“If you take your eyes off your goals, all you see are obstacles.”
“…You need to believe that you can affect circumstances and situations in your life in order to have the confidence and courage you’ll need to meet the many challenges you face.”
No one will believe in you until you believe in yourself. Create your own life and then go out and live it. Self confidence often becomes contagious and others will follow in your foot steps. As we get better, so do others.
Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a winner and a great individual and believe in yourself, Self-esteem is described as confidence in one’s own worth or abilities, and pertains to a personal appraisal of ourselves. Yet, unfortunately, we often make this evaluation based on cues we receive from society. In other words, we look to others to establish who we are, how we should behave, and how we’re valued, even though this societal reflection won’t be an accurate indicator of what we are made of.
Trying to measure up to a dominant mindset, antiquated cultural rules, or stigmatizing stereotypes that don’t serve you well isn’t the best plan. Using such subjective measuring devices may also explain why you don’t always feel like a good fit. Bottom line, try not to rely totally on the outside world to validate you. A better option is to equalize the playing field by believing in, and validating yourself.
Say the following words like a mantra. “I believe I am worth believing in.” Say these words every day. You’ll be amazed how the universe will contrive to make it so.
Changes in life are inevitable. One who accepts them and changes with them is the one who succeeds in life. There are instances in life when everything gets blocked and you find yourself helpless. In such a situation one who accepts it and tries to fight out new ways to overcome the situation emerges in flying colors. One who thinks that such a change has in fact left him to do nothing, can do nothing but brood over his misfortune. Working in new directions helps one find light.
Changes make life challenging and without a challenge life is boring. It is also very important to notice small changes early so that you can adapt to bigger changes easily. It is better to try new things than remain in a hopeless situation. Old beliefs do not lead you to new ideas. Hence, it is necessary to change. If change is anticipated, monitored, and quickly adapted to, then it becomes enjoyable as well. Some changes are harder then others no matter how you think you have prepared yourself and as you grow older and wiser, it does seem easier. Accepting ‘change’ allows us to grow and if we don’t grow we don’t really live. Change is important, as nothing in this world is permanent. However, change must be well managed in order to have a good effect.
BERNARD KOFI TURKSON – About the Author:
A MEDICAL HERBALIST WITH A DEGREE IN HERBAL MEDICINE. A LAY PASTOR WITH CHRISTIAN FAMILY ASSEMBLIES OF GOD,BUOKROM ESTATE,KUMASI/GHANA