exist?

Unfortunately for my hapless parents and tolerant friends, I have asked myself this question dozens of times a day from far (far) too young an age.  I ask this question of others for a living and when bored at social gatherings to receive countless blank stares accompanied by the white noise emitted from their overloaded machinery.

The majority’s momentum requires you not ask this basic question.  Life, like molasses, tastes dense and yummy, sucks you in and dumps you into a sugar coma.  Satiated with daily routine and dramatic life turns that we blame on others, life drips by drop by drop.

Why do you exist?

It’s not a scary question, yet 99.9% of humanity waits until they’re ill, on their deathbed or not even then to wonder what we’re doing here. Ask when you’re young, lucid, in good health, still have choices, before you procreate, marry and divorce.

This year, the Mayans dare us to consider the purpose of our existence before it’s too late. We may never know whether their assertion/prediction/invitation is real or not. Yet, we can use it as a tool to recover the inquiry that remains buried under the debris of our lives, beating a rhythm deep in our hearts.  Even as we run from errand to errand, job to home, job at home, laundry, market, dishes, Monday to Friday and Sunday night, again too soon, it’s within us awaiting our attention.

No one wants us to ask.   The world is against it, because the “Why?” contradicts society’s celebrated accomplishments and journeys. Measure, know and scour the material and anti-material energy that comprises everything outside of you to define you, others and your life’s value.

Revered as one of the greatest minds of our time, Steven Hawking’s work wholly concerns itself with the measurement and definition of the endless, unknowable outermost-reaches of the external world.  No human will ever be able to confirm his life’s work.

NASA and its Kepler telescope seek to locate habitable, Earth-like planets.  They’ve discovered numerous, though none of us will ever visit any of them.  Millions of dollars and endless Earth resources spent searching for nothing knowable and incomprehensible to most. Despite my best efforts, I cannot fathom its relevance to any moment of my life.

Our only certainty lives alone, enclosed within our minds, through our perceptions, memories, hopes and moments. Yet we hold our certain truth against the structure and rules that we instructed are real, what society exalts, what we can define and measure.

We stay imprisoned for fear of ridicule and the potential destruction of our relationships and the lives we know.  We live as if a single phone call or a moment in time will not provide the definitive push needed to consider the reason for our existence.

As I write this, my beloved friend approaches death in hospice annoyed that her friends and family are making her transition about themselves. Goodbyes said last week, her room filled with ipads and twitter tweets. She says nothing because she still doesn’t want to upset anyone.  Who cares? They are upset and will be upset any way.

It doesn’t have to be that dramatic if you start today.  Telling yourself that what you do, who you marry, what others think of you defines you or your existence creates a life filled with anxiety, fear and a primal terror.

Countless times I asked friends and clients to strip down what they fear most and have heard:

“People finding out.”

“Finding out what?”

“That I’m not who they think I am.”

Why are we taught to care what others think of us? The prison of societal expectation, real or fabricated, becomes a dangerous shelter in our life, on our way to death.

Solar flares illuminate the atmosphere and reveal the Northern Lights. Under their brightness, take a moment and allow yourself to wonder why you exist in this form, your specific body, with your talents, at this time, where you live. Why?

Dump the Western Psychotherapeutic inquiry of “Who are you?” for “Why are you here, as you, right now?”  The latter inquiry subsumes the former and gives it intention and purpose.

Why we exist includes an other, whether a person, a cause, a purpose that pushes us forward in our development.  It doesn’t need to earn you an Oscar, a spot in the NBA or a billion dollars.  If you feel compelled to love the 100 year-old oak tree outside your house, then exist for that tree.

There is no wrong answer.

No one needs to know.  It can be your secret inquiry.  Too much of mass culture has mocked the question and killed it before its birth.  Humans evolved to need another’s enthusiastic waves of proverbial pompons to ratify action or thought.  We don’t need it.  Ask what brings you your specific joy and, in time, acting upon it will provide comfort and celebration.

My inquiry led me to what lies in the depth, if not the breadth, of this life.  For me, the action which resulted is to give good love.  A consistent, open, humorous and real support that allows others to flourish and live more out loud and less alone in this ever-expanding universe than without my presence.  I exist to love and believe all of us do.

Love that tree, your neighbor, your garden, lost cats, singing, your children, the Dali Lama, baking, Jesus Christ, travel, Bill Maher, little league baseball, cashmere sweaters or medical research.  It doesn’t matter, if you grow from it.

Last Sunday, seven hours of playoff football on television was the best way I knew how to love myself, which allowed me to love others the next day.

Stay focused on the question. 

After you ask and ask, time no longer speeds passed you.  Monday feels like a week, filled with ebbs, flows, joy, stillness, stress, anger and nothing.  All in one day.  No one wants to live a life they don’t remember living.

Dare yourself to ask the question often.  Don’t require action. Your inquiry will lead you step by step.

Somehow the action or the “do” finds you if you stick to the question, give yourself time to answer and accept the answer.  The action doesn’t have to be vast, glamorous or even profitable.  I doubt we get points over there for any of that. We’re created in these individual bodies to discover what lies within, not outside of it.

 

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Mala Mukherji – About the Author:

 

Bio of Mala Mukherji

Born in Los Angeles, California to parents, who immigrated from Calcutta, India, Mala Mukherji began studying the differences between Indian and American cultures from an early age.  Frequent and early trips to India and being raised in Covina, a homogeneous suburb of Los Angeles created the perfect climate for Mala’s future pursuits.

While attending the University of California at Los Angeles, she studied the psychological and sociological impacts of the politics and histories of numerous cultures.  After receiving her degree from U.C.L.A., she attended Pepperdine University School of Law, where she concentrated on issues relating to individual rights.  After passing the California State Bar Examination, Mala practiced law in the Los Angeles area for over eight years.

Throughout her law career, Mala studied and explored Western psychological theory and Eastern philosophy and their practical application to the individual’s experiences.  As a result of those studies, Mala left law practice and created a modality of spiritual psychological therapy, which combines Eastern and Western theory.  She has maintained a thriving therapeutic practice for the past eleven years.  Her clients include numerous leaders in the areas of sports, business and entertainment.

Having worked as a therapist for eleven years and over  10,000 thousand hours, Mala researched and discovered what allows and motivates individuals to grow.  Because not everyone has the resources to partake in therapy, she wrote ASHES, which provides women and men a vehicle by which they may consider the events of their life and how those events effect them in present day.

A reason why we do not regard others as precious.

A reason why we do not regard others as precious.

A reason why we do not regard others as precious.

“A reason why we do not regard others as precious is that we pay great attention to their faults whilst ignoring their positive qualities. Unfortunately we have become very skilled in recognizing the faults of others, and we devote a great deal of mental energy to listing them, analysing them, and even meditating on them!

And then spend time putting others down. With this critical attitude, if we disagree with our partner, Lover or colleagues about something, instead of trying to understand their point of view we repeatedly think of many reasons why we are right and they are wrong. By focusing exclusively on their faults and limitations we become angry and resentful, and rather than cherishing them we develop the wish to harm or discredit them. Read more >>>“A reason why we do not regard others as precious..

Are you ready to embrace your humanity?

Many of us are on a spiritual path. We are relentlessly seeking, meditating,chanting, drumming and studying all sorts of modalities to help us heal or understand who we really are and what our true purpose is. Every day, I encounter such individuals serious about their journey, asking to further their spirituality and cosmic understanding. “I am eager to heal my deepest fears” they say, “and I want to release my blocks so that I may manifest my Earthly purpose and achieve enlightenment.” Fair enough.

energy-seeds-of-lightAs I begin to reprogram the deeply seated blocks and fears, I seem to always arrive to a bottom line, no matter who the person is, what spiritual background they may have or what the nature of their struggle may be. The bottom line is a conscious or unconscious resistance to our own physicality and the desire to escape this human form. We either feel we do not belong to the human species as we awaken to our superior “outer-worldly” lineage or in most cases, we simply abhor carrying a physical body that continuously reminds us of our human limitations and finite nature.

I also see the common struggle, the confusion and anger of having to engage in this physical journey. Often times, I observe serious resentment towards our own spirit family – even the Creator – and the strong desire to revoke and destroy this entire material existence. Even those most advanced in their awakening process, if given the opportunity to return to spirit at this very moment, will take it in a single breath. But why? And how could we awaken fully to our Earthly purpose or achieve enlightenment if we are not ourselves convinced of wanting to be a human in the first place? It is because we have not come to terms with our own physicality and truly understood what it entails.

 

Physicality is not only our physical body. It is holding the human form in a material reality that is an extension of a much larger universal consciousness. Also, this material existence and this human form are purposeful. Among many reasons, the purpose of your physical body is to provide a carrier for higher universal information to be implanted within the human frequency range and consciousness; Your physical body provides a unique access to the collective human consciousness that you could not otherwise access and more importantly transmute or elevate; Your physical body holds the key to your own awakening as you begin to balance your physical cells with the higher frequencies of your true universal DNA; And finally, your physical body allows you to implant a new DNA configuration that eventually becomes the future human species on Earth.

There are many views on the current and upcoming Earthly changes, in particular those related to the year 2012. Most seem to focus primarily on the geophysical changes occurring on the Earth. However, as I describe this topic in detail in my book “The Divine Plan: Beyond 2012”, these changes are multi-dimensional. In addition to the geophysical aspect, there are unprecedented solar and magnetic changes, galactic and universal re-alignments of the Earth Grid, the simultaneous arrival of new  universal beings from various parts of the multiverse and more importantly, the changes involve the entire re-configuration of the human species into a new highly evolved creation.

Through your physical presence and body, you are partaking in the making, refining and manifesting the future consciousness of this new species. In other words, you are the carrier of the future DNA of this human race and if that alone is not reason enough to begin considering your physical body as purposeful, if not sacred, I am not sure what is.

So if you want to truly awaken to your Earthly purpose, realize your divinity and fully master the human condition, begin loving your physical instrument and honoring your physicality. You may also simply invoke “Source Energy” to reprogram your cells and implement this fundamental transformation of your being. Source Energy or Source Frequency speeds up your awakening process drastically and allows your existence in human form to become a coherent and seamless extension of who you really are in spirit form rather than a temporary burdensome form that is irrelevant to your true essence. Source frequency connects you instantly with the energy of Love, Truth, Beauty and Goodness, the very fabric of your own Divine Creator that is now being brought to humanity by you and through your physical body.

Meditation to raise your vibration by Connecting to Source:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M4bo3yKO1IA

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–    About the Author:

Caroline Cory is a Teacher of Consciousness Studies, Spirituality and Energy Medicine. She is an International Speaker, Author and the Founder of the OMnium Method of Learning and Healing. These revolutionary techniques are based on experiential information that allows the spontaneous alignment of the physical cells and the human brain with the Universal-Source Frequency. This method provides an instant and permanent cellular reprogramming to the original universal blueprint so that healing or learning may occur organically.

Change Hurts…..

Change

Re-post of origional article…..

Change hurts. It makes people insecure, confused, and angry. People want things to be the same as they’ve always been, because that makes life easier, they feel safer.  But, in doing so it creates a “limbo world” no one learns, moves forward or grows. Fears are not faced and therefore never overcome, others may be held in positions that are unhealthy or uncomfortable, preventing their own natural growth, people should learn from but not hold on to the past.